Is saying "i'm sorry" enough to make up for one's mistake?
@starlight_starbright (810)
Philippines
October 14, 2010 9:23am CST
Often times, people simply say "I'm sorry" when they do something wrong. some just say the words for the sake of closing out the argument without even clarifying things. Is saying "i'm sorry" enough to cover up the mistake and for any one to forget all about it?
For me, personally, when a person apologizes for something that he or she has done wrong, I expect that person not to do it again. I believe he/she understands that he/she has done wrong. Saying "sorry" often times is admitting one's mistake right? So I would forgive. But if he/she commits the same mistake again. I'm through with that person. How about you? What do you think? ^_^
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@hying80 (34)
• China
15 Oct 10
Oh yeah,i agree with you in this appion.If you let the things happend once,the second will come soon.but I am puzzled that I can't get this rule balance on me and on others,I always gave me reasons to escape from this punishment,and take serience attitude or no gaving one more chance.
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@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
It depends on the impact of others doings towards you. In your case, there comes what we call individual differences. It is how we personally deal with our own feelings. We have convictions that can never be broken by others' points of view. It is something beyond rules of human and god. No one can question us if we do something the easier way or the hard way. Thanks for posting! ^_^
@johnarvin1990 (9)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
For me it depends on the person. Some people considers "Sorry" as a magic word and some are sick of hearing sorries it all depends on the kind of person you are dealing with. And people's reaction to the word " I'm sorry" is always affected by his/her past. For instance if a girl came from a relationship that is full of lies and every time her boyfriend done something bad and will say "I'm Sorry, I won't do it again" the tendency is when the girl entered a new relationship and her new boyfriend commits a mistake she doesn't want to hear the word "I'm Sorry" rather she wants to see that her boyfriend is doing his best to correct his mistakes and to learn from his mistakes. To sum it up, it depends on the past experiences of the people whether they will like the "I'm SOrry" approach or the other approach.
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@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
lol! Hmm...in that case I guess it's stupidity. If the girl continuously believes that her boyfriend is really sorry about something that he did despite of doing it repetitively, I must say the word "sorry" has lost its true essence. It's meaningless. It becomes a word that would break her heart every time he says it, right? I think there should always be more than just saying it. Thanks for posting! ^_^
@jeannecjm (62)
• Malaysia
15 Oct 10
not really, damaged has been done. I mean if a person did something to me that causes me a lot of sadness and pain, apology can be accepted but it doesn't erase the pain away. Somewhere or someday when I get down, the pain will crawl back up and I will explode with emotional trauma.
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@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
True. Sorry can never ever changed what has been done and said. It'd better off if things are talked over. ^_^
@alokijon (665)
• Malaysia
15 Oct 10
Well, I think it is not enough but at least it gives some indications that the person is sorry for the mistake. The simple words, 'I am sorry' are really magical. It heals the broken heart and so on. Please do not expect a great effort from somebody that has done mistakes to you...just put in mind that 'I am sorry' is more than enough.
@ceasarette (145)
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15 Oct 10
"I'm sorry" doesn't mean accepting and regretting the mistake made, but also a promise not to commit the same mistake. When a person says they're sorry, I expect them to be sincere about it and to not do it again. But if they do, then sorry wouldn't be enough anymore. It also depends on the severity of the mistake. If it was an honest mistake, then I can easily say it's okay. But if the mistake was something stupid and could have easily been avoided, then sorry won't cut it. Harsh, but I think people should be aware of their actions.
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@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
Yes. Wounds may heal but they leave scars that would remind us of the pains that we've gone through because of that person. From there we be cautious. It's for us to hate the person but to be cautious of what that person can do. ^_^
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
I do not think so my friend. Most people say "sorry" without meaning it. They say so for the sake of letting us not to argue. But for me, everytime I have done wrong, even though it is hard to say it because I am guilty of it, I still try to say sorry and keep it. I also try not to do it again or commit the same.
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@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
You have a point on that. That's actually the reason why I started this discussion for I know that the meaning of "sorry" has been long taken for granted. To tell you frankly, it's one of that hardest word to say for me. They might tell me that I am obnoxious or whatever they call me for not apologizing but for me, I won't say so if I believe and I know that I have reasons. I may apologize for the pain I caused but not for something they thought to my mistake. If it's for my good intention, I will never admit it to be wrong. "i love you" and "i am sorry" are just not so easy to say. ^_^
@banban (601)
• China
15 Oct 10
Sometimes, saying "I'm sorry" when doing something bad is not enough for his/her mistake, only if he/she really realises the mistake and gives the apology sincerely.
Usually, I would forgive people after they show their sorry to me. You see, if you let it bother you and make yourself unhappy, that's unworthy. Forgiving comes easier.
But if there is a person who says sorry often and doesn't change, that would really make me unhappy, and I don't want to see him/her anymore...
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
14 Oct 10
Hi starlight, I guess it depends on the seriousness of what the person has done. I do agree with you however in that when someone says they are sorry, I would not expect them to do it again. The friend who acts this way is insincere and clearly wasn't sorry in the first place. Once again however there may be other things that I would want to take into consideration before breaking off the relationship. Blessings.
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@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
Hello Pose123,
In a relationship, it weighs a lot heavier. I guess "sorry" in breaking up means so much. No matter what it takes I guess that is the most valuable words one can utter when saying goodbye. Only that it would also be the most painful words to hear from someone you have loved.
@Wizzywig (7847)
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14 Oct 10
Its very easy to SAY 'sorry' - its an altogether different matter to actually BE truly sorry. Sometimes people say it just to try to appease the other persons anger or upset but, other times people have not given thought to their words/actions until the damage is done - at which point, they really ARE sorry. Sometimes, even that is not enough.
Yes, if someones apology is genuine, we should expect them not to repeat whatever they are apologising for.
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@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
^_^ yes. Sorry is such an easy word as it is. But it comes with responsibility. Thanks!
@midnightbliss (541)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
for me saying sorry for something wrong that you have done is just the start, of course you have to show and make the other person feel that you are truly sorry. you should make efforts of make some peace offerings to show your sincerity because anyone could just say sorry but not mean it.
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@misheli (552)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
It depends on the person saying sorry to you. If you can see that saying sorry comes from hie/her heart and very sincere I think that would be enough for the person mistake. But if he/she says sorry and still do the same mistake again I wont forgive him/her anymore.
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@etmahawanD (65)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
For me, saying "I'm Sorry" is not good enough, because sorry is cannot fixed anything, and saying sorry is a sign of weakness nothing but weakness. So that's why i don't want somebody to say I'm sorry if you know and she/he knows that she/he will do it it again.though is good to forgive and forget BUT not all the time. sometimes we need to learn from our own mistakes.
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@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
Hmmm...that rings a bell. There was a guy whom I was so angry about. He just did something that I never talked to him for over a year without him knowing what he's done wrong. Few months ago, we met at a party and it gave me a chance to confront him and asked "why?". I was expecting him to clean up his name and just say "I'm Sorry, I didn't mean to do that". He did not apologize. He did not admit that he has done wrong. But guess what he said? He looked into my eyes and said, " What can I do to take that anger away? What do you want me to do for you to believe that I didn't really mean to make you feel that way?". I was speechless. I didn't know what to say. I told him nothing. The way he replied to me, even without apologies, I guess I heard enough to believe him. And now, we became very good friends. ^_^
@bebang0915 (93)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
i agree with you, saying sorry is not enough especially if he or she is not sincere. i also do mistakes and what i do is aside from saying sorry and asking for forgiveness, i try not to commit the same mistakes again.
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@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
Yeah, right. The most important thing there is you must try to do it again or else, the word will be meaning less. ^_^
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
15 Oct 10
Hi,
I fully agreed with you...If I were to do something wrong, I will
apologize to another party and say "SORRY" and make sure I won't
repeat the same mistake again and I will pay extra attention to my
careless.
However,sometimes the word of 'sorry' may not really settle the problem that I have
created and for me, being a responsible person, I have to help up
to settle the problem,although I may not be able to settle it alone,but at least
I want to contribute my strength to solve the problem.
SO far, in my live, I have never done any big mistake and I hope it never
happen to me. I am always very cautious before making any step/action, because I
am not a risk taker.
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Making amends for a mistake has to begin with "I'm sorry." it should not end there. There has to be more to making up for a mistake than just words. Your actions have to prove it too.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
I remember one naughty boy saying the word "sorry" as he hit another boy with the point of his pencil which almost dug into the other kid's eye. Some homes seem to be sending the wrong message to their kids that it is okay to hurt others so long as you say "sorry" afterwards. That is why I believe sorry is not enough and should not make up for the crime or sin committed.
@MTElemiaC (65)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
say sorry for your mistake is not enough..what that sorry is not deeply came from your heart..when you say sorry..it should have feeling..to appreciate the person your asking the forgiveness..
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