Life's lessons
By raynejasper
@raynejasper (2322)
Philippines
September 7, 2010 1:58am CST
..Today, I've finally made a decision to reconsider my life and look back to the mistakes I've done.. I've realized that I have been giving too much of what I have and I had never consider my own happiness.. And I was hurt because my sacrifices wasn't comprehended at all.. So this time, I'd like to give myself a break and learn to live according to what makes me happy.. sometimes, in life, when we love, we tend to give it all.. and when we lost that someone, we also lost our self and become depressed.. This time around, I'd like to be positive and not dwell on the negative things I've experienced.. I will stand up and be strong.. Life has taught me several lessons that made me a better person.. and I will always remember that its not how we strongly fought a storm in our life, but its how we dance with the rain.. these are my important life lessons.. how about you, did you come to a point where you also tried to assess your life and reconsider some things to change or ponder on?
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27 responses
@formidexo (1351)
• Canada
9 Sep 10
I think that every so often it is good to analyze our life and see if we are achieving the things that are important to us. Is the direction we are heading get us where we want to go? Let's say one wants to be healthy. Are the things they are doing lead to a healthy life?
I think the most important thing in life is spirituality. Have we chosen the right spiritual path that will give us eternal life?
We need to see where we are, where we are going and will we be happy when we get there?
The ultimate goal is eternal life and eternal happiness.
I have several times in my life re-analyzed my life. At this point I'm going exactly where I want to go and am very sure of that.
I wish you long life and happiness!
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
7 Sep 10
Good for you to arrive at that decision. To finally make a stand and recognize what is important, and what makes you happy.
I envy you! I also would like to get to that point. Unfortunately, I can't. I don't know if I am not ready yet, or I just don't have a choice, yet. But my day will come, and I am looking forward to it.
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
..well, it took me a lot of pain and a long time before I've realized that I am being taken for granted.. I know your time will also come when you are ready to make that decision for yourself.. just pray.. God is good.. He will teach you how and guide you all the way..
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
when we give everything for love and lost and got hurt we realize one thing. to love ourselves and not give everything. save something for yourself in case of a rainy day. in my experience, i learned with all the pain. the best teacher is experience. it is hard to relay on someone when you never felt that way before. when you get hurt dont feel self pity, make this a challenge for you. make sure you do not do the same mistakes all over again. all of the trials and sacrifices made me strong and matured my way of thinking. it sure will make us depress but think of it as a lesson learned. good that you took this well and made you a better person. that is the real vale of this lifes pains and sacrifices. when there is pain there is something gain.
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
..right.. experience is indeed the best teacher.. and from experience, we become better.. and bring out our best.. thank you..
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
7 Sep 10
If we look deep enough we will see that life hands us lessons every day. We jsut have to know how to learn from them.@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
..right.. however, we usually overlook those lessons until something happens that we learn to realize those lessons.. thank you..
@ergfortes (516)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
i admire you for standing up and not letting yourself get drowned. i have been through a lot as well and i've learned a lot too. It is true that it is by loving yourself and giving yourself respect that you will earn more love and respect as well. It is also true that life has its ups and downs and how you react by it would always be your choice and you could always choose to be happy and positive. i believe that the greatness of one man depends on how many times he rises up when he falls.
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
..yeah, you're absolutely correct.. it doesn't matter how many times we fail but what matters most is how many times we rise after falling down.. after all, it is our own choice how we would like to end the game of life..
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
..hmmm...? traumatized?.. I've just learned not to trust any man again..
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
7 Sep 10
I am very pleased that you are now able to give yourself a happy time in your life. It is wonderful that you have got some knowledge out of life's lessons. I am delighted that you have because have become a better person.
I have learned to keep trying to do the things that are helpful to me and my family. For example even though it took me a long time I managed to pass my practical driving test. I sold my house and bought a bungalow right for my disabled son. Now I can drive my car it is easier for me to get around.
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
..wow.. that's a good life.. I want to learn how to drive too..
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
7 Sep 10
every year, every month, every week, every day and every moment I always try to do reflection and improvement on what I've done with so I hope to become good personal
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
..that's very nice to know.. and a good idea to follow.. thank you.
@JasperTore (1275)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
Good for you for realizing this. It is very important because our future depends on what we do today. I made some realization also in life. That is if I have to live my life, I would live the way I want it to be. I hate it when someone dictate what I should do in my life. Who are they to control my life. Also, if you make a mistake, then don't carry the burden about it. Move on and be a better person and hopefully don't commit the same mistake again.
@jagjit273 (1754)
• India
7 Sep 10
Well Ray, We Both Have familiar Nature, As It Looks from Your discusions. I also Use To think about others before I think about My self and Those Other always Decive me.I Lost My love in this process, while thinking about My family and taht family has decived me, But the thing is We Cannot change our nature ,. Do you think you can do that.
Have A Nice day
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
..its really hard that after all the sacrifices and love we have shown them, they would still hurt us.. however, I believe in the reality that nobody can hurt us without our permission.. hence, it is our own choice either to get affected or not.. after all, it is us who decides our own happiness.. thank you for comprehending with me..
@raviteja_ravi84 (2620)
• India
7 Sep 10
For me when looking back i want happy memories to fill me and they should be countless. I never regret any decision which i have made in the past and i sure would like to make sure that i will do something which is much better and will provide me with more fun and entertainment in future.
Sitting back and regretting the past would only take our valuable time away and then we wouldn't have anything what we really wanted to have. Life is a struggle. If you don't run fast someone can overtake you. But you know what? I don't mind if i am last or first. I just mind it if i did my best or not.
Cheers!
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
..right.. there's no use regretting the past.. we better think of how we could turn this day a perfect one.. because yesterday is a history today, and today will be a history tomorrow.. it would be nice to look back knowing that we have done our best today..
@shearry18 (118)
• Davao, Philippines
7 Sep 10
Yes, I feel the same way. Maybe this is also the reason why I gave up everything. I gave up my work. I gave up my 6 years relationship with my boyfriend. I gave up helping my self cope up with so much things in life. I WAS TOO TIRED OF EVERYTHING. I was not happy of what I am doing. I have the same reasons as yours.. I was giving too much for them and not paying attention to myself.
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
..nice to hear that from you.. we have the right to be happy.. after all, this is our life..
@kartiknaiduk (275)
• India
7 Sep 10
Ya, that is a nice decesion, to relook into your life. I cannot say this about you, but one thing I have learned in life, never expect for anything, for whatever you sacrifice for anyone, let him be even the closest person in your life, because when such closest people do not stant to our expections, it hurts a lot, and we think why did we make sacrifices for a such people, but I need to say you this, there are circumstances, when they want too, but cannot stand our expectations. It's not their or our flaw, but circumstances.
And I too believe in a thought said by Lord Shrikrishna in Bhagwad Gita. It say, Everything that happens to us, happens for the good of us.
Moreover enjoying, litte things like dancing in rain, mixing up and playing with children, is being happy at all the possible moments, and happiness is a beautiful way of life.
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
.,.well, yes.. indeed, everything happens for a reason.. and maybe, there are really reasons I've overlooked why my beloved cheated on me.. thank you..
@norberto1968 (24)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
Hi raynejasper, that's a good positive mental attitude. Make your own life like you want to, thats the way it should be... But, i believe when a person is in love, he/she should give all his/her love. That's why we are at our weakest when we're in love; but we cannot fully appreciate love when there are inhibitions. Keep goin'.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
8 Sep 10
Yes I did and I did something about it
Now I am me and I am very careful of giving to much of myself
I take things as they come and deal with them
I have always dealt with Problems and survived but I now deal with it calmly
I have been used and abused for most of my Life but 7 years ago that changed I took action and came out of my Shell
I hope that you will manage it to
@6precious102 (4043)
• United States
8 Sep 10
I use to be overly sensitive and offended by any little criticism. I was also greedy, not wanting to share my friends with anyone else. In time I realized I was headed toward a miserable life if I continued in this way. I've learned that most criticism is meant to help make you better and I've learned that we are all capable to caring for and being friends with more than one person at a time and that just because my friend shares time with someone else doesn't mean that my friend no longer cares for me. I agree with the writers of "Happiness Is A Choice," and I choose to be happy.
@yugasini (12836)
• Anantapur, India
8 Sep 10
hi raynejasper,
every body do lot of mistakes in the life,that is common nothing to worry,life is not in your hands,we think that it is in our hand but it is not in our hands,what is written in your life that will be done and happen,according to that you are doing,i too also do lot of mistakes,due to that i could not settled in my life,at the age of 59 living without own house,bank balance etc etc,have a nice day
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
it's against propriety to look back at mistakes... it is better to remember the lessons derived from those mistakes, if you're aware of them...
@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 10
Hi raynejasper, really glad you are able to overcome all obstacle and give yourself a 2nd chance to lead a happy life. I am also happy that you are have such positive mindset. Do wish you all the best and keep moving forward and don't look back to the past. Whatever happens had happened and nobody can change it. However, the future is yours and it is YOU yourself to determine what future you want for yourself. All the best in whatever you do and stay POSITIVE :D
Cheers!
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
..you're right.. what happened are all history today and I can never bring back yesterday.. I'm really thankful that God granted me this realization.. thank you..
@mimining (203)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
In my decades of life on earth, once in a while I come to a point where I look back and see what I have accomplished, who I have helped, what I have learned. And then I realize I have not accomplished well, I have not helped much, I have not learned much - there was a large part of my life that was idle, and so now, I try to make up for lost time. And yes, pay myself too.
