When you are down and everything goes wrong for you, how do you cope?

You are lucky to have your husband's support and love. God bless both of you. I had the habit of writing in my diary when I was in my teens. But I left that habit later on in life. And I guess we both have the same taste. I read quotes too when I am depressed. These are either written by famous personalities or unknown persons. I even read religious books to know why all this is happening to me and to help me find peace within. Good day.

Yes. I know how it feels to have a baby at home and thinking of him/her would definitely take us out of our foul mood. But when I used to be mad or depressed, thinking positive was very difficult for me. I drowned in that and it was very hard for me to come out. This was before my daughter. Now everything is different thanks to her. I live for her. And I keep thinking too that things will get better.

Believe me I know its hard thinking positive when you have depression, I had for a few years and everything seems so hard, so difficult, and thinking positive is something that I didnt know how to do. Ive managed to beat and havent had it for a few years now, I hope you have managed to beat it too, you now have your precious girl to remind you how good things can be! Things will get better, it can take time but dont worry you will get there!

I have beaten it and now I look forward to living a normal and happy life. I do have my share of problems even now, but I am able to handle things differently than when I was in those black days. Life is good now. (I made it good for myself)

You are so lucky that you could forget your problem for that long. Sometimes when I am in a real mess, I do not forget it for even a single second and believe me, I have been in such a state for months together! I know that people have it worse than me but when I am depressed it goes so bad that thinking about others is impossible for me. But nowadays, I do not take things very seriously and have learnt to take life easy.

We all need something to hold on to in life and keep us going even when we despair, dont we fannitia. It is different for every person. For me and you, it is our daughters. For others it might be work, for some, it might be money, for some it might be something else. You are right in this case. I faced a lot of problems but even though I thought of giving up the fight, what kept me going was my daughter and her sweet smile. I did not want to spoil things for her and give her a weak mommy. And thinking about her in all things I do gives me the strength to fight back and not get depressed.

What you say is true. For some even though they receive a lot of support from people close to them, they always have to find ways and means of getting out of the mess themselves. I am one such person and even though there are people to support me, I dont find their help much helpful. I learnt that after suffering too much and now I think like you. I will give my best and let god do the rest.

That happens to everyone dheerajlko. It so happens that whenever something is not right for one person, it happens to everyone in the family. It is like happiness or sadness, they come as a group. Right?

That is a good way to relax. Nowadays I log into mylot and start answering to discussions which definitely changes my mood. I do forget what I was so upset about.

That is why I loose my bad mood when I am with my daughter. I do things with her and take her out sometimes so that both of us feel good and happy.

Sometimes I do the lashing out at my family too and immediately I feel sorry too. They are just concerned and I did not have to behave that way. But I am happy to have a daughter who makes me laugh and forget everything. And good that you find happiness in your innocent son's laughter. God bless you both.

That is something we all need to do, isnt it? Standing firmly on our feet. I sometimes get carried away and loose sight of what is happening around me. It takes some time for me to come to normal. But that does not happen anymore.

Wow. You sound like how they teach in my place. They say in my relegion that god will test your strength and your will power to stay on the right path and then shower you with blessings and a good life. May your faith grow. Good day.

Good for you that you are self sufficient. Most of us are not, you know? But yes, family does play an important role in our lives and it is a great source of strength and inspiration.

Seems like you have everything in control. Most of the time I lash out at my family and regret it later. I used to cry a lot, a lot in fact, but now I have found the strength to cope with every problem which comes my way. Thanks for the post and welcome to mylot.

I know how it is when you are a working mom. Thankfully I am now a stay at home mom looking after my daughter and husband AND myself. Life is tough for people who work. They have additional issues to handle and sometimes it all gets too much, having to deal with problems at office, at home and other issues as well! Whew! Wonder how you found the strength to do it so long. When I was working, it was the restroom for most of us too. I guess we have nowhere else to go. For my husband though, I am the sounding board. Poor thing, the problems are endless for him. And I make him share his problems at office with me and sometimes give him my inputs too. My daughter is my greatest source of strength and even though, like all mothers and kids, we argue a lot(she is just three but she does argue a lot!), she is always quick to sense when something is wrong and is always there to console me or sometimes even cuddle me which makes everything fade away.

Hi jaiho2009. That was a neat answer. But I would like to say that the sun is shining for me now and hope will shine forever. But I did face enough problems for quite a long time and I guess you are correct in a way. It is just that my outlook on things were different and I did not find happiness in myself and searched for it from others, especially my family. Now I am happy with what I am and how things are shaping out. And god was the reason I have my daughter with me today to hold my hand and walk with me as I do with her. So I know for sure that God definitely helps us when we are down and it is just that we don't look up to him for guidance. I was suffering for a very long time without praying. All I did was despair. But all of it started changing when I started looking up to him and all I could see was a quiet peace and strength that I could not find anywhere else. And that helped me think clearly and tackle my problems one by one and now I am much better. And my daughter is the one who keeps me go on and is the reason for my life now. I do not know what will happen or what would have happend without her by my side. Good day.

I used to pray to god for things to happen my way. But now, I just pray for him to give me strength to face the problems with courage and not break. Good day.

I know what you are talking about funkyguy009. Sometimes parents are a huge support to us. We all come to that stage where we just start accepting everything and that life has to go on, don't we? But it took a very long time for me to understand that and that is why I have faced a lot. And lost a lot too. Now after I have learnt this lesson, it is easier for me to sail through problems and issues which some years earlier, I would have created such a big fuss. And moreover, it is called maturity and experience. Good day and happy lotting.

Sometimes I used to cry myself to sleep. But that was long back before I found the strength to cope with all the issues bothering me. I wonder how you cook when you are upset?

Looking back on my failures makes me more depressed. But one good thing is that it has made me a stronger person and now am able to face problems with more strength and courage.