The best part of the marriage vows

I have not been here in a long time but as usual, your question has inspired me to write. The very essence of marriage vows was to make a promise of faithfulness and caring from both partners for life. It was said before God and witnesses so that no one could dispute the promise. I look back on my own life and think about the "sacred" vows taken at the time of my marriage. You ask if they still apply today. I wonder. 32% of people together today are not "married." This means they live as a couple but never said the vows to one another. They love the same and fall under the same"rules" as one who actually spoke the vows. But, the question is, does the vow still apply to today? I think the vows that are promised to one another are still as "sacred" as they ever were. What the rest of the world is doing should not have an effect on the individual love or promise of two people. For a marriage to survive there must be the faithfulness and each honering and respecting one another. If not then isn't it really just a "one night stand" that continues day after day? Isn't the open door to "cheat" exactly that... an open door. I am not a prude nor am i guiltless in the unfaithful area. I did cheat and it did effect my marriage greatly. We remained together and continued to love one another VERY deeply. But the sacredness and "TRUST" of our marriage was ruined forever. She said never again would she fully trust me and when ever I had to go somewhere, her mind and heart would wonder who I was with. That was a trust i never was able to fully get back from her all the way to the time that she went to heaven. Sadly, now that she is in heaven, it can NEVER EVER be made right. For me, I never again gave myself to one person and will probably never give the promise of Forever to another. does it make a relationship I am in less than Love? I dont believe so but there IS a lack of total commitment because I refuse to take the vows. Why??? Simply because I can not promise with an honest heart that I will Not do the same thing again. And i dont want that feeling ever again. In answer to your question, sweet lady... Yes, they should always be honored but Life doesn't always fall undr the phrase A simple life." Hugs for you my dear sweet lady... I hope we can sitnd talk awhile soon. Thank you for the stimulating question. As always, Darrel XX

Yes my vows are very important to me. I can't control how Hubby feels about them so I don't even try.

Good morning, I tried to hold on to mine but my ex didn't coperate, lol. I think it is pretty much become obselete & that's a shame. I love to see people that have a good marriage. I wish i had, had one but i didn't.

We don't have such vows here in marriage, but we do follow some other format of vows like promising in front of the fire, the whole marriage thing is entirely different which takes place in front of a little Fire.. Both the Bride and her Groom Promise and the husband ties three knots to his wife stating that he will take care of his wife at all circumstances and the wife letting her head down telling that she belives her husband in all manners a nd help him in all ways to succeed in Life..

The lord decides, past and present and our future.Whatever happens is definitely according to His super plan,,we all go wrong,, it's a material world.

The best part of marriage vows in not necessarily the words spoken. it is not the emotional state we are in. it is the bond and union of two people who now face a future together. The promise of that future is the best part.

It would never be obsolete for me, and I do not think it would be for many of my friends. Yet, when I stayed through my first husband's illness, I was told that many people would not have done the same thing. I cannot imagine not. Just as I cannot imagine not staying through a financial crisis.

Hi Zandi...it's not a question of obsolete or applicable. A vow is a vow. It's a sacred promise made by one person to another, in the case of marriage by two people to each other. Vows are broken. People lie and cheat and disrespect each other, themselves and their vows.

Most Hollywood marriages ended up in court... divorce! I think it is because they do not fully understand the real meaning of marriage. Which is to commit yourselves forever. I am not judging those people but for me. I want my marriage to be forever.