They Love you...but not the way "YOU" wanted to...
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
Philippines
September 26, 2010 1:42am CST
Hello Lotters,
I hope i can make this interesting.
Just something that i have picked up or learned from another discussion that i made. I think now to most lovers or couples, this is when the mis-understandings and arguments start and that because of that, it causes the Love quarrels. two people seems to love each other but has different ways of showing it. come to think of it, is it this a good opportunity to "learn" from each other. and allow both of you to be more compatible when you are learning from each others love. sometimes, we can be very sensitive at things that instead of appreciating it well, we either take it for granted or get angry because it's not what we want them to do.
Same goes for family, we got annoyed if parents are strict or if siblings are tough on you. with weaker understanding we tend to fight them off instead of understanding what they are trying to portray or the kind of giving their help on us.
I don't know. but it took me time to realize it. but sometimes i still don't get it.
can you site a situation. where the some one loved you, but you didn't want it or liked one bit.
I have shared my story with the other discussion.
I hope i can make this interesting.
Just something that i have picked up or learned from another discussion that i made. I think now to most lovers or couples, this is when the mis-understandings and arguments start and that because of that, it causes the Love quarrels. two people seems to love each other but has different ways of showing it. come to think of it, is it this a good opportunity to "learn" from each other. and allow both of you to be more compatible when you are learning from each others love. sometimes, we can be very sensitive at things that instead of appreciating it well, we either take it for granted or get angry because it's not what we want them to do.
Same goes for family, we got annoyed if parents are strict or if siblings are tough on you. with weaker understanding we tend to fight them off instead of understanding what they are trying to portray or the kind of giving their help on us.
I don't know. but it took me time to realize it. but sometimes i still don't get it.
can you site a situation. where the some one loved you, but you didn't want it or liked one bit.
I have shared my story with the other discussion.1 person likes this
7 responses
@ifa225 (14468)
• Indonesia
26 Sep 10
Hello Letran.
we never know what is on someone's mind. and we never know what exactly they want and how they want it.
and i guess it is normal if you feel so. have you ever think to be as the one of your siblings and try to see it from his/ her mind?
@candyfairy21 (2039)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
I know what you mean...sometimes that someone tries to show us how much they love us but not in a way that we wanted them to and we end up getting frustrated and hurt. Somtimes small things gets complicated...and I wonder why we complicate small things lol. Like you sometimes I still don't get it.... lol
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@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
Hello Candy,
That's why constant communication is important, no matter how many things gets into an argument.that's probably part of the relationship i think. 
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Sep 10
hi l etran I think I understand and its like when I used
to go to my husband not to get him to fix a problem for me but
just to share it and get his ideas. But instead he would take over
like I big man you little woman so I fix for you,but no I wanted to
do it for myself. I was just as capable of doing things as he was, so I just wanted his opinion nothing more.so when he fixed my problem instead of feeling grateful I felt like he had patted me on the head and thought moron.SO I guess sometimes that is a form of love but it often backfires
as all the person wanted was to discuss it not to have it
fixed for you.
fixed for you.@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
Hello Hatley,
I guess the lesson there is that you teach each other instead of completely depend on each other. this is what i want in the relationship, but of course, i think i may have to learn how to swallow my pride. but of course, if she was willing to swallow a bit of hers. maybe she and I can be both compatible and learn from eaCH Other.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
27 Sep 10
It does help to put yourself in another’s shoes to see where they are coming from when you disagree and a lot of the time it helps to see why people may behave the way they do and although we may not like it we can at least appreciate their point of view. There are some instances though when more intimate knowledge about another person does not help to bring you closer. For example my mother came from a dysfunctional and abusive family and decided to dish out the same to my sister and me and it is not as if she didn’t know any better! I came from the same abusive environment but I can assure I chose to do differently toward my child!
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
Hello Paula,
What has happened i think was unfair, but in my opinion, i think she didn't really know how to make it right since she didn't receive the fair treatment in the first place.
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@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
We can never tell what the other person wants and not and we can never dictate him/her to do this or that just because we want to feel that kind of love. What we can do is accept what the other person has to give whether we want it that way or not. If you love someone you are ready to accept what he can give and accept what he can show. You just can't force someone to do it your way, this is what i realized with my relationship with my bf. I know im looking for something more in him but within the 4 years of being together, it's just not all about me. It's all about us! I have to accept him for who he is and what he is. If he's not too showy with his feelings then i let him be, just as long as we're happy and in love with each other.
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
Hello Gaiza,
that's a good thing. and you know four years in the relationship is really quite still good. now a days, unless love is strong and real, relationships last almost only a year or less. i agree, you don't force this on some one and not allowing this to get ugly just because you expect much. good bless the two of you.
@kkrnochefrancaB (34)
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
We all know that love can make us crazy.We should all know how to handle the pain because in love you can be happy and sometimes get hurt.All you have to do is to accept the reality that love is not permanent especially if the person you ought to love is not meant for you.
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
Hello chefranca,
Yes, it does. makes us do things that we never did before. we dare ourselves to be better and something else.but we end up getting hurt in the end.well, despite that relationships aren't that permanent, people blindly believed that they can stay with each other forever.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
At this time we are in this situation as couples. We are always had an arguments in every thing from a very little thing that are comes out from each others mouth. If I said some words he get me wrong and bring me into negative side of ideas. Giving a wrong interpretation which makes me irritated and begin to argue. This is happens when he discover that i have a chatmate which bad or negative into a married woman. I accept that, i am wrong in front of him for doing this things but on my own feelings it helps me a lot to relieve all the tensions and stressed. But still i know that it was wrong. Anyway i cannot express more myself at this time for i know that some are misunderstand me. Anyway I am longing for the love and expect the way i wanted. But the result was different from my expectation.
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
Hello Mods,
Well, Probably he was worried that the person may not be what they seem. unless it's a relative or an old friend, chatting them with your problems can be a disadvantage too. of course, there was a sense of jealousy coming from the Husband, and that's what probably got him upset.am sure he's jealousy proves a lot ofher love to you.
