Is it correct to criticize others behind their back....?
By chayapathys
@chayapathys (2111)
India
September 24, 2010 10:47am CST
It is human to criticize others.We always find people criticizing one another.If it is constructive it leads to good results.But criticizing others for their weakness or short comings gives bad results.If you are bold you will criticize another on his face.But many times this does not happen.Generally criticism takes place behind the back.Why? It may be due to fear of the strength of the other person or due timidness of the person criticizing. I have been thinking why not criticize on their face though not rudely but politely bringing out the truth that he or she is wrong and without any offense. I wanted to try but still I do hesitate.What do you think..criticizing on the face is correct...?
4 responses
@ergfortes (516)
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
I'm guilty as charged. I do admit that i've done a lot of criticizing. Well i think it is human nature, when you see something and you have some opinion about it you already criticize whether it be positive or negative. It is not bad to criticize what i think is not good is sharing it with others whom would not really benefit from the opinion you have. I mean it is healthy to criticize if it's constructive or if it's meant to teach. Saying it in front of the person being criticized also depends, if you're doing professionally and it's part of your job then it's perfectly fine. but if you think you'd just hurt the person and will not do him any good then just keep it to yourself and don't bother sharing it with others as well.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
25 Sep 10
As you rightly said criticizing sin built human nature.How do we know whether criticism is taken by the other person as good for him. Practically we do not know?It may be constructive from your angle but the other man is hurt when told on face.By criticizing behind the back we are not going to benefit or helping the other man...
@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
24 Sep 10
Yes, it is correct to tell the other one what do you think about him or his performance in a certain area of life or task. But you have to tell this him privately. The first managerial lesson I have learned is to praise somebody in public and criticize in private. That way he will know that you are a correct person, and all you want is to make him evolve and not to do the same mistake anymore. If you criticize somebody in public he will feel humiliated and will fight back, either with physical or verbal violence. So if you really care about the other person or you care about your ethics, you will criticize somebody in his face and privately.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
25 Sep 10
What you said is correct to a great extent but it also depend upon the other person.Criticizing in public is certainly wrong.But criticizing in private also does result in good always. In official matters you can dot as a boss. In private life how many take private criticism in a sportive way and understand their shot falls.As a well wisher you can criticize a person in private but the problem is whether he treats you as his well wisher or not....
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
25 Sep 10
As you said you should not criticize behind the back.Saying to him some times works but many times results in repercussions.It all depends on each person and situation...is it not?
@dellabanedz (123)
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
I dont think that criticizing others behind their back is a proper attitude of a person but I dont also think that saying it face to face can make the situation better since it can either hurt the feeling of that person or make him happy. Its good to criticize others as long as it will make that person change and do better.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
25 Sep 10
As you said criticizing behind the back is not correct.But how far your suggestion that it is good if the other change and do better is practicable. How do know for certain that the other person will change for better
