Things I would never show my children. . .

Mine would just be smoking. My dad smoked a lot. I think he still does to this day. Even though I tried it a bit back in school, it was never a habit that stuck with me. I'm sure there will be a lot of pressure with my kids to 'fit in' as they grow up. I hope that smoking is something that they could look to me as an example, and decide for themselves not to take up the habit.

I was raised fairly sheltered so there wasn't much bad stuff that I was exposed to. My parents were very careful what we watched on t.v. and who we hung around with, so really there was not much. The only thing that does stick out, especially this time of the year is... Every year on Thanksgiving we would go to my one aunt and uncle's house. We had a large extended family and my sister and I were the younger cousins, and we had cousins there were 15+ years older than us. My other aunt and uncle were big drinkers (still are) and when we left my other aunt's house after dinner my parents would always follow my other aunt and their family home. My dad and mom would take bets who would be the first to pull over to throw up...my aunt or my uncle. It became a joke in the family for years, however, it wasn't really until I was finally old enough to drive when my dad gave me this HUGE lecture about never drinking and driving. I had to laugh and say, don't worry, I won't be like my aunt and uncle that drink and drive (and throw up)!! I never got a lecture about that again and my dad even apologized for exposing us that. I said no, that was good to see, because I knew I would never do that!

My foster mother used to play movies all day long, and not even really pay attention to them. She'd play whatever movie she felt like seeing. I watched Silence of the Lambs when I was very very small. I've seen all sorts of R rated movies. When I was 4 or 5 I was watching videos of Sam Kinison and Andrew Dice Clay. These are things I'd never allow with my children around. I'm very cautious of the types of movies on the TV while they're awake. We save the R rated type stuff for after they're in bed.

Hi dorann Every couple have mild difference of opinion, that leads to mild hot arguments, i too have, but we never quarrel or argue loudly in presense of kids or grandkids.. Those who drink or smoke should not do infront of kids, similarly in our culture we don't kiss or hug wives in presense of kids.. My father used to smoke while working , making gold ornaments, but if i enter the shop he will throw.. Belive me i never smoked nor my brother, ladies usually don't smoke in our families.. Children learn what they see their parents or elders in the family doing.. Thank you so much for sharing. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.

I agree fully with the drink driving. That is not a good thing to do, you risk your life, the otherss in the car and others that you may hit after possibly causing an accident. I would never do this. I think the only thing i would look at from my life is the fact that my dad was never around, when he and my mum split, he later married, then they split and then he married again. He has kids with the 2 ex wifes and with the one he is with now, but he never bothered to see any of his kids except those that he lives with, they to him are his family, this showed how bad a dad he was, relationships may end but your kids don't, he just never bothered and so this is something that i will not do to my kids, i want them brought up the right way, my dad is a bad role model. I luckily was well brought up by my mum, luckily i have nothing at all in common with my dad, except dna. If i could change that i would.

I suppose you would be a good mother!for me I haven't such kind of things before,maybe I think it's a liiter bit far away!but I 'll think about it now!maybe I will not be so mean or selfish before my children.I mean nowadays when their children want to send some presents to his/her friends,their parents would say"don't buy something too expensive".I suppose friendship is more expensive than everything!

That was probably considered the norm then dear. I was exposed to too much - none of which can be publicly discussed.

When I was around 8 years old, I'm 43 now, I sat on my father's lap and he let me steer the car. What? there is no way I would allow that to happen today.

I lived in so many foster homes I would not be able to begin to explain all the numerous bad things I was exposed to. Anyways while I was growing up all I could think of that the families I lived with were weird, so I did the opposite of all of them and well although I was a single mother for a very long time. I raised my children, strictly on what I though twas right. I sure know what I did worked, I have two recent college graduates. Hooray it worked for me.