How would you feel if you have to be around your in-laws for a while?

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I may have to go over to my in-laws home tomorrow. I don't really want to go. I have not been at my in-laws home since October of last year, the same time that I have moved out of there. My kids and my husband have been back there since then though, but not just me. I don't feel comfortable going over there. My brother and my mother-in-law likes to ask me a lot of questions. Especially, my brother-in-law. It is like he is trying to figure me all out. I am a quiet person. They have told my husband that I am not bold enough to come out and say what I feel. They think that I am not the type of person to do that. But my husband assures them that I am. Why is my brother-in-law so concerned about how I can and cannot be. Why can't they all just accept me for who I am. If I am not the type of person to just talk freely to someone that I don't feel comfortable around. That is just me. They can tell a lot about me by observing me. They know that I am not as talkative as they are. I stay to myself. They can see this for their very own eyes. So, why do I have to prove myself to them? They have seen how I am. I have lived with them for many years. They act like they don't even know how I can truly be. They even told my husband that I need to get out of the house more. They said this to him, because they overheard a conversation that my husband and I, was having over the telephone. From this, conversation, they felt like I could not stand up for myself. Why are they so concerned about me and what they feel that I should be doing??? In the past, my mother-in-law has treated me very cruelly. She has only been mean to me, when no one else was around. She would treat me so badly when everyone was gone from the house or when we are alone together. I have learned to not be alone with her or any of her kids anymore. They all try to be sneaky by asking me personal questions or saying certain things around me to see what I may say. And this, I don't have time for. When my sister-in-law's husband comes over to her parents house, he is very quiet. He sits down and only talks when someone talks to him. I am the same way. So why won't they just back off and not expect me to talk but so much too? He only comes when she is there. He never comes when she is not there. My husband wants to leave me at his parent's house while he goes out and take care of business dealing with us moving into our new trailer. But, I am not feeling this at all. I don't want to be at his parent's house for not even an hour without him being there. Our kids will not sit still for anything. I know that this will not work with me, just sitting around, this only gives my in-laws the opportunity to pry and to ask many personal questions and what not. My husband thinks that this is the perfect time for me to be over there, so that I can be bold and let them know how I really do feel about them..