How happy are you being single?

India
November 20, 2010 5:02am CST
I always had a feeling that people who are single were gifted when i was in a relationship with my boy friend.I was under extreme mental tension and stress during that time and i even broke up as there were so many issues.Now i am single for the past 9 months and i feel down sometimes all of a sudden.I have a feeling that i am lonely and i should have a boy friend in my heart but my mind says no.Do you people have the same feeling or am i wierd?
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36 responses
@calpro (930)
• India
20 Nov 10
I would say I would never be happy single, I am married to my wife 9 years ago and we have a four year old kid and we three of us just could not imagine of being single leaving each other. It is fine in younger age but when you keep growing older, Your loneliness will become a curse on you. Try not to be loveless dear. I also advice to my cousins and brothers to get married early. This is my opinion and hope it counts. Thank you, Calpro
• India
20 Nov 10
Thank you for the suggesstions.I always wanted to be independent and i expect my partner to give me some space when i am in a relationship.
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@tokwa99 (92)
• Philippines
20 Nov 10
hi babblu14 Being single its not a burden in life, because you're free from all and you do have most of your time. Being single is kinda lonely, whenever see you a couple, it will just remind you, the moments that you do have your bf.
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• India
20 Nov 10
Hello tokwa99 i have the same feeling when i see couples around sometimes.I wish i was commited :)
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@Freezole (246)
• Malaysia
21 Nov 10
Jonjee0203, i felt that way too..some kind of jealousy and irritating. It make me uneasy to look at them. I prefer to run away or do something or pretend normally.
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• India
23 Nov 10
I feel the same way.I have a feeling that i am inferior to others who are committed.
@heesaf (738)
• India
20 Nov 10
Being single is good only up to a certain age as per my view because in our student life when a person enters into a relationship it becomes very difficult to concentrate on studies because of issues that arises in a relationship....this in turn effects the studies which hampers our future..
• India
20 Nov 10
Ya very true Heesaf i have seen number of my friends who have lost their concenteration because of this.I am happy being single.
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@ordecai (46)
• Philippines
20 Nov 10
I am single for a long period of time.I would say im happy probably because my circle of friends are single too but i admit the fact that there are sometimes that i am alone i felt this being lonely perhaps but i used to it.for me advantage of being single is you dont have hassle of time,a demands of a partner ,and no one controls wherever i go.BUt what if these circle of friends of mine someday they have relationship,,goodness Im thinking sometime I'll be left alone.just for the record I dont wanna be get hurt again,,its a freedom that im single,,safe and secure..thanks anyway
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• India
20 Nov 10
If you have a good circle of friends you will never have the lonely feeling.
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@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
20 Nov 10
Hello again, i was really HAPPY when i was single. I had time for everything, but for me life was much working. I was a hard worker and it was the most important thing in my life. I spent great time with my friends, my family and working outside of home. Life was full of miracles, day by day, using the bus, listening music, meetings friends and different people around. It was really great time for me, because i could spend it with what i want. But now, when i got relationship from 1 year now, i'm HAPPY too, because i got person, who i can trust and person who support me for my decisions and wishes. It's not much different, actually. Now we still got friends, just some more expenses, because we work and pay our bills, rent and so on, but are love each other and life is amazing. If we could afford some money for fun, it would be legendary. Both things - single or in love are the same for me. There are pluses and minuses in both situations. You just change the priority when you are in relationship and this is really a good part of life, when you grow up, you understand what is life about, what you want to have in future and so on.
• India
20 Nov 10
I feel it all depends on the atttitude as you say.Thanks a lot for the response Suggar.
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@harry89 (2330)
• India
20 Nov 10
Well, i am still single and i am not enjoying this time at all nor i am happy . Rather i would like to have a girlfriend soon. My life is so alone without a girlfriend and it bites me a lot. I hope i get a girlfriend soon. Happy mylotting. Regards, harry.
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• India
20 Nov 10
well yeah i totally agree with you.I am single but i am neither happy nor too sad.I wish i had a boy friend but i am scared it may ruin my indviduality.
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@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
20 Nov 10
Too bad i am no longer so single laugh out loud.
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• India
20 Nov 10
You must be enjoying your life too.
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@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
8 Jan 12
Good morning babblu14, I am now single as well and have been for the last 2 1/2 years and I don't like it. I am used to being in a relationship and I find life to be quite boring not being in one. I was married for 12 years and then in a relationship for 8 years and then a live-in relationship that lasted 13 years. I couldn't live with my last one any longer because we just turned into hating each other and were miserable but I also don't like being single either. I find it is no longer as much fun doing things when you are doing them alone. I have pretty much given up doing a lot of things like bowling and pubbing and dancing because they aren't fun doing them alone. Swimming and skating and tobogganning and hiking aren't much fun anymore either. Same with swimming and fishing and camping, no longer fun to do. I really need to find a partner again but it is so hard when I live in a city that I don't know anyone and haven't found a way to meet new people yet. Cheers and TTYL my friend , Chris
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
24 Dec 10
My life is a total mess after I broke up with my boyfriend for 7 years. Months have passed but I can't still move on. Am still hurting that I decided not to go home for Holidays and spend it alone.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
20 Nov 10
me too, im single and im happy as of now, there's no argument with your lover. you dont need to ask your partner if you want to go somewhere. you only feel loneliness because you are only replenish your past with your boyfriend.just look for the future and new life,and forget your past.
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• India
20 Nov 10
Thanks a lot for your response.I am feeling better :)
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20 Nov 10
I am happy being single now and I don't need a certain person right now to get involved romantically. I am just contented being single because I still have my friends and family. I just enjoyed hanging out with my friends and do whatever I want since no one will prevent me from doing certain things that I do love to do with my friends. And being single means less headaches from boyfriends.
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• India
20 Nov 10
I do feel happy but not always.I am afraid to get commited as well as it has its own drawbacks.I may lose my individuality when i am in a relationship.
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• Indonesia
20 Nov 10
I am happy being single until now. Because a lot of my friend consult their stories, and there are positive and negative things about that. for example stress and their score in exam went down because of that. The example of positive things that you can get is u will feel that someone care about you. But, until now, i have my best friends that always support me. So, maybe later you will find someone that really love you. Let the time flow. And you should enjoy your life. =D
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@Freezole (246)
• Malaysia
20 Nov 10
honestly..i not happy being single..i feel lonely..but in certain perspective, is okay since i got no commitment to anybody, i can save my money and i can do anything i want. i wish to have girlfriend someday.
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• India
20 Nov 10
Thats so true being single has its own advantages but not always.You get the lonely feeling somepart of time.I do have that feeling now.May be i would get a boy friend someday !!
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• Philippines
21 Nov 10
Hi. You know what? You don't have to feel that way! :) We all encounter things like that. Being single is the best thing thats ever happened to you lately. Try not to worry, the best is yet to come. And no, you're not weird!
• India
21 Nov 10
Thats nice.Whenever am lonely il try to mix around with other people.But unfortunately it never works most of the time as i would be lost in my own world.
• Philippines
21 Nov 10
Affirmative!! :) What would better kill the loneliness than company?? hehe.
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
No! Don't say that man, just keep being positive :) it works for me, if no one else can take away what your feelin', it's all up to you. I hope you can do it!!!
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
28 Nov 10
I have been on my own at different times of my life and as I get older i enjoy it more. I am very satisfied with my life and content at the moment. In the past, I have had boyfriends and things didn't work out and I would find myself alone. I would be happy at first then it would hit me how lonely I was and I would look for a new love. We would move in together and soon I would be wishing I was still on my own. Being lonely when you're in a relationship is much, much worse than being lonely when you live alone. I would like to fall in love again but I will never live with anyone again. If you are weird then so am I...
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 10
i am not happy being single. i will feel lonely. i need someone to share whole my feelings and keep it as a secret or maybe try to solve it together. but some people love to be single, you are not weird. people just different
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
I am not happy being single but it's good enough than having tension always which partner not understand any situation which is sometimes being complicated. I want to have a partner or girlfriend which understand and support me in whatever I did good. This will inspire me to do things but what I can do for now. I am still single and lonely....hehe
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
well i cant blame you if you feel that way cause i myself feel that too. of course its really a better feeling if you have special someone but for me having this liberty that you dont care if you meet other guys cause your single. you can do what you want without having worries that your boyfriend might mind it like partying at night. for being single is having the opportunity to enjoy your liberty. in due time you will have again a boyfriend and be happy again but now that its still coming, just enjoy having the luxury of time that you can spend with your family, friends and of course with yourself=)
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
22 Dec 10
I also broke up with my boyfriend three months ago and if I am going to describe my life now, it's a total mess. I am so sad and I always cry. But I know that things will get better. It's just that it would really need a lot of time.
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
23 Nov 10
Single - Suck ! I guess my parents made me with too much love :P I live to love - every moment that i'm single i feel like i'm dying from loneliness .