Do you feel comfortable in the company of strangers.....?
By chayapathys
@chayapathys (2111)
India
September 23, 2010 8:22pm CST
Many a time we find ourselves in a group where we do not find any friends and all are strangers.As I have observed that in such a situation some people smile at others and wish them and soon involve in a conversation with the result they soon become friends.Some stop there and some others try to become very close and continue their friendship even after wards.I am quite opposite.I do not feel comfortable at all in the company of strangers.In case of necessity only I stay there otherwise I leave the place as soon as possible.Even if some one smiles at me I smile in reply as a courtesy.I will answer if they ask about me and I will not ask any questions about them . After wards I feel why I did not make friendship with them May be I am not sociable as some others are.So are you comfortable in the company of strangers....?
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9 responses
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
24 Sep 10
I would try to smile and talk to them and be friends with them. At other ties, when I don;t feel comfortable with the strangers (arrogant, snob, too rich) I would not fled from them, but I just stay there and be quiet and observe their conversations and thus their real characters.
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
25 Sep 10
You can do it too, Chayapathys. They are just human. If they are kind to us, then we should be kind to them too. However, if they are a snob, rich people who cannot mingle with the mere of us, I would find out their weakness. I am a bad one.
Thanks for the BR. I wish I can find interesting thing to start a discussion, then I can return the favor.
Thanks for the BR. I wish I can find interesting thing to start a discussion, then I can return the favor.@chayapathys (2111)
• India
25 Sep 10
You have perfect understanding of the discussion.You follow that attitude and you be a success in life.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
27 Sep 10
Why do you say you are bad.you cannot be bad I can know though I have not seen you. You are wonderful.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
26 Sep 10
I have never met many people i couldn't find something in common w/them enough to have a conversation with. I worked in the public all my life so feel i meet people pretty well.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
27 Sep 10
I READ YOUR DISCUSSION & I ANSWERED YOUR DISCUSSION. With your attitude i can see why u don't make friends. What it is about the men from your company & their sthinky attitudes, anyway.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
27 Sep 10
The discussion is whether you feel comfortable in the company of strangers.You may meet many as many of us do.When you are alone and all others are strangers say in a foreign country how do you feel....?
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@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
i guess i am like you. i'm not really that comfortable either. i hate making the first step in the conversation sometimes, i even think that i have asperger's syndrome because of this.
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
7 Oct 10
yep, i don't shy away from people who talks to me, i just don't like making the first step. i guess it's because i never know what to say to someone i don't know well.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
25 Sep 10
You may be not comfortable.But as some one suggested that once the initiative comes from the other side you should show more friendliness.you should not shirk to become friends.It is not always correct.
@BrittneeD (351)
• United States
24 Sep 10
I am usually a little uncomfortable but if they are talking about something I know about I will try to get involved in the conversation if they seem like we have nothing incommon I can feel very uncomfortable and won't really say anything at all so it really depends on what kind of people I am with if they are similiar to me or not.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
25 Sep 10
What you are saying is about your involvement in conversation.But by and large do you feel comfortable and try to become a friend when the initiative comes from the other side...
@rautrahul (267)
• India
27 Sep 10
I don't feel comfortable in the company of strangers. Many people gives the smiles & I also give the smile but not feel comfortable in them.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
27 Sep 10
Yes. This happen to many times to many people.Returning a smile is courtesy I agree.Whether it is a starting point for friendship is the question...?
@aarpees (149)
•
24 Sep 10
I do not feel comfortable with the company of strangers. Now, it's hard to really put your trust to other people easily. Being with strangers, even though they seem to look nice and good, is also dangerous. If ever situations call that you have to accompany a stranger, you should be sure that you have someone that you know personally with you.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
25 Sep 10
you have to be cautious.Alright. Not all strangers are dangerous as you presume. Many may be as per experience or as told by others.Under that pretext you cannot be alone particularly in a foreign country where all are strangers.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
25 Sep 10
Your attitude is correct.Many answer only to the point when conversation starts and do not exhibit any eagerness to develop friendship. As you said rightly behaving more friendly is well appreciated
@nununugraha (168)
• Indonesia
9 Oct 10
Many things can happen if we move to new communities, sometimes we can quickly get along and sometimes we simply can not adjust. I'm a sociable type of person, but indeed sometimes a few moments at the beginning of the introduction is often a bit stiff. I need to know the types of people in a new place to begin the period of adjustment. If I open and they can be open to greet me, then certainly I will quickly blend in with them.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
25 Sep 10
You are correct in one way in starting communication with others.But many people feel very uncomfortable and leave the place as soon as possible. Then do you develop friendship?You should also consider that point.
