Ever have someone give you an outfit that isn't quite YOU? What did you do to

@writersedge (22563)
United States
September 20, 2010 6:31am CST
make it more like something you would wear? Something that is more YOU? What was the outfit? Why was it not right for you? How did you make it right for you? People give me plain, blah clothes or red clothes. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate the gifts. But I have rosacea, so red is not a good choice. Some reds run in washing machines, too. So I usually so something to make the outfit better or at least more like something I would wear. The other day, I found a beautiful lilac shirt with silver trim. It was my Mom's, it is way too big for me (think 40B chest versus 44DD chest). I gave it to my brother's girlfriend. She is the correct size, but lilac is definitely not her. It will be intersting to see what she does to make it more like her. Your turn.
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@misalax (307)
• Ireland
20 Sep 10
Back in my younger days I get outfits that I don't like at all. Especially on birthdays, where one of my aunts would usually buy me a nice blouse or a dress, which I hate since I'm more of a tshirt and pants person. I'd wear it once where they can see it to show my appreciation, but then after that the outfit stays at the very corner of the closet, and I won't use it ever again.
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@misalax (307)
• Ireland
20 Sep 10
Yeah, I'd try and check later, they also spent money for me, maybe I should just need to tweak the outfit a bit :) And thanks for that, take care as well.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
21 Sep 10
Your welcome. Take care. Unlike some people, I remember having been young.
• United States
21 Sep 10
I gave it to someone else, or I just left it in my closet. I get a lot of clothes like that, and I usually just leave them in my closet or I give them to someone else. That is really all that I can do.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
21 Sep 10
Have you ever checked out ideas on youtube to make the clothes more wearable? So many people need clothes and are cold this winter. Have you ever thought about giving the clothes to a shelter or a place that takes clothes and gives them to the poor? It would free up your closet for things you can wear and help people ar the same time. Giving to someone else is good. Thanks and take care.
• United Kingdom
20 Sep 10
I have experienced this in the past and it's kind of embarrasing when someone gives you an item of clothing that you really don't fancy wearing. I guess the most important thing is to be polite and thankful. You can always hide it away somewhere at the back of your cupboard or chest of draws. I think the most embarrasing item of clothing is probably a jumper, you know with all those funny patterns and colours on it! I have a jumper like that and I never wear it outside of my flat! I know that we do get the occasional harsh winter though and it's at this time that I wear it inside my flat as it really does help to keep me warm. I'm not too keen on deep dark colours as they do tend to run wild when you put them in the washing machine. Anyway, that's life. I like to choose my own clothing as opposed to receiving items of clothing from others. Andrew
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
21 Sep 10
Our rusty water sets all colors but red and in the states, most clothing here is color fast. Also my washing machine tends to make it so dark color stay because there is sooo much iron in our water. Not sure why some reds are still a problem. Jumpers, people my age had to wear ones with legs for Gym class, unless you're skinny, they looked terrible on people. So no one and I mean no one my age gives or wears those, so no problem (here most jumpers have skirts so your version and our might be different or maybe you have the gym version). I just redo most outfits or wear them gardening. My plants and I don't care what I look like. Some people give me clothes just to see how I'll redo them.
@GemmaR (8517)
20 Sep 10
My grandparents always used to give me clothes which I wouldn't like to wear in public. I got around it by wearing them just when I knew I was going to see them, so that it looked like I was wearing it all of the time. I would wear a jacket over the clothes when I went out for a walk or anything like that with them though, as I really don't like some of the things that they buy. I would never tell them that as I know that they have my best interests at heart, and they are very generous for buying me so many clothes, but they just don't see me all that often so they don't know much about the style of clothes that I would wear if I was out on a regular day.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
20 Sep 10
I do that for a couple of people. Thanks for your reponse and take care.
@sender621 (14889)
• United States
20 Sep 10
I don't want to insult or hurt the feelings of a giftgiver. i will thank the giver for the outfit even if it is not to my liking or style. I will try to find a replacement for it on my own. If I am asked about it, i would tell the giftgiver that i had to return it for something else. i don't want to lie to them, but there's no need for bitterness either.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
20 Sep 10
That's good, but a lot of people give me plain stuff on purpose to see what I'll do with it. Will I tie-dye it? Embroider it? Etc. I often can't return what they give me. It is often second hand. They outgrow a shirt or pants don't fit them right. Like the shirt I gave my brother's girlfriend that my Mother used to wear. But your response works for you and is most gracious. I always thank people, too. Even if I could return something, I don't know that I would.
@jet2r0cks (190)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
I've been experiencing this my entire life! I've always been boyish, specially when it comes to how I dress. My wardrobe consists of only tshirts, shorts, jeans and sneakers. My cousins, who are all very girly, have been trying to get me to dress like them ever since I was a kid and it annoyed me! They know I'll never wear anything girly but they still keep giving me girly clothes. I have a bunch of girly, revealing clothes at the back of my closet. I hide the clothes cause they actually force me into wearing them x_x That's pretty much all I do to those clothes. Lately they've just been giving me bags though.
@GardenGerty (169603)
• United States
20 Sep 10
My sister buys stuff without trying it on and often gives it to me. I have a new dress from her. Mind you, I thought about buying it myself, but did not. She is 5'4", I am 5'7", we are about the same weight, which is "too much". this is a petite. It clings to her belly, mine too, it is too short for her, she says, well, I am three inches taller. It is a fabric that I will only wear when it is cold, as it does not breathe. On the other hand, I have gold leggings and a wide gold belt. I will try to get the leggings and the belt and the dress all together once the weather is colder and call it a tunic. If need be, I will hem it shorter. The color is good for either of us, although she is olive, and I am fair to medium.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
20 Sep 10
Well, you're not going to weigh too much soon. You're on a diet. Sounds like it will have to be a tunic for sure. Must be something to be 5 foot 7 inches. I'm 5 3 1/2, so I'm half an inch shorter than your sister. The tummy thing, go high waste or start doing lots of crunches as you loose weigth. Wearing it with other things so you can use it is one way to change things up so it's workable. Thanks for responding. I hope it works out for you. Take care.
@cher913 (25781)
• Canada
20 Sep 10
sure, i have gotten clothes like that. i have either donated them or got the person to take it back (especially if it was my mom) and then can get something i do like.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
21 Sep 10
You're in Canada. I can see summer clothes, but read my response to #11 above.
• United States
20 Sep 10
I am very picky with clothes first of all. That's why I rarely have any. I just have the essentials. So I really don't like it when people give me clothes at all because I'm so picky and there are times when I don't even know what I want. If someone wants to give me something they can give me food or music. It's safer for all involved that way. My friend actually gave me a red shirt from AeroPostale for my birthday last year and I haven't worn it, not even once. First of all since I have a big chest area it fits really tight on me. I have other shirts that fit tight but not like this ones. This shirt really grabs on to my body and my other shirts and more loose. I do like getting gifts but I tell everyone that if they want to get me something just don't get me clothes at all!
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
21 Sep 10
You live in NYC and you're picking about clothes? You must live in an apartment so someone else shovels on sub-zero days or you just stay home.
@shaggin (74987)
• United States
20 Sep 10
I can see why red wouldnt be a good color for you if you have rosacea. I tend to look really nice in a deep blue color. I feel bad when people get me clothes that I wouldnt usually wear. Its the thought that counts though. Sometimes I really like the things that I am given but some are just like hideous things I'd never want to be caught in. I usually try to find a friend who might want them if not then I just donate them to a local place that gives out free clothes.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
20 Sep 10
Yes, if they clothes don't fit, I have donated them. But that is tricky. If the clothes are unique in any way and the person goes to the place where you donated them,that person could become very insulted. But if they don't go to places like that, then you're safe or if the clothes they give you aren't all that unique, you may still be safe. Thanks for dropping by and responding to the discussion, have a nice day.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
24 Sep 10
You got rid of him and his baggae, litterally!
@jb78000 (15139)
20 Sep 10
i used to ask one of my grannies or my mum to alter things for me. unfortunately i never learnt to make alterations properly myself - sewing on buttons is about my limit. i have made small changes to a few garments but i wouldn't be able i think to drastically alter things. my friends know what i like though so i rarely get unsuitable clothes as gifts.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
20 Sep 10
I don't sew to change them either. Dye them a different color isn't hard, just read the package instructions and do it. Applique that you peal and stick, then follow with an iron isn't very hard either. If you can sew on a button, you can sew on hook and eyes, frogs, or snaps. Putting a shear top over a solid one could make a see-thru one workable. Layering could bury a bad color and still make it workable. I've been learning lots of neat stuff from youtube, too. It's good that they give you stuff you like and can use. Many of the gifts I get are hand-me-downs. Stuff people wore, but now they can't because they gained or lost weight. The items was perfict for them, but not for me.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
21 Sep 10
We even had a place that was dying jeans here. It was a dry cleaning place. I was surprized to see a sign for that and asked them about it. "Many people have faded, but perfict jeans. Places want them to wear nice jeans, but they can't afford new ones. So we halp them out." I think it was 5 dollars to get them redyed. I saw people coming in with them. That's when I thought what a great idea that was. Then I thought about it for other clothes, too. For 5 bucks, you can dye lots of clothes, so they were doing an alright business.
@jb78000 (15139)
21 Sep 10
i have bought clothes that i knew i was going to change, but in tiny ways. like adding a snap or removing unnecessary tassels. not thought of dyeing them much but that is a good idea. i sometimes come across clothes that would otherwise be *really* nice in charity shops that i leave because they are a horrid colour.
• Malaysia
20 Sep 10
Gone are the days of the hand-downs. These days, we all buy our own clothing. No, I have not worn any outfit I do not like. If I do receive it as gifts, I recycle them to others.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
20 Sep 10
Yes, I've gotten the recycle to others, too. I thought gone were the hand me down days, too. I'm 52, but with my economics, they're back again. Take care and glad things are going well for you. Financially, that makes one of us.
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
20 Sep 10
Yeah I know what you mean because I have gotten outfits before as gifts, but they weren't really me so I decided to just you know wear them at times just to show the person that I appreciate the gift which I do very much because you know when someone gives you something your happy no matter what. Their is always a way to turn a shirt or a pant and mix and match it with something so it could be more of a suiting outfit for ones self. I love clothes a lot so I always mix and match them so that I can be in style because I really don't like being out of style because than I feel like my clothes do not look good therefore I don't feel to confident with myself and than I tend to get depressed. SO it's always best to wear clothes that make you feel confident and if you don't feel confident than try to make those clothes make you feel that way. People can tell a lot about a person just by looking at what they are wearing many people decide to judge based on what they are wearing before they even get to know them which is not very nice. My mom also likes to wear nice clothes and mix and match the ones that she gets to make them more appealing like me I gave her a korean leapord coat and she mix and matched it, but I had to give it to her because it didn't fit me and it did fit her and it was better suited for her and not me. I don't know why, but I could never pull off light colors so I pretty much wear dark colors and that's when people misjudge me and mistake me for an emo and a lot of people tell me that I have that appearance, but it's not my fault how I look. Anyway receiving clothes as gifts is always great I always love it.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
20 Sep 10
I don't think people should judge people because of their clothes, but you're right, they do. I do layering and that helps a lot. It's cold here, so I just put the clothes I don't like as well on the bottom. Good that you can find a way to wear them and that your Mom can use some of the clothes you can't use. Thanks and take care.