My aunt like to ransack my stuff....

Relatives like that generally only visit me once. I am probably not quite as polite as you are when it comes to people peeking where they should not. Most things are okay by me, but you go somewhere in my house I don't think you should, and you are very rudely told to leave and never return. It is one of the few things where my charming nature takes a back seat to my need for privacy. Sincerely and With Appreciation.

Hi Yspmyl, They tried to do it once when I was in my teens and the next thing I did was a Bonfire right inside the house - i just pulled out everything from the almirah and put that on fire... Since then... No one Dares mess up with my things. (I had no fresh clothes to wear the next day to college and then all my saved pocket money went into purchasing new clothes - the only consolation) Now after marriage... things have changed and all my belongings have been possessed by my wife. And I am feeling happy that she is doing all this getting me riddance of doing the Almirah and other things... What would you say to this? I am unsure. Cheers, theSids.

I personally would tell her to quit as she has no right to do that It is out of order to go to someone and check out what they have

I’ve come across people like that before! A lot of the time they don’t seem to realise how rude they are being! I would tell this auntie of yours that you don’t appreciate her going through your things and keep reminding her you don’t appreciate it! I have no idea how someone can just open someone else’s cabinets and take a look inside...Annoyingly offensive!

Wow! Such an Aunt you've got there. Nobody ransacks my cabinet now that I'm married but my older sisters used to do it before just to borrow some of my clothes, especially my jeans. I really hated that when they just took my things without asking permission.

Unfortunately, I've seen worst! My mom's sister (my aunt) is also like that but more. Often times she would just take something, say a headband from my cousin's dresser and put it on her and will not say anything. When my cousin arrives home, she just ignores her even though my cousin is eyeing on her. There were a couple of times that I have given her a really in-your-face kind of remark when she took one of my stuff without permission or what she called as "borrowing". To me, if you want to borrow somebody else's stuff, you should ask for permission, not just grab it and just use it because you know the person will just let you use it anyway. It's very annoying believe me. One time, she tried to use my laptop while I was at work. She texted me while I was at work and asked for my password. I don't know what to say, I was stunned at how rude she can be! I ignored her message and when I came home she asked if I received the text, I said I didn't read it until we were about to go home. To me those kind of people are similar to thieves. They should be told off for their actions if they keep doing it again and again.

I think you should stand up and tell her that it is not her place to go through your stuff! She probably knows that you are to uncomfortable to say something but you shouldn't be considering that she doesn't seem uncomfortable overstepping her boundaries. I bet if you could just tell her that it is not ok for her to do this that she would be shocked and she would probably stop. I would say something.

I will talk to my mum regarding auntie...bla...bla.. Or if really serious and my mood is not good that day, she'll get it! Seriously.

Oh I feel so upset for you to have such a relative. Personally, I don't have such relatives and wouldn't want one, LOL! I understand how you feel. Yea, it's very very rude to ransack other peoples' things especially when the home is not theirs! I mean, does your aunt abuse her status of being an elder give her such a right to do that?

This is about the personality and morality. If she is you very close auntie, then it will be all right. Maybe she is still treating you as a very young boy because of the age different. Locking all of your cabinets and wardrobe should be the proper and polite way to stop the auntie from opening them.

Feels like your aunt is irritating. It's really extremely rude to ransack other people's things especially without permission. Even if she is in your family, she does not have the right to do so. Have you tried talking to your parents about it?

Hey! that is invading your privacy! Sue her!lol! Seriously that is really invading your privacy, it's your things so it's up to you how you handle it. She can comment with your mess maybe outside your room or cabinet but to the point opening, that's beyond the line. Talk to her by the way and ask her why she is doing that.... ;)

Oh yeah. It just piques me when I notice that someone has gone through my things and forgot to tell me about it. In the first place, what's their business inside my closet, for example. Or my bag? It's plain invasion of my space. I know some people like this. In all fairness though, they really think they are doing something good. But its's just annoying and I can't find any reason why they should think of this as something that's okay. Especially if they try to hide it from you. Oh, that really makes my blood boil. Grr. Or see someone wearing your clothes and actually think its okay to stake a claim in your closet just because they think it's okay. I think it's really rude. If someone asked me for permission, I would readily, without even a pause, lend them something they like. But to take and have a looksy, without that process first seems offensive.

It's fine if my mom does that, but an aunt? No way! She has no right. Even if we are related, she's crossed the line to my private things. Why does your aunt do that? Wont your mother be offended? It's your mothers right to check your things, not her. I had an aunt like that. But she's not really an aunt. We call her Auntie May but she's my grandfather's sister. Every time she visits, she comments that our TV is small. Then she tries to clean the house. It's insulting. But what the heck, we let her do that. :)