My husband was upset with me, can't say I blame him.

@Thoroughrob (11742)
United States
November 5, 2010 11:43am CST
Saturday we were hanging around the house to get things done. I was working inside, and he decided to go outside and get the yard things done. I seen him out doing leaves, and went about getting my son around and working on laundry. The next thing I heard was the ladder being put up and the pressure washer going. I knew he was on the porch roof cleaning gutters and washing windows. I did not pay much attention, kept going on with my business. I kept hearing noises outside, so did not feel a need to check on him. The next thing I know, I hear him screaming for me, sounded very mad. I went outside, and his ladder had fallen in the bushes and he had been stuck up there for over a half an hour. His words were "I was making all kinds of noise to get your attention, can't you here anything." I told him I heard noises, but thought he was just busy. He was not a happy camper the rest of the day. I really felt bad, but yet after it was over, it was kind of funny. He did say that he thought about jumping off the roof, but it is about 12 feet in the air, and I am glad he didn't. Next time, I bet he makes sure he has a phone on him. Have you ever had something happen like that?
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@trixyteddy (1070)
• India
7 Nov 10
Not really, but just thank God he's safe. I would not want to think what might have happened and so on. None of us are perfect. I guess I would have done the same thing like you, continued with my chores. May be this is an eye opener for all of us.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
6 Nov 10
Hi Thoroughrob. It is funny now but bet you felt bad when you found out. I had done the same thing to my ex but I didn't feel bad about it cause I was mad at him at the time. I keep checking on my husband when he is outside only because I think he might need help. That is if I like you am not busy with something else. Glad your husband didn't jump off the roof, my ex fell from only 10ft and broke his neck one time and then about 6 months later he fell the same spot and broke his hip. Not a good thing to jump if there isn't a safe place to jump too. Glad everything turned out okay my friend.
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
6 Nov 10
I do not think you should feel responsible since he is the one who went up on the roof without the necessary safety items. Unless he had specifically asked you to come out and check on him from time to time, then he has no right to get mad. If you had heard him you would have rushed to his aid, so obviously you didn't. On the other hand, it is just common sense now to have a helper when making any kind of repairs, etc. on a roof.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
6 Nov 10
I'm very glad he wasn't hurt bad. I bet he was ill w/u, husbands always have to blame the wife for whatever goes wrong, lol.
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• Philippines
5 Nov 10
Oh my goodness dear, what is wrong with your ears. Is there something playing along your mind that you are so busy concentrating to do and not that sensitive? hehehe! sure that your husband really had his day complete by shouting at you and making noises. Anyway, it did not happen to me since I am so sensitive to noises and a very small squeaky sound would really wake me up at night and be vigilant. I hope next time you'd be alert. That is the reason why we are given 5 senses, not unless you are blessed with 6th. We cannot just say carry a phone always. Good thing that your hubby didn't jump else he would hurt himself even more.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
5 Nov 10
I heard him, but did not think about him trying to get my attention.
• United States
5 Nov 10
Okay firstly I am glad he is okay and not seriously hurt. But I wanted to laugh, although not a funny situation sounded quite funny. Anyways my brother-inlaw even after several attempts to tell him not to continue to climb on the ladder to do such things as he does to save money, fell off and well he broke his back badly. Cause him to be severely handicapped at the age of 41. So this is serious stuff. Why did your husband just not yell right away.
• United States
12 Nov 10
I agree with hardworking gurl. He should of screamed the moment he needed you not an half hour later. I fell down some stairs one time and cried for help. My husband came running out to help me. He should have been grateful that you were home.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
19 Jan 11
Wow!! Glad that you were home and finally heard him. I do not blame him for getting upset but yet how were you supposed to know, and hopefully looking back at it has taught him a lesson to where he might take his Cell phone, etc. up there now with him. I am sure that many times we get so busy doing things around the house, etc. that we often do not think about the noises we hear outside. I know that I don't even try to listen to them most of the time unless it was a Blood curdeling scream.
• Grand Junction, Colorado
5 Nov 10
Well personally I see no reason for it to be your fault. Had he called to you immedietly it appears that you would have come to his rescue, instead of making noise to try and get your attention. It wasn't your fault, it's called an accident or life. Maybe next time it happens you can acknowledge him and then tell him to take a few minutes to reflect how it happened and then decide who is to blame. The only person he should be upset with is himself. How did the ladder fall? Did you push it? No. Did he accidently knock it over? Probably. Yes I have had things like this happen, and yes they have been upset (at me) for reasons that had nothing to do with me but I still got the blame. I call this being accountable for your own actions. He shouldn't have been upset with you. LOL, I hope all is back to normal. As always just my 2 cents worth!!!
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
5 Nov 10
All is back to normal, Thanks.
• United States
22 Dec 10
i would have told him where he could stick his misdirected anger.it's not your fault the ladder moved.the phone is a good idea tho.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
5 Nov 10
Do you have bionic ears? lol Or are you his watch dog? Babysitter? NO. No offence sweetie but sometimes men need to be taken down a notch in order for them to realize such things. When doing things around the house or wherever, we make noise. Are we expected to check on them every 5 minutes? NO. So getting all bent out of shape didn't solve a thing so he needs to lighten up. He got stuck on the roof for a half hour? LOL That is funny! LOL
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
5 Nov 10
I just stayed away from him for the rest of the day. lol
@Outcast (632)
• United States
5 Nov 10
It seems a little funny now. Glad he didn't jump. He might have hurt something. Maybe he will just be quite if he forgets his phone and it happens again. But I hope it doesn't.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
5 Nov 10
I don't think he will ever do it again. lol
• United States
20 Nov 10
Well that was something interesting to read. I think you felt really bad having him wait so long. At least you should be happy that it wasn't for an hour. Some people and usually kids stay in the house at one place for hours a like, even if family members haven't seen them for a while. He should be able to reach you more easily next time, as the cell phone is a good fix for the problem. I hope you guys get the work done outside, and the decorations for the holidays will be done soon.
• China
16 Nov 10
Ahh,it's so funny!Your husband must be crazy then and how cute you are! Something funny about me ?I see,there are too many and just let me pick one small thing up!It was happened in high school,one day,afer the evening class,my friend rode a bike to take me home(I mean I was sitting in the back) and when we down a slope,there are a group of people walking toward us!For the speed is high,my friend was unable to stop then!So she chose to jump from the bike and left alone on the bike!The result is I fall down beside the croed's feet with screaming from both of us!It's so embrassment!
@lynnymac (105)
• United States
17 Nov 10
when i was a little girl my father was fixing the roof and my mother took the ladder away on perpose. she didn't leave him upthere long and we all had a good laugh. thank you for bringing to mind this sweet memory of my fun loving parents.
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
7 Nov 10
I haven't had anything like this happen that I can remember. I don't think he should have been mad at you. He should have been mad at himself for not making sure the ladder was more stable or that he had a phone on him. If he had made sure the ladder was more stable it probably wouldn't have fallen and he wouldn't have been stuck on the roof.
@AmbiePam (85779)
• United States
8 Nov 10
That did give me a chuckle. Not your fault though. : )
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
6 Nov 10
Great story, Thoroughrob!! I hope he is seeing the humor in it now that it is all over with.
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
7 Nov 10
I have not had that happen to me but a couple years ago someone was checking out my chimney and I thought well, I bet that ladder falls down or something--I'd better keep an eye on it. Sure enough, it did! I went out right away and set it back up and the guy was very grateful. Said he'd been stuck for an hour once because he'd left his phone in his truck and I told him he should carry a whistle or something around his neck. Sure enough, next time he showed up he was wearing a whistle! I hope your husband didn't stay irritated very long. I can understand why he would be but it really is a small thing.
@doormouse (4599)
6 Nov 10
lol,,that is soo funny,i can see why he was mad,but if i was in your shoes i would have found it funny and wouldn't have cared if he was mad,,omg,what a great story,i think if my bloke had done that in just would have stood there and wet myself through laughter
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Nov 10
In retrospect, I bet that you all both think that it is a little bit funny. That said, I remember one time my dad was helping his baby sister to drain her waterbed that was upstairs in my grandmother's house. Well, he was on the roof of the porch and once the bed was drained, he started down the ladder to come down and the ladder shifted, he fell along with the ladder and ended up with a crushed heel, so you should definitely be glad that your husband didn't jump off of the roof.