Coming face to face with the EX.

@Lore2009 (7386)
United States
November 21, 2010 6:18pm CST
Have you ever encountered a situation where you bumped into an ex or a person who betrayed you? What would you do and what would you say? If I bumped into my ex, I think I'd just keep walking and pretend I don't even see them. If it was people who've betrayed me that were once my friends, I would like to be courageous enough to say "Hello" and just go my way without exchanging any other words. But in real life, I may just run away and cry! What about you? Has it happened to you?
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13 responses
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
22 Nov 10
it really depends on the EX - if he ended it calmly i most probably will great him and talk to him , but i cant talk with someone doing some mean stuff to me when we were together and after , i will pretend i dont see him , about the betrayed person i will ignore him , if he stops me and try to talk with me about it , depends on the betreyall and how much i care about him, i will hear him and maybe even forgive him or just walk away .
@Lore2009 (7386)
• United States
22 Nov 10
That's true, if there ever really is a mature breakup, those probably won't leave much pain... so it'd depend on the ex.
@toniganzon (59714)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
I once walked on the street and saw my ex walking towards me as well. I was the one who broke up with him and I didn't have feelings for him at all. I prepared myself to say hello at that time, but the moment he saw me he turned his back and walked the opposite direction. I told my sister about this incident and she said that my ex wasn't over me yet because of the way he reacted upon seeing me. Well with people who betrayed me, they're not worth a single hello, so i'll definitely show them that they don't exist in my world anymore by snubbing them!
@Lore2009 (7386)
• United States
22 Nov 10
Yeah, my ex betrayed me so he's not worth a hello. But from the other's I still expected a lot but maybe not as much as my ex, so I think I can say hello.
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
I experienced this, and I didn't know how to describe how I felt that day. Let me tell you first how he hurt me, he courted me for 6 months and I never got a wind that he was already engaged! I learned it after a month of being committed to him already...he said he'd leave the girl but I have this big indifference towards boyfriend grabbers and I couldn't bear to think I have hurt someone innocent, I would never be happy. But alas, my heart, my poor stupid heart was smitten, no matter how I try to act indignant, I couldn't end it. And the nerve of him to tell me that I didn't love him and he realized that he should be with the one who adores him, HE LEFT ME! I saw him on the mall, with his fiancée, inside Shakeys of S.M,we couldn't possibly live it would be an act of cowardice but I felt like the world came crashing in on me, my couz who was with me greeted him. Amazingly, I was able to put on my poker face the whole time and until now he still has no idea I loved him so deeply. I cried and got drunk that night:( (April 21, 2009) I'm proud to say that now I have healed and is engaged to the most terrific man in the world (my bestfriend...an entirely different story^^)
@Lore2009 (7386)
• United States
22 Nov 10
Wow, good for you! I bet it was very tough and I'm happy to hear that you were able to keep a straight face. I hope I can have strength to do that. Thanks for sharing.
• Canada
22 Nov 10
Happened to me with an old school friend. She got on me about something, but when I was her I decided to be polite anyway. She asked me how dare I even speak to her. I reminded her that like her I am also legally blind, and that I dared speak to her, because I mistook her for a nicer person. haha She didn't know how to deal with that comeback .
@Lore2009 (7386)
• United States
22 Nov 10
Hehe, that's awesome... I'd like to use that on any of the people I may bump into.
@bingskee (5235)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
wow... there are two not similar situations here. coming face to face again with an ex is totally a different thing than bumping with someone who betrayed you (probably a friend). but just the same, i'll just stare and say nothing. once the relationship is over (and this goes with an ex or a friend), it is over for me. if a conversation is necessary due to unavoidable reasons, then i'll respond but because the feeling was lost already, it would really be hard for me to even say hello, unless they say hello first.
@josga2008 (320)
• Canada
22 Nov 10
This doesn't happen often to me, but if it does I just generally ignore them If the situation is such that I can't ignore them, then I just react in a small way. For example, if they are very close and look up at me , I'll wave and say hello. If they say hello first , I'll say hi back. If they get obnoxious at me, then I'll just keep walking. No sense getting angry over someone like that.
• Indonesia
22 Nov 10
Meet the ex? lol, I once experienced that. Nothing happened. No desire, no love, not anything. For us, everything has finished. we were friends then. She also asked wheteher I've found someone better than her. I said no. Noone else like you...lol
@hushi22 (4929)
22 Nov 10
when i met my ex before it was fine. it was like we were friends. in fact, it lead way for him to court me again. we thought it would work for the 4th chance that i gave him but it didnt. if i will meet him now i will still treat him as a friend. =)
@switlyf (649)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
hi lore2009! thats really nice question! LOL im so thankful that it has not happen to me and i dont ever want to experience bumping to my ex! but if it would happen? mmm... i think ill just say hi and then go. happy mylotting!
@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
I haven't seen any of my exes after the break up. It's sad that I never become friends with any of them even though I shared a lot of memories and experiences with each of them.
@tedeng06 (60)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
I think I'll talk to her since all my wounds have all healed up We need a lot of catching up to do. And besides deep inside me I really miss her a lot.
@EARLZHAN (934)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
I feel so strange the last time I talk to my EX. I feel sad because our relationship didn't last for so long. However, I'm so thankful because I met her in my life. Yes she might had hurt me before. But nothing would change.. The best thing that I could do is to move on. She has her new Bf now and I have my new GF too. I'm happy with my new Gf I just hope that she's happy with her new BF too. In your case friend. The best thing that you can do is to forgive them. You'll continue to suffer pain if you'll keep hatred in your heart. Forgive and forget. Then start moving on.
@Zaphan (710)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
I'll say hello, and that's it, past is past, and in fact we will not reach anything without them, they made us stronger and courageous in facing life. I can say that the hardest part is forgiving, but if you forgive it will make your life easier and lighter.