how do yu know if a guy is in love with you?...

Oh, my! We're on the same boat. I've been in a relatively new relationship with this person whom i love and care for so much,and we've been really good friends even before we started going out. He's not a 'showy' type of person because whenever we go out, he rarely holds my hand or puts his arm on my shoulder that can make others think that we're not sweet, nor even a couple. He doesn't say "I love you" to me, either. We only see each other during the weekend because of work, yet he seldom sends me text messages nor calls me. However, when he does call, he spends a maximum of two hours on the phone with me. When it's just the two of us, he's really sweet and caring, and he really shows and makes me feel special, important, cared for and loved. His family loves me, too, and they're very much in favor of our relationship. I had the courage to ask him, why we don't seem to be a 'sweet couple' in public, and he said that maybe he's really not that type of person and besides he doesn't care what other people say because the only ones that matter are us. I also asked him why he doesn't tell me "i love you", he said, "Perhaps I'm one of those few who believe that actions speak louder than words". Such a cliche, i thought, but that's him and I can not change him. Moreover, I read this somewhere: "Love is possible even when you're not around to hear the words, even when you can't see or touch the person because the mark that the person made will always reside in your heart." Maybe your guy is not big on words or terminologies either, but I guess we should not set standards on how they should love us. We should not gauge their feelings for us, period. :)

Hello bibispark2, It is really complicated to explain if a person loves you but in my personal experience and others said to know if a person loves you if he show an effort or time for you. This kind of attitude of a person has a big chance that he might loves you. Have a nice day and happy mylotting

To begin with you should start a relationship by getting to know someone. Know if he is respectful of women or not. It pays to talk to him about the things that bother you and that you would like from him. If he is open to it then he is a good hearted person and someone you might want to spend life with. If not, it is better to get out of it now than stay in and be hurt more than leaving now. If he respects you and treats you well then this could be love.