Are you single? Or are you married?

@free_man (7330)
United States
November 13, 2010 1:11pm CST
I am married and happy in our marriage. I like the single life for one reason I don't have to answer to anyone about what I want to do. But I like being married because I like having someone to spend time with. I feel that this is the best marriage I have ever had because we spend so much time together and have so much time together. We work together and it is cool. Are you single? Do you like being single? Are you looking for that special someone to spend time with? Are you married? How long have you been married? Do you have fun with your special someone?
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30 responses
• Philippines
14 Nov 10
I've found that special someone. I'm a guy who's very unsettled at selecting girls. During my part relationships, i used to look at girls while i'm with my gf. Now with my present gf, i'm not looking anymore. I look at her not cuz i'm forced to but cuz i'm falling everytime i do.
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• Philippines
14 Nov 10
Thanks. I'm also happy that you've found your husband for life. Have nice day.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
14 Nov 10
Thanks Frontvisions. Hope you have a great day too.
@free_man (7330)
• United States
14 Nov 10
Hi Frontvisions it is so good when we find that special one that we can really feel that comfortable with. I am happy that you have found that special one.
@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
13 Nov 10
I am single at the moment. But by age you will see I am not old enough to get married as yet. I do want to get married at an early stage though. I dont really want to wait until i am too old to get married. But i heard you said " I feel that this is the best marriage I have ever had because we spend so much time together and have so much time together", does that mean you have been in another marriage before? Is this the first time being married?
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@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
14 Nov 10
I am really afraid if i do that i will not get married until i am old. My career choice is to be a surgeon and as you might know it takes many years of studying to reach that level. If i am to wait until i finish studying and actually start working to become married i will be very old by then. What do you have to say about that?
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
14 Nov 10
Hi Renhard. I wish I had been able to wait till I was much older. My mother wouldn't have it though she wanted the rest of us out of the house. She wasn't that old when she did this to me. I would finish studying and start working that way you will be able to stand on your own if it don't work out. Good luck.
@free_man (7330)
• United States
13 Nov 10
Hi Renard. Yes I have been married before never happy enough to stay with them. I was in a real bad marriage when I met this man I am married to now. I didn't cheat on my ex he locked me out of our home and this man saved me from being homeless. Do yourself a favor get your education first so if you ever do get married you can support yourself. Never depend on anyone other then God and your parents to guide you the right way. I got married at an early age and regretted it all my life. My mother wanted me married early because she got married at an early age. Not a good thing. Wait till you are more mature in your life and can take care of yourself before you get married. Thanks for sharing.
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@hanni711 (243)
• Philippines
14 Nov 10
I am married but i also enjoyed my being single before. Time comes when we have to chose the kind of life we want to have. It also came to me the right man whom I am married now. We've been married for 19 years now and we have two kids, a boy and a girl. We have a wonderful family though there are problems but we overcome by the grace of GOD.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
14 Nov 10
Hi Hanni and welcome to my lot. Sounds like a great marriage that has lasted for 19 years. It is great that any marriage last for that long. Not many of them do these days. We all have those problems and only by the grace of God we get through them. Have a great day.
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@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
13 Nov 10
I live with my boyfriend. And we spend great time together too. But it's not only the time, we are different - each with his character and this is really interesting for us, because usually we like different stuff, but most of the time we think the same way, we got same opinions usually and we share thoughts. It's great to have someone so close to you, sharing your emotions, and supporting you. To know that you can trust someone, without any fears - that's great. I feel really happy. It's much different than the single life, before we start our relationship. It was time for me to work more, to prove myself than I CAN, to try to know better people around me, to learn more about different characters ... Just kind of experience for life. Everything got it's plus or minus, you know.
@free_man (7330)
• United States
13 Nov 10
Hi Suggar. It is great having someone special in our lives. You are right there are always pluses and minuses. But the best thing about it is when you both are compatible. It is nice when you are thinking the same thing as your significant other.
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@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
13 Nov 10
That's right, Free Man, it's great when you got your person ... the right person, like you can read his mind and he can do the same, but you have to reason to be worried about that, because you expect only good things from that person.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
13 Nov 10
Hi Suggar. I don't have to worry about it I think I have the best man I have ever met in my life. I asked God to give me this man because I could see the love in his heart to all that are in his path. He is one of those that will do without to make sure that someone that is more needier then him gets something they need. If he hadn't come along I don't know where my life would have led me. But I don't think it would have been as good without him.
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• United States
14 Nov 10
I am happily married! I am still a newly wed. I got married here in St. Augustine Florida on the beach June 19th 2010. Ido not even want to imagine my life with out my husband! I really do not even miss being single at all.
@free_man (7330)
• United States
14 Nov 10
Hi CandyRayne and welcome to my lot. 28 that is a good age. Well congratulations on your new marriage. I am happy for you. Thanks for sharing.
• United States
14 Nov 10
And being a 28 year old homemaker house wife aint so bad either!!!!
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• Philippines
14 Nov 10
I am single and i enjoy being one. I am still open to the possibilities of a good marriage when the right time comes because marriage is a lifelong commitment with the other person and you have to be well prepared for that. With every marriage comes responsibilities and dedication to your family to make work it out. I can say, that single or married? Well, it work both ways for people, I guess you just have to make the best choice.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
14 Nov 10
Hi Larlarajkumari and welcome to my lot. I don't like being single. I guess the reason is because I had a lot of siblings we were never alone for long. You are so right everyday life comes with responsibilities. We make our lives up with how we live our lives. We always have to choose what is the right thing to do in everyday life. Happy mylotting.
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
14 Nov 10
i am a married person and i can't imagine myself being single... i had been married for almost 5 years now and i can't tell you how happy i am with my marriage... yes, it is full of ups and downs... but i think it is normal just as in any relationship... and actually those 'down' times add spices to our lives and relationships and make us treasure each other more... take care and have a nice day...
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
14 Nov 10
Hi Lingli. It is nice to have that special someone at your side. All marriages has their up's and down's. But as you said it dose add spice to our marriages.And it does make us cherish each other more. Hope you have a nice day too.
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@shaggin (71666)
• United States
14 Nov 10
LOL well I am married and I am single technically. I usually dont bother to tell people that I am married because I feel that I am single. My husband and I split up 10 months ago and when I called it quits that was the day I considered myself single. It was a terrible marriage so being single is amazing. I really need to go and get divorce papers filed but its a matter of having someone watch my kids while I do it and going to the court house to the law library and finding out exactly what I need to do to get a divorce. It doesnt cost much that way compared to if I had a lawyer do it. It will save me about $600 by filing for divorce by myself. Its going to be a no fault divorce where my ex will agree to the divorce and after the year is up we will be officially divorced. If I had filed when we split I would be offically divorced in January. I'm kicking myself for putting it off so long that its been almost a year and I still havent filed for divorce :( I wish my ex would do it but theres no way thats going to happen.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
14 Nov 10
Hi Shaggin. So sorry your marriage wasn't better. I know what you mean I had a few of them myself. Can't you file online? I don't know. But here in my state it cost only about 75 bucks. I am happy that your having a good time being single. I on the other hand love being married. I love my husband very much. I didn't like my ex I was in a real bad situation with him. Thank God for my new husband I have a great life with him.
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@shaggin (71666)
• United States
15 Nov 10
I've seen something about filing online but I dont know where to go about doing that. I am afraid to pay the $75 and have it not be a legit site and wind up wasting my money and having to go through the court house to do it in the end anyway.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
20 Nov 10
Hi Shaggin they have the divorce kit at some stores don't know if wal mart carries it or not. But my brother in law did it and it worked for him. Good luck on what ever you decide to do and may what ever you do be what is best for you. Good luck my friend.
@tonyllenium (6252)
• Italy
13 Nov 10
i am not married and so now i am single as well!!In reality i think i hadn't met a person with whom thinking about marriage before!!So if it will happen in the future will be ok for me but in amny cases is not easy find a good person to marry or think about it in reality!!
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
13 Nov 10
Hi Tony. It is hard to find a good person to marry. I have been married before and wasn't happy because of who I had married they weren't good men. But I prayed about it and God sent me a great man that treats me like I am a Queen. And I thank God for that man. Good luck hun on finding that special one.
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@denise002 (444)
• Australia
13 Nov 10
I'm single and enjoy my independants... i'm only 21 and i consider now to be my "me" time.. when i am ready to settle down get married and have kids i will dedicate my life to them because everyone knows as a wife and mother, they come first. so for now, i come first and i can do all the things i want to do and hopefully never regret not doing something. Then i hope to be happily married some day :)
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
13 Nov 10
Hi Denise. We all have those single days that we loved. I wish you all the best in what ever you chose for your life. I think it is wise to take that time to be yourself and grow up to where you feel comfortable enough to be a wife and mother. As you say once you become a wife and mother you have to set your family before yourself. Before you ever settle down though know the person you are putting your life into their hands. And lets face it some can't be good people. I thank God daily for sending me the man HE gave me.
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• Philippines
25 Nov 10
I am married but not happy. Good for you that you have found someone you can truly be happy with. Good luck with your marriage. Stay happy.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
10 Dec 10
Hi Fourjems. I was with my ex for over 12 years almost 13 and he drove me nuts daily. I stuck with him because I din't know what else to do. I prayed everday that it would be the last day. I left it in Gods hands and after all these years and moving 5-6 times God finally sends me the man I am with now. You have things that you want to worry about and it is hard I know it is. Keep the faith in God and HE will send you the person that will make your life a lot better. I will keep you in my prayers that God wills be done in your life.
@free_man (7330)
• United States
25 Nov 10
Hi Fourjems and welcome to my lot. I couldn't and wouldn't want to live in another marriage where I wasn't happy. Why are you not happy? If I wasn't happy I would try and see what I could do with Gods blessing how to fix the unhappiness. God gave me this man so I believe that God wanted me to be with him and him to be with me so I will always be happy. This man treats me like a queen he cooks he cleans and does things for me that no man has ever done for me. I do for him too because I love him as much as he loves me. We enjoy each others company we both like or love the same kind of things. We both work together and play together. We have a life that is blessed by God. Good luck on your marriage turn your problems over to The LORD and things will turn around. Become happy in The LORD and your life will be better.
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
Let's just say that over 9 years of living together with my husband everything in our marriage had always been rough. And now I don't feel the way I used to feel strongly about him few years back. Though I wanted very much to be free from my marriage I cannot do so for there are many things to consider. I have entrusted everything to God. It is up to Him what comes after or what will happen with us in the future.
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@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
9 Dec 10
I am married and have four lovely children who are my only prized posseeions I have. I live and will die for them. Butmy wife seems to be a pain in the neck. She is all the time patrinizing me, disobeidnet,disrepsectful and the list goes on and I regret being married. I am caught in between loving my children so much and hating their cruel mother. Life is not so rosy as people want to potrary, at least for me.
@free_man (7330)
• United States
10 Dec 10
Hi Jak and welcome to my lot. Lifes isn't a bed of roses we make our lives to what we are accustom to if we don't do better then we have what we deserve.
@free_man (7330)
• United States
10 Dec 10
Hi Jak. I wouldn't live with a person that I couldn't love. I would do what is best for myself and my children. What do you mean disobedient disrespectable ?
@sjaswon (635)
• Jamaica
14 Nov 10
Lol, I am single. I can't answer what I want to spend with someone. I don't know what to do. I hate to think of a lot myself. Ha ha.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
14 Nov 10
Hi Sjaswon. Oh well some people like to be single and some like being married. 25 your still young. Happy my lotting. Hi Nthum and welcome to my lot. We should all be able to enjoy our lives alone or married. Happy my lotting.
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@sjaswon (635)
• Jamaica
14 Nov 10
Smiling, I am 25 old years. I am still student.
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• China
13 Nov 10
i got married last year ,or rather near the spring festival ,in winter ,marriage is such a pleasure to every one ,i think so ,i like it ,i enjoy the process and the simple but sweet life after marriage ,i have my wife accompanied and i have my wife to care for ,each other ,face to face ,love to love ,it's what i really want ,i love my wife ,of course i am content and acitve to make enough money from a desire to provide my wife my family a better life . best wishes for you ,for your family !
@free_man (7330)
• United States
13 Nov 10
Hi Mrpoker. I hated being married when I was married to my last husband he was so abusive. But my new husband treats me like I am Queen. He cooks and cleans as much as I do. We work together which is great because we get the work done quicker and can enjoy the rest of the day. It is really nice being married to a decent man. Thank you for the best wishes. Best wishes to you and your family too Mrpoker.
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@dodo19 (47082)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
22 Nov 10
Right now, I am married. And we are very happy. I really can't say that I can complain about my marriage, my husband, or anything like that.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
22 Nov 10
Hi Dodo. It sure feels good having a good husband. I am happy that you are happy in your life. I know how good it feels to have a great husband. Thanks for sharing.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
Hi, I am married and very happy with my life now. But if you were to ask me whether I miss my single life..I would say "YES", I do miss my single life..what I mean is single but attached. That kind of life is so good,no stress and no burden. AT least, I am working at that point of time,..stil earning money for my own life and I can go to wherever I like without need to get a permission. I can sleep late..I can do what I like to do. So nice is that life. But once I got married, I have more responsibility and not much freedom as I am staying with my in-laws. I have to respect them and of course, I can do what I like, I have to always concern on their feeling and how they will look at me.But I am glad that I have a caring husband at my side. Now, I am a mother of one kid..my responsibility is getting more and more burden too. I can go out freely, I have to tag my son along everywhere I go. I can have my own "me" time now...most of my time is for my son. But I am glad that my son is getting bigger and he can be more independent now. But he still need my attention and care. Although I am married,but I have a happy family who is always at my side.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
10 Dec 10
Hi Shia. Just because your married you can still be free at times when you need that free me time ask your husband to take care of your son and take the time for yourself. I got married and love every moment I get to spend with my husband. I thank God we don't have children to worry about though. We are so active that we don't have much time to get bored. When he needs time I give it and when I need time he gives me that time too.
• India
15 Nov 10
Hello i was married in December 1966, it was an arranged marriage, we are a happy couple with kids, grankids, we have our own house, a happy sweet home friend.. Thank you so much for this discussion. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
15 Nov 10
Hi Professor. Wow 44 years that is a long time to be with someone. It is so nice to hear that an arranged marriage turned out to be so good. My mother arranged for me to marry a man I was only 17 and this man was so abusive I finally got out of it after 6 years of being beaten. I have never trusted any man since then. Then one day God sent me a real gentleman. Someone that I had a lot in common with. We have such a great marriage. I thank God for that each and every day I am alive. Thank you and may God bless you and your family. Thanks for sharing such a nice love story. It is great when we can find someone to really love and recieve the same love in return.
@jinjer168 (1596)
• Philippines
20 Nov 10
I am married and I love my present civil status because Ive already enjoyed my single life and so, I am very much prepared to enter into another phase and that is to have my own family. I am now 7 years married with my husband and we had a 6 years old turning into seven early next year, and currently, I am 1 and a half months preggy with our second child. I am very much happy and contented being a wife and a mother and im looking forward for more years that we shall be together, living our lives with the support of one another. Good luck to you and your family!
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
20 Nov 10
Hi Jinjer. Well congratulations on your marriage and your second child. Marriage is great for those of us that want to be married. Me I love my husband and thank God for him daily. I am thankful that I am no longer able to have children. But if I was I would have a dozen if that pleased my husband. Good luck and God bless you and yours.
@lady1993 (27225)
• Philippines
16 Nov 10
I am single... NBSB - No boyfriend since birth. And I like my life right now. No commitments, and I don't have to please someone or care so much about him. But someday I'd like to get married too..
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
16 Nov 10
Hi Lady. We all have different things in life we like and love. You like your life/love being single . Me I love being married to the man that I am married to now. But I never felt that way when I was married to all the other husbands. I hated those marriages. But God sent me a really Great Man this time. He cooks he cleans he works we have some great conversations. Yes we do have our spats but they have never turned into slapping matches. We get mad and we go do something positive then after a bit we apologize for what ever.
@back2guw (128)
• India
10 Dec 10
well i am committed now and will be marrying after 4 years i guess..i definitely liked being single, nothing to worry about,fly free like a bird,didn't have any restrictions but now...i can't even think freely...lol..but its a good feeling that at least someone is there who cares about me a lot..
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
10 Dec 10
Hi Back2guw and welcome to my lot. Married life is great for some of us but some don't like it at all. I don't like being single. I thank God daily that I have a loving husband that worries about me. It is a good feeling to know that someone actually cares so much about us isn't it?