how would you feel if your bf said you are not his priority? O_O

It's really natural to feel bad because of what he said but you should understand that you're not the only person that he is responsible of. Probably now, his family needs more support than you do. Don't worry, once you guys got married, he'll be your priority but as of now, just support and understand him. :)

I would probably feel sad. if I treat him in a way I want to be treated the same way. so if he's my priority I would probably want me to mean the same for him. I don't want his life to go around me...we need to spend time on our own but he has to give me the same attention that I give to him

Personally I would no longer go out with someone who said something like that to me. If you are in a relationship with someone you don't have to be a high priority than family but you should be as much of a priority. That was a very harsh thing for him to say to you and if he is always going to put his family ahead of you then I would move on to somoene who will consider you a priority. I could see if someone was ill in his family or having a hard time and him needing to take care of that but to say you are not a priority is not a good thing and should not be tolerated, that is just my opinion.

priority. it connotes so many implications dear, maybe what he means right now is he needs to provide first for his family that is why he does not focus on you now, but that does not mean you are not Important. you got what i mean? plus you are not marrying him yet, or he is not your husband yet so be happy, do not rely on him. enjoy, and let him not be ur priority too, prioritize yourself, enjoy and have fun. there is too much too see in this world to focus on one human being

Sorry to hear that :( I can see that your bf didn't mean to tell you that for he made an effort to call you and maybe asked for forgiveness. I would feel the same way you felt. I would really cry and ask why he is telling me that im not his first priority, but of course if his explanations are really valid then i would understand. And of course i would tell him that i am trying to balance my priority for him so i do hope he will also try to balance everything in his life so as no will be getting hurt in the end..family or me. Or even friend o me..

for me it doesn't matter i just have to be on the list of important things is all and i'm happy.

Hi sweetlove, No doubt that you would feel bad when your boy friend come out with such statements. It is not fair but he may be really stressed out and may really need to be with his family. You be understanding and dont ever pressurise him , because it never works rather it only makes things worse ! there is a wise quote - "If you love somebody, set them free. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were " . all the best and take care

Hi sweetlove, I don´t know how old is your boyfriend, but I think that women want more commitment at an earlier stage of life than men. You are very young, but you are already a woman. But if your bf is of your same age, he is still a boy. I bet he loves you a lot, but he is not able to break the strings that tie him to his family. I did ot have that experience with my BF that was later on my husband because he was 7 years older than me.

Hi dear, Few things we always keep in mind that he may be 1st preference keeping for his family. Because, he is not yet married to you. In this case, he can keep the best and first preference to his family. So, nothing to be worried on this. You are saying that you have given the top most priority for him and it is not necessary that he should do it for you NOW. But, of course, after marriage he will do it for you and don’t take it seriously. He also like you and he may be worried about you. Please don’t make a feeling that you are just following for him for each and everything and sometimes he may get irritated. So, keep a safe and lovable distance and make him that you love him a lot. If he is the dependable person for his family, he should take care of them as well. You need to understand also such facts. After marriage things will change and you can keep him forever. Have you got my PM that I mailed. Please respond to it. You must have got it now. Regards, Thank-s

if ever my bf told me that. i would question. "why are we together" thats first off. being in a relationship has priorties. either you're first or second. to be honest. my family is number on in my life. and my boyfriend would be 2nd. there is no picking and choosing with my family. and my boyfriend feels the same. blood is always thicker, and blood will always be there. through it all. but if a guy ever told me that. that a wake up call for me. and time to leave.

Boys just dont feel the same way as girls do in certain things. So stay calm, the tension and anger will subside in certain time. Girls are much different. We regard them as the most important person.

glad he comforted you, but his family is his priority, so you know where you stand with him on that. So if you got to visit him you would have to accept the fact that he will have very little time for you when you are there.

Yes at first i will feel sad :9 but what can i do? he is only my bf for now..but when we are married and he said that i am not his priority then i e\will get mad at him

Hi sweetloveforeve, I am a happily married lady right now. When me and my husband were still engaged to be married, there are times that I would feel that I was not his priority. Yes, the truth hurts.... but after seeing to it that everything happens for a reason, I understand why he need to put aside our relationship in support of something more important to do.. (for the moment). But in a relationship that is founded by long lasting trust and caring, everything would then be alright and okay because you know, deep in his heart, his love's emotions priority will always be you as his partner and will always be yours forever. In today's situation as married individual... you know what? still priority shifts from time to time... And who needs more priority and attention than me? Of course our kids who made our lives more colorful, bright and lively. I don't care for the moment how he want to prioritized me... The condition of our kids will always be priority number 1 in our lives... Guess it brings the mother in me... Have a nice day!

I can understand the way you feel because i think you're very young. When I was 22 and my husband was my boyfriend then. He was three years younger than me and he was so full of love and passion that his world revolves around me. So I told him that he should not make me as his priority but his family and his studies first. No matter what I should only come second and never first. I also told him that in my case he is never my top priority. I said this because our lives shouldn't only be revolving around each other. At that time I was thinking that he would be my future husband and when that time comes then I can claim to be his priority. I think you should understand that you're not married yet nor engaged, you can't be too possessive of him even though you're miles apart. You should also put him as a second priority in your life and not the first.

If your using priority we will see to whom it will address and to whom it may compare. Like bf/gf we should know first that your not yet settled, not yet married so we must understand the situation. If comparing to family then questioning the priority he/she is selfish, so for me family first. In otherhand if girl/boy already married that is another issue which we need to give a careful view before action... see you around