I am not like other parents out there, I am my own person! Don't compare me!
By cream97
@cream97 (29087)
United States
October 5, 2010 4:54pm CST
I am so sick and tired of older people telling me about who they think that I am. The social worker at my daughter's school was telling me about how to teach my daughter her colors. I don't think that she was trying to compare me to other moms, but it sure felt like she was. My daughter's teacher wants me to work with my daughter more on her colors. Which I am already doing while we are at home together. When she told me this, the social worker then told me not to force my child to learn her colors. She said that she has seen and heard where many parents constantly drill their child into learning their colors. I told her that I was not doing or planning on doing this to my child at all. I have never forced my child to learn something. I have always worked hard to encourage them all to learn the things that they need to know for school. I am not hard on them at all. I understand that my children have their own time frame that they will develop to understand certain things that concerns their education. I am not like other parents. I have my own special style and techniques that I use on my children to make them excel greatly. I don't try to be like any other parent out in this world either. I say to myself, there has to be a reason why people always knock me down. It is because of the fact that there are parents that don't do what they are supposed to be doing with their own child. This makes grownups criticize me more. It is very unfair that I have to be fussed at for someone else mistake. If I am not a bad parent, then why do people treat me like I am?
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8 responses
@tupeiwei (42)
• China
6 Oct 10
i am sure you will be a quite good mother,"i have never forced my child to learn something", you know there is few people doing this. i think your beheiour is right, we know the children are pure, we shouldn't entangle them, and we must let the children learn by themselves.
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@aurel83 (102)
• United States
6 Oct 10
well i dont think that you are a bad parent. i am sure that parents worldwide do not have same appproaches in teaching their children. i am sure that all parents want all good things for their children's development and future, and so you do.. some said that to you because that thing is exactly what they do to their children. i think, you should not have feel so offended by that. just take and thanked for their advises. raising children is your right, after all
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@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
6 Oct 10
I know how you feel. It's the same as when parents compare their children. Everyone raises their children differently, but as long as you don't abuse your children or harm them in any way, then I think that you are a good parent. Any way that you want to raise you child that isn't harmful to your child is perfectly okay.
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@AmbiePam (85700)
• United States
6 Oct 10
Girl, this is just how people are. I know it's hard, but try not to take it personally. It's just what happens. My first grade teacher tried to guilt my mom because I couldn't cut with scissors. You know why? I cut with real scissors at home, not those child proof scissors my teacher gave me! My mom thought it was hilarious, that that was all the teacher could come up with when it came to working with me at home.
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@beaniefanatic13 (5076)
• Grand Junction, Colorado
6 Oct 10
Just curious as to why there is a c=social worker at an elementary school? Not sure where you live at. Are you sure it's a social worker that is involved?
People love to criticize others, and no it's not right to lump people up together, regardless of age.
If your child is behind in the rest of the class, perhaps he/she is on the young side of the class, not on the same age level. all children learn at different speeds, and by different teaching methods. Perhaps your childs teacher isn't norturing enough and this could cause your child to shut down in class. Many reasons.
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@celticeagle (159572)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Oct 10
If your techniques work then I wouldn't worry about it. Some people are just weird. Teachers that you would think would have a open mind sure don't sometimes do they? Repetition is best I think. It may very well be that they have had some adverse experiences with other parents and so they think you are the same way.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
1 Jan 11
You go girl!
Be your own individual self.
That's really what matters and it's
what makes you an excellent mom.
You don't have to drill your kids
with flashcards or other artificial
methods of learning.
I tried flashcards once or twice and it
was ten dollars wasted.
My daughter learned more from free online
educational games and from Sesame street.
By the way, Sesame street is very good
educational TV that teaches colors, basic
number concepts, etc. for preschoolers.
Check it out.
My daughter was around three years old
when she first started watching.
She was very quiet and shy at the time.
But, within a week, her language
capacity blossomed and she began
saying all kinds of amazing things.
Doctors said she would have learning
disabilities.
What do doctors know, compared to a loving mom?
Good for you that you would stand up
for your child's right to learn naturally.
Keep at it.
You are an inspiration to others.
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
6 Oct 10
I think that I will be different once I have my own kids. I don’t want to have what other parents have just to feel like I belong or I am like the real mother. What I want is what I want for my kids as long as it’s good for them and they’re ok and happy about everything I have for them.
