Is it better to expect or not to expect at all?

I tend not to expect at all.. i just want thing to to come just a surprise i do not want to expect because for example when you are expecting of that special someone of yours is not coming without knowing she/he will not be there soon so you regret...and for me its painful especially when its very important so better not to expect at all just wait thing to come..

we must not expect at all because if we expect something and there wont be something for us we will be hurt.but if you don't expect something and you receive then it is much more okay.so you should not put your expectation high.

I think that it's important to keep hope alive and I would say that it's always a good thing to hope and believe that things will turn out alright. I think if you give up on the idea of expecting things to happen then life suddenly becomes very mundane and boring. I'm trying to keep hope alive myself and I must admit that it is very difficult at times. I think that it's always going to be a case of life throwing obsticles and hurdles in our way and we just have to deal with them and sometimes there can be huge disappointment. I like the words doing your best as I suppose that's all we can do and as long as we are doing our best for ourselves then there's no chance of us becoming disappointed with our actions. Andrew

I have been going through that same thing. So now i also stop expecting for the better. If i do expect something, I will expect for the worst. That is the way I am going to do things nowadays because it aint worth me being upset and sad.

Behind every expectation there is always disappointment.. so, you had better don't expect at all. Not to anyone, or anything. You stop expecting, you will also at the same time stop feeling disappoint. Just do your best and live your life.

i just take a look and realise that many people agree not to expect,However honestly everything we are doing should need some expectation .because it is the answer for the simple question what are you doing this for .And i think this will create motivation for us to do the job

Desire is the basis of all suffering, like said by my dear Sidharta Gautama (Bhuda). If you do things without expecting anything in return, all that you got comes as a bonus, so you will never be entitled to lose something. Just living the life to its fullest, enjoying both suffering and happiness with the same enthusiasm makes your life a way easier. Trust me (but do not expect the lines I wrote to work with you, lol)!!!

expecting is human nature, we need that sometimes specially when we put our hearts and soul on something, so we expect for a great outcome. in a relationship too when you put your everything you expect the other person to be like that to you too. but in some other ways i do let it come, wait for it without expecting anything. it is always THY WILL BE DONE. so there are times that i expect and there are times that i just wait for the outcome.

When I tell my children that I expect a certain amount of good conduct when we go grocery-shopping or just about anything in our daily life, as long as it's reasonable enough I realize that they do as expected. So I tend to expect things sometimes. But I try to be reasonable and realistic enough.

do not expect things before it get done.this is what i learned from the past things i have did before.it it not a sudden result then do it first, take an action till it done.then give an expectation based on the quality or what you did to get it.i always did this when it comes to thins like an examination paper.but it's too risky.if you don't like to take any risk better not to expect anything so you won't get upset when things does not come up like what you expect it to be.

Well i think life should be a bit of both. However if you ask me i don't always get what i expect so i stopped expecting and am giving life the chance to always surprise and it has. Though it maybe good or bad it's still a surprise. I believe that there is not much fun if we always get what we want and sometimes it should be the other way around! Cheers!

I think its better not to expect anything at all. For example before whe i was believing i Horoscope, Ialways expected for the good news to happy for exmple when my Horoscope said I will get money today or I my relationship with my life partner will improve, all the contrary happen.. Since then I never expect anything and i convince myself that if it is in my destiny then it wll happen and better I dont think about it.

i think we should not expect anything from any1

less expectations, less hurt. no expectation, no hurt. honestly, we can not avoid ourselves for not expecting for something sometimes, that if the result would be the opposite of what we want we tend to be disappointed and hurt. Im a giver person, so im expecting that i would receive equally, but i realized that we have a unique identity. we were not alike, we were born as unique individuals. so, when you give, give it all. dont expect something in return. :)

It would be quite a challenge to stop oneself expecting things, as then you may be expecting to stop expecting. The mind is very agile and difficult to control in this way. As a Zen practitioner I aspire to the discipline of living in the here and now. There is no tomorrow right now, and yesterday no longer exists. There is only now. I develop these abilities using daily meditation because I have learned that desire only leads to more desire anyway with further expectation that may or may not be realized. In the here and now, I aim to focus totally on whatever I am doing - doing it mindfully and expectation can easily fall away. However, this is not always the case as we all have to learn how to transcend our earlier conditioning of wanting change all the time! There is a link to an article on meditation in my profile here on myLot. _Derek

Expecting something based on what you do is normal because we always expect the best in everything. But we should also include the bad things to happen when we least expect it. I too have acquired the habit of not expecting big things because most of the time it only gives me disappointments in the long run. By doing the right thing and do it your best you give each task or job your best shot and there is likely that good result will follow on. But if failures come with it then at least you can say to your self you have done your best come what may.

If you don't expect anything...how can you have anything at all? life is full of expectations... to me when I do something I expect the best possible out come yes I know some times things don't work the way I like but I try it again...putting effort love,and dedication...I always expect success even if it's in a little way. Expectation is what keep life interesting and something to look forward every day!

In my experience about this matter is that better not to expect. Because most of the time I expect something never happen but when I did not expect things it will happen... If I cannot expect any visitors in our house. There many visitors to come but when expecting a friend to visit not come? So, in that experience I never expect anything...to happen Have a nice day!

For me, I've always been the person that will either expect the worst or not expect anything at all. The reason for this is that there have been a lot of times in my life where I've been let down and I've learned that it is better for me to expect nothing or the worst and then I am always pleasantly surprised when things turn out for the best. This isn't to say that I am a pessimist because I really don't feel that I am, it is just something that I've learned to do in my life.

Hi santosh You are right, we need not expect much and be satisfied with what we have in store for us.But as human being, we have high expectations always, though all expections never come true, many remain unfullfilled.. I believe we are facing our karma each second, if we had done good, we are getting more good, if we did bad, we are getting more bad..Nothing to get disappointed or worried for. It is the law of destiny, reality is always different from dreams.. Thank you so much for sharing. Professor. . Cheers have a lucky day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.