Would you choose to be married into extreme wealthy family or ordinary family?

@asxenon (1440)
Malaysia
September 28, 2010 10:16pm CST
At a glance, the answer seems clear that most women will choose to be married into extreme wealthy families. Anyway, i am surprised that actually many people think that it is better to be married into ordinary family as they lost a lot of their freedom and has to adhere to family rules/regulation of the wealthy family. So, in which category are you... going to the wealthy where you can own whatever things you want but less freedom. Or married to an ordinary guy but always dream on things to have?
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
29 Sep 10
I would want to marry into a family where i felt happiness. Wealthy families wouldn't guarantee a wonderful marriage and life. An orinary family could bring just as much joy if not more.
@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
30 Sep 10
I do think modest is the best. Not too wealthy and not too rich. Anyway, in today's world, we truly need quite some money to lead a happy life.... especially everything costs so much nowadays. Only food, place of stay, vehicle to commute and children alone will cost most everybody's salary :D Have a nice day and enjoy your life to the fullest. All the best to you for the quest to happiness :D
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
29 Sep 10
Dear friend, Wealth is needed, but I feel wealth is not only aspect in a family. How well both could cope up with their life. I feel a spouse needs a person with whom everhting can be shared being as an husband and wife. Being married to an ordinary guy do not mean that one will not be happy. Happy life could be attained even with limited wealth.
@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
30 Sep 10
I surely agree with what you say. However, in today's world many people do go for the wealthy and not the poor. Their thinking is more towards materialistic than towards love. I truly think that should not be the reason for couple to be together. How can a relationship last without love?
@reco13 (605)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
I haven't actually dreamt of marrying a wealthy man. I want to love a person for who he is. I am really in love with my man though he is just an ordinary. Anyway, he manage to be an extraordinary as he strives hard for our good future. I want someone who isn't rich but dares to do everything to give me a good and quality life. That's sweeter, right...
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@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 10
The important thing is he cares to make you happy and at the same time keep moving forward for better future. I do think he is a great guy :D All the best and may both of you be happy always!
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
it depends to the kind of guy, if that wealthy guy is loving and a good person then i would love to marry him as i know i will learn to love him but if his wealthy but theres a problem with his attitude then no thanks, he can eat all his money if he want... i still prefer good and nice husband who can love me till end.
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@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 10
What if the guy loves you a lot but his family doesn't, and your guy is also an obedient person who is doing their family business?
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
I would be married to the one I love. That is for sure. It does not really matter what is their financial capabilities are. But if I will to choose on things like that, I would definitely like to marry a wealthy one. hahaha! There are so many consequences, yes, but its part of it!
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@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
30 Sep 10
Haha... hopefully you'll find your wealthy prince charming soon :D
• United States
29 Sep 10
I would choose an ordinary guy. And being ordinary doesn't mean that you have to dream about having things. That's what eduation is for...If you get an education you can get a good job with a good pay and have the things you want/like.
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@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 10
Nowadays, education doesn't equal to success. You might have the best education but you might still lose your job in financial crisis. One must be unique and bring value to the company/organization in order to success. That comes with EQ as well as experience, not purely education.
@Angelwriter (1954)
• United States
29 Sep 10
Ordinary guy. I've never envied people who marry into royalty or high powered families, because sure they'd get perks, but they'd also lose freedom and have everyone scrutinizing your every move. Besides, who's to say that marrying an ordinary guy means having things is only a dream? The guy I marry could move up the ranks in his job and become rich like that. Or, I could do the same thing. And we'd have money without the old family rules and restrictions to deal with. Where you are now isn't necessarily an indication of where you'll end up. That guy that was born into money could lose all his money. So, if I didn't have anything else to consider besides the choice between money and freedom, I'd choose freedom.
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@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 10
Nicely said. One still needs to dream big when she marries an ordinary person. Who knows maybe he will be billionaire of the future :D
• United States
30 Sep 10
I would choose to marry the MAN I love, who loves and respects me and I want to share my life with. I don't care about his family or how much money he may or may not have. Marriage is about the relationship between two people. Not families or money.
@bardgirl (362)
• United States
29 Sep 10
It would be great to have wealth. That's doesn't necessarily mean less freedom because money does make things easier.
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@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 10
When i say less freedom, i mean you have to abide by rules of your wealthy husband. Maybe you can no longer hang out with the close friends you have prior to marriage. Can no longer act crazy in front of the crowd, have to learn how to treat your mother in-law well etc. Money does make the other things easier but there comes some sacrifices you need to make in order to have it.
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
A key factor would always be love. Financial wealth come and go. Family traditions change too as years go by.
@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 10
Actually love too might go away if you don't keep it alive. That's why we need to remember the good points in our partner and also accept the bad points they have. No body in this world is perfect :p
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
Love will keep us alive. Isn't this a song from the Eagles? =) And yes, no one is perfect.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
30 Sep 10
I married my husband because I love him. To me, wealth, or lack thereof, should not play a role in who we marry. Wealth can be gained or lost in the blink of an eye. I would rather be married to someone I truly love and have to work hard to gain wealth together, than to be married to someone who I don't truly love just because of money. Regardless of financial status, every couple has their issues. Money should never play a factor in who we choose to marry.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 10
Hi, I believe every woman would dream to marry a rich man(wealthy family),but with less freedom and more regulations to follow, I will still choose ordinary man with simple lifestyle. I don't have the luck to marry a rich man,but I am happy with my current life. I have a lovely husband who give me a simple life.At least, I have more freedom to decide what I want to do and not many regulations in the family.As long as I do my duty and perform my work well,everything goes well. I am staying with my in-laws now and I am glad that they are a nice person. They treat me well and as their daughter in law, I have to give them a full respect.
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@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 10
Glad to hear that you have a happy family. Sometimes, money is not everything in life. A good and loving husband and nice family is the best gift you will get. Have a nice day and all the best to you :p
• Mumbai, India
29 Sep 10
Definately 99% of girls would prefer to get married in wealthy families or to a wealthy person. well being married in a wealthy family does have its benefits. loosing freedome is not always a thumb rule, some families are extremely versatile and do give a lot of space to their family members, though it won't be most of the times. Having a lot of wealth does attract a lot of unwanted attention because of which they are so concious of their conduct in public and would go to any extent to protect their false prestige. so it is definately a big dis-advantage, but most of the girls would chuck it, money matters more :D. yess a lot also depends on a girls previous life, if she is born in a poor family or has experienced financial crises in life she would definately marry in a wealthy family. Well for me it doesn't matter if my wife comes from an extremely rich family or a poor. I would prefer a girl with Whom I have a great bond with, with whom my relation will be above class and money, these things though being around should not interfere. I won't marry a highly money concious gurl in the first place.
• India
29 Sep 10
i would marry only the girl of my dreams whether she is rich or poor
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@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 10
You mean even if she is million times richer than you and you have to follow her family tradition etc....
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 10
I believe every woman would dream to marry a rich man(wealthy family),but with less freedom and more regulations to follow, I will still choose ordinary man with simple lifestyle. I don't have the luck to marry a rich man,but I am happy with my current life. I have a lovely husband who give me a simple life.At least, I have more freedom to decide what I want to do and not many regulations in the family.As long as I do my duty and perform my work well,everything goes well. I am staying with my in-laws now and I am glad that they are a nice person. They treat me well and as their daughter in law, I have to give them a full respect.
• United States
29 Sep 10
Well once I married into a wealthy family I could do whatever I wanted and be myself. I wouldn't care what his parents would think as long as we were still good together. I've lived my life this entire time always wishing I had more or wishing I had more money so I could help my parents and others. If I were wealthy I would start scholarships and fund local education programs and help animals and all kinds of stuff, not just buy stuff for myself.
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
29 Sep 10
In my opinion, you marry one person, not his/her family, so I don't really care if that person's family is rich or poor, as long as I love the person I might be marrying and we could be happy together. Of course if this person was rich our lives would be easier, but you don't fall in love with someone's money, but with the person itself, isn't it?