Why can't people just take my word as bond? I have the final say so.

@cream97 (29122)
United States
September 24, 2010 9:01am CST
My daughter's teacher and her social services worker came by my apartment yesterday. They came to go over my daughter's testing scores. She did really well! I was so happy and proud of her. Well, I mentioned that my youngest daughter got selected for the Head Start Program but I declined the invitation. The teacher was saying how well it would have done her and all. It does not matter about her irregular sleeping habits being off. They are still willing to work with my daughter regardless. I don't understand why if I made the decision as my daughter's mom to keep her out of school this year, why do they go and try to change up my final decision. They don't know my daughter the way that I do. I know that it will be hard for her to adjust to school right now because of her irregular sleeping habits. Everything they have advised me to do. I have done. I have also tried many other routines that will keep her asleep throughout the night. I already feel bad enough about not letting my daughter go to school this year. She just turned three years old in June. So, why do they continue to taunt and aggravate me about the decision that I have made? I told them that it was a very tough decision for me to have made. It eats me up sometimes when I think that I may could have made the wrong decision. But I know in my mind and heart, I know what is best for my child. They say they have no problem with her sleeping in class. They think that they can get her back on track. A lot of this has to do with where we are living at too. If my downstairs neighbor would let my children be kids, then I guarantee you, that by the time that night does come, she will sleep throughout the entire night. I know that when we move her sleeping habits will be and will stay on track!
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12 responses
@dawnald (84900)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Sep 10
Only three? Why are they so obsessed about getting a three year old into school? That's crazy! Of course you know your child and should have the final word!
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• United States
28 Sep 10
Head Start is preschool..
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@dawnald (84900)
• Shingle Springs, California
28 Sep 10
Right, but why the urgency to force a child into it against the parents' wishes?
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• United States
24 Sep 10
I started school at 3 and yes although much more advanced than my regular peers I have had a much heavier burden and load to carry then them. I believe 3 is way too young anyways, I mean if you were working per say and you had to make a decision between daycare and or a babysitter then daycare may be a better option because she could interact with other children her age and give her some sort of balance. But to say school at 3 I think this is a bit much.
• United States
28 Sep 10
It depends on each child.. My son started at 3 and he is still behind because of his learning disabilities he as.. Sometimes its good for them to go if they need it..
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• United States
24 Sep 10
I don't know if your daughter would have gone to preschool, kindergarten or school, but they shouldn't try and push you into something you don't want for your daughter. I was just wondering if you have considered homeschooling her? You know how she is and how her her day is. If she was up for it maybe some preschool/school work might have her spend some energy on learning and help her sleep at night while not 'disturbing' you neighbor.
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@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
25 Sep 10
Hi there cream! As other myLotters have said, you're daughter is way too young to go into regular schooling.. I think you've made the right decision to stop sending her to school.. She's still young, and with her sleeping habits, she would definitely, and I guess you also, find it hard to cope up with the school thing. Juts take the time to bond with her..At her age, it's still playing, and exploring.. Good thing you stayed with your decision. I also can't see the reason why the teacher would insist something that a parent has already decided upon.. They should at least respected your decision because no one else but you will understand what your kids need.. Good Luck on your moving out..
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• Canada
25 Sep 10
It is ridiculous to push a 3 year old to attend school, especially if she is bright and doing well because you teach her things on her own! It is sad that too many parents do not bother to read to their kids, show them how to count, etc, so that teachers will push for school early, so those kids are not so far behind come grade one. They know that many parents will not teach anything. If you daughter is having high test scores you are obviously showing her what she needs to know, as a parent should, and they should leave you alone!
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@kiddrow (32)
• Canada
25 Sep 10
if you have much time to spent with the kids much better if you will be the one to become her teacher, mom knows best for her son/ daughter needs with it, it can create also an everlasting bonds
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@sid556 (30973)
• United States
24 Sep 10
Hi Cream, The bottom line here is that you know your daughter better than anyone else. YOU know what is best for her. I know how these professional people can be. The are intimidating and they sound all-knowing and it is so easy to fall into the trap of 2nd guessing yourself as a parent. I've butted heads with them a couple of times when my girls were growing up when they wanted to put my daughter on meds. My girls now thank me for not giving in. They grew up fine and responsible and well adjusted without the meds as deep in my heart, I knew they would. Your daughter is just 3 and has plenty of time before she really needs to be in school. Not all that long ago, it was unheard of for a kid to attend school before age 4 and most did not begin until 5 or 6. As it is, they are in school for at least 12 years at the very least and look how many of them get so tired of it by 9th or 10th grade. Don't let them get to you, Cream.
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@elmiko (6633)
• United States
24 Sep 10
well its at least nice the teachers tried to help by adjusting to the need of your kid. i don't see the point in her going if shes going to sleep at her desk so much.
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@o2bnocn (2991)
• United States
24 Sep 10
I think three years old is too young to be in school. It is your decision on whether or not you want your daughter to go to school. I would understand if she was five or older and needed to be in school. Your the mother and you make the final decisions. I think that there will always be someone trying to change someones decision or opinion. I would be aggravated in this situation also with them trying to change your decision. Even if your daughter had good sleeping habits, then it would still be your decision. When I have children, I don't want them going to school until they are five. Unless they have to my children are not going to preschool. I would rather them stay at home and spend time with me. I am not saying that preschool is a bad thing, but every parents have different opinions on this.
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@celticeagle (135208)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Sep 10
They are professionals. They probably see cases like this from time to time. They probably feel it is best she get into school and the sooner the better. Social influence is important as well as accademic. And perhaps they see some fear in you that needs to stabelized. They want what is best for your daughter as you do. They just see things in more professional, less emotional side.
@saphrina (31610)
• South Africa
24 Sep 10
You as her mom, know what is best for her, sweetie. No one can make that decisions, but you. If they don't like it, their problem. I cannot see why they don't have a problem letting her sleep in class. What's the use for her going to school now, then? 3 is too young. She can go next year. Enjoy the time with her now. TATA.
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@pastigger (617)
• United States
24 Sep 10
They seem to be getting really pushy about this your word is final. I would almost want to contact whoever is in charge of them and ask what is up. You are her mother and you mad a decision they should respect that. She is only 3 years old. My daughter is going to preschool next year she will be 4. I wasn't even going to send her to that but it is now offered at the school down the street and she really wants to go. If I thought she wasn't ready I would just have her wait till Kindergarden. Good luck with this and don't let them make you doubt yourself you are her mother and your made your choice that is best for you daughter and they really should back off.
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