What if your husband say this...........?

he saw you have a chatmate?Were you having adult conversation or just a general chat?If it was a general how it is you fault?I Whatever he does an says sound like a manipulation trick to me. Answer of your question is yes i would feel bad if my husband says he dont love me same way as he sued to once but if he said there is some as stupid reason as this then i will be furious instead of sad.

you make your husband jealous, huh? You naughty girl, it mean he love you very much and feel hurt of what you are doing right now. It is time for you stop doing. Oh...you have a very nice avatar. Cheer up!

Hi Mods, If it were me and if I really loved my husband, I would take it to mean that I hurt him very deeply. If that chatmate ment nothing to me then I would tell my husband so and show him so by ending my chat-mate. I'm kind of old fashioned I guess but if I were to converse with a man on-line, I would let my husband know about it. There is nothing wrong with it at all if it is all innocent and you have nothing to hide. If it bothered my husband so much then out of respect, I'd not even have a chat-mate. My husband would be more important to me than anyone I would meet on line. I think the real problem here is that he found out and was taken by surprise maybe? For me, it would not be my husband talking on-line to another woman but the secrecy that would bother me.

I would be very hurt if anyone i loved said those words to me. it would be even more devastating to come from a husband. i would definitely come to the conclusion that our relationship was in trouble. i would do whatever i could to turn those feelings around. if i couldn't, the relationship may not last.

For me I feel not good and the true love the both of you are near to break so sad but make the dislike to be like again to your husband.

Of course, I'll be hurt and feel bad, definitely it's not a good sign if your husband will tell you something like that, but of course you must also take into consideration what makes him feel that way towards you. Remember trust is one of the most important ingredients and the foundation of a successful relationship. Lack of it can cause serious problems and is actually the most common reason why relationships end. Trust is something that must be earned and maintained with action, not just words. Without it relationship is like a house without foundation - shakey at best.

So, if I understand correctly, you had a chat-mate and something about that chatting made him feel that you were in someway cheating on him. Is that correct? I assume you were chatting about more than the weather. You have looked at the situation from his perspective and understand his hurt, and you have apologized. That is all very good. His comment about the 40% at one time may have been an attempt to express his hurt over the situation. But the answer you both need is to accept and forgive what has happened, and now move forward. He cannot live at 40%. If you both can honestly admit that your relationship has been harmed, then you can both commit to improving your relationship every day, starting today. I really hope you can get past this. If either of you continue to dwell on the 40% remark, it will be difficult. Wish you the best. djbtol

It is very hurting of course. When you are caught in the act chatting with someone else and you entertain it by showing interest to that someone. That is of course hurting on the part of your husband seeing you like that. It is if he almost lose respect to you. Good thing, he has still 40% love to you. Gain his trust again by showing him how sorry you are.

hi mida196621 what the hell did you expect if you were cheating by giving your chatmate what should have been your attention to your own husband? He would be really hurt and he would probably be really angry too.You claim its innocent and yet you do feel guilty so it was not that innocent at all.. I do not blame your husband as its a form of cheating., You are married to your husband and your attention should go to him not a chat mate at all.You can retrieve this marriage if you will be really good and pay attention only to your own mate. make your chatmates female not male and do not cheat again.

if I'm in that situation, I will be hurt. But I will do my part to save our relationship. I think you should work hard again, prove to Him that he's the only one. Show him more love and affection. Give him more attention. And pray to God to bless your marriage.

I will really feel sad and get hurt big time if ever I will hear those words from my husband in the future. Yes you made a mistake as a wife but I guess, if he really loves you unconditionally, he would be willing to forgive you because nobody is perfect we are all vulnerable to commit mistakes. As of now, you must really prove to him that you are really sorry and you will never do the same mistake again. Don't be afraid to express to him how much you love him with all your sweetness and tender loving care so that his love will not fade. Show him that you would do everything just to keep your relationship strong and that you really cannot afford losing him as your beloved husband. Help him understand the situation. On the other hand, he must also be willing to listen to you because listening also matters in a relationship. If unconditional love really reigns between the two of you, then I believe you will be able to surpass such misunderstanding and love each other more each day.Never give up. God bless!

If he saw you chatting with someone else, I assume that it was a guy. I think that marriage should not only be based on love but also on trust. If he's hurt, it's natural to withdraw. If you have been married for quite some time now, sustaining the love can be tricky. I suggest you apologize and earn his trust again by not engaging in chats if its already putting a burden in your relationship. Do some things that would make him feel important like giving him a surprise gift even when there is no occasion.:)