Is He Worth It?
By Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
Philippines
November 22, 2010 8:11am CST
I've been making friends through the Blackberry messenger from people all over the world and I've met some good ones, perverted ones whom I deleted immediately and some problematic ones who i'm trying to help in every way I can.
Now here's this 20-year old man who's been very close to me and because of a sensitive issue we had an argument about three weeks ago, we became cold to each other. He used to make me feel like I'm so important in his life but now he just ignores me all the time. He rarely talks to me anymore and when we do and I ask him something he would ignore me again.
Now, because I think we have lost the connection and the friendship as well and he was being sarcastic every time we talked, I decided to delete him in my contact list, however, I failed to block him in my skype messenger and he asked me why i was ignoring him. I wasn't doing that but he was and he's turning the table on me.
Is he worth my time at all? Because now I'm pretty sure that he has no room in my BBM anymore.
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11 responses
@kevin1877uk (36988)
•
7 May 16
I guess it all depends on you and what you are wanting really. I guess it's only you who can answer that.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
8 May 16
Yeah and i have even forgotten who it was or what's his name! 
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
22 Nov 10
I think it depends how important the friendship is to you. If you really miss the friendship that you had you could try one more time. In that situation I would say something like: "I am sorry if I hurt you or made you angry, but I hope that we can put it behind us and that we can still be friends" He ignores you, makes a sarcastic comment or something like that, I wouldn't give him any more chances and I would break off the friendship completely.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
23 Nov 10
I didn't know that he had said something like that, maybe I misunderstood the situation. In that case I wouldn't give him any more chances 
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
Why should I say sorry when he's putting the blame on me, when the truth is he should be the one apologizing? I've done the apologizing before but he still acted like he's the most important thing in this world and told me he'll never run after me if we lose communication.
I just need a confirmation that I'm doing the right thing in not giving him any chances anymore.
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@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
when he asked you why you are ignoring him, what did you tell him? you could have asked him back. that was your chance.
i am not sure how close you got and how deep the relationship is. because if it's deep, then maybe he deserves a chance. or maybe not, if he continues with his immature ways.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
I did throw the question back at him and told him he was the one ignoring me. He made some lame excuses like he was doing something which I knew was a lie.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
Just ignore those who make you feel bad. That's just a basic human reaction that says 'i want your attention'. That's just what he wants you to do, pay attention to him.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
I think you're right! For the past few months that I have known him I noticed that he's insecure. And the worst that he did today was to log off from skype while I was still telling him the reason why I shouldn't want him in my contact list anymore!
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
Thanks for this and yes I am ignoring him now, but he still keeps sending messages that I ignored him and he sent tons of messages in my phones and i still continued to ignore him. Those tons of messages he was talking about, I never received it.
@sweetloveforeve (13107)
• Portugal
22 Nov 10
he seems to be having some mental problems really. you should talk with him and tell him that you are not liking his attitude. that he was the one that started to act different bcs you liked him so much till he starts to act like that. im sure that he will understand what he did and will say sorry to you. sometimes we have probs in our life and we discount it in people that didnt mean to hurt us. so you must talk
with him and tell how you feel and if he says sorry give him a second chance. if before you were good friends im sure that something happened in his life that made him act strange. and the fact that he acts like that with you is bcs he cares for you but maybe doesnt know how to tell you his problem.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
Yeah I think you're correct in saying he's got some mental problems. He hates the world, hates himself and always says that life sucks! I thought I could help him but I guess I'm mistaken.
With regards to caring about me, I don't think he doe. He just wants me to tell him that he's somebody important in my life and his friendship means a lot to boost his ego.
He's sick!
@BambooPanda13 (867)
• United States
22 Nov 10
No he's not. That is called "playing games". And unless you like back and forth drama, then just stop talking to him. Some people like to play games with other people and mess with them, they aren't worth your time.
@phong1040572 (672)
• Thailand
23 Nov 10
Dear Toni!
I don't like this man! You are trying to make everything better but seem that he don't have any kind to do that. I don't know what you and him argue about? But seem that he does not need you. Dear mate, you have a lot of thing to worry about, so don't mind about him anymore dear!
@theDeranged (96)
• Canada
22 Nov 10
This guy is just playing head games. And he will continue to treat you badly for as long as you allow him to. I agree with everyone else who says to just ignore him. Block him. He's making you feel badly for getting rid of him, because he can no longer make himself feel good by treating you bad. Some people NEED to be mean to others to feel good about themselves. He sounds like one of those.
It can't be said enough: GET RID OF HIM!
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
22 Nov 10
Ignore thats it !
This is childish , people that enjoy each other company can get into fight but if he was really friend/friendly that must pass in day or two or up to a weak .
But i don't think some random person from somewhere in the world must ignore you to take your attention . Ignore and thats it !
