Would you be offended if your fiance asked for a prenuptial agreement?
By yna410
@yna410 (429)
Philippines
November 22, 2010 7:54pm CST
In a prenuptial agreement, a person won't be able to get any property or finances owned by his or her partner when they get divorced. This has become a more popular thing of today unlike many years ago. Before wedding vows are exchanged, some or most couples, especially rich people, sign this contact or agreement first. Some people even thinks that couples who don't sign a prenup are quite foolish. This is quite common in the entertainment industry where the lives of celebrities are an open book to all. We all know the fact that marriage is done out of love and with love comes trust and respect. Some couples do not opt for a prenuptial agreement but there are others who does. What if the person you'll marry is rich or wealthy, does it mean that your fiance or partner doesn't trust or love you enough when they ask for a prenuptial agreement? Will you sign it or will you not? Would you be offended by it? Will you have second thoughts about this person's love for you? What can you say fellow mylotters? =)
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17 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
23 Nov 10
I would not be offended as I would be marrying for love and no interest in someone's money. I would however have a problem if this was a main topic, I mean there are ways to handle this sort of discussion between a couple who is suppose to be in love.
My thoughts as well would be if I had money I would hope my partner would not be offended if I had asked him to sign it. So it sort of works both ways in my opinion.
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@picjim (3002)
• India
23 Nov 10
I would have second thoughts if someone in the beginning asked for a prenuptial agreement.Such agreements may be in vogue with the rich and the famous.But with ordinary folks with ordinary means it certainly casts a doubt in ones mind.I will be offended if someone offers me such an agreement prior to marriage as i'm a person with ordinary means.
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@yna410 (429)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
Hi picjim. It would be quite perplexing indeed when someone, who swore their love on us and asks our hand, would want a prenuptial agreement first. I can somehow understand how they can be protective with their hard-earned money but I'm not sure what would be my initial reaction when that really happens to me. =)
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
23 Nov 10
i think i will and i won't even consider marrying the person, let alone signing the agreement... what is the point of marrying a person who already thought of divorcing before we even get married??? ridiculous and that person is not worth my love at all... so i will definitely kick him out from my life once and for all... take care and have a nice day...
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@yna410 (429)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
Hi lingli_78. I see your point. I think it depends on the situation how one will react. I, myself, can't really tell what exactly I would feel when it really happens to me. It may depend on how we discuss this matter. Thanks. Take care too. =)
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@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
23 Nov 10
In my honest opinion, I think that per-nup is offending. If someone has to ask me for that then he doesn't really know me well enough for him to marry me. I love the person not the money. I would never sign a prenup. If I had to there wouldn't be a wedding.
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@shaggin (71671)
• United States
23 Nov 10
No I would never have a problem if someone asked me to sign a prenup before our wedding. I understand that if we split up that what was his before the marriage should still be his after we split up. During a divorce everything is split 50/50 unless there is a prenup which is why people who own a lot of things should have a prenup drawn up since you just never know for sure if a marriage will work out and how people will react in the end. I do not own anything so there would be no reason for me to ask anyone to sign a prenup but if I married someone I would be completely comfortable signing a prenup.
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@porwest (78759)
• United States
8 Nov
Right, I mean, ultimately the courts are likely going to decide based on time in the marriage etc what should happen. I say if someone has substantial assets, asking for a prenup just makes sense, and to the person being asked to sign one, if the money isn't important, why would anyone be offended?
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@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
I really do not mind having that kind of agreement as long as he will also respect all my decisions in the future and would allow me to work on my own as well. I will not be after their money coz i know how to make money on my own. And by that time I am sure I will be more than wealthy compared to their family and I will be the one throwing out to their faces their prenuptial agreement. I have my ways to be rich in the future with all that I got. I just have to simply use all of it like my brains as a great example. my pretty face and sexy body as well. And I will also have my own prenuptial agreement that there would be no s_x and no baby that I should bear.
Those are the things that will make me agree to sign the prenup.
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@yna410 (429)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
Hi aaronfyzeon. Wow, it's great to know how confident you are, I admire you for that. Yes, I agree we can make money on our own as long as we work hard for it. The thought of throwing out to their faces the prenuptial agreement is quite funny as I imagine it now. I have quite an active imagination. Thanks. =)
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@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
23 Nov 10
Well, first, a prenuptial agreement does not mean that a person won't be able to get any property or money. The purpose of a prenup is to establish exactly how property would be divided in the event of a divorce. Having a prenup doesn't mean that either party is necessarily giving up all claims - it just means there are going to be some specific terms. It's a contract. I know it doesn't seem terribly romantic and I think, yes, I would be offended if it was something that had never been discussed and then, out of the blue, my fiance produced documents for me to sign. But, if it was something we discussed together and there were good reasons for a prenup, then sure I'd have one. In my first marriage, we had a marriage contract. The reason for it was that I was about to become self-employed and I wanted to protect my spouse and future children from any hardship if my business did not go well. Sometimes these contracts just make a lot of sense... but it's important to discuss them and their implications :)
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@yna410 (429)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
Hi thinkingoutloud. I have read it's meaning in a site I have visited and that's what I got, that the husband or wife can't claim any property or money from the other's original assets when they get divorced. Sorry if that was a wrong information. Thanks for those details you gave. I do agree that it should be seriously discussed by the couple to avoid misunderstandings. =)
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@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
I f I happen to fall in love with a rich woman and she want to marry me then if I really love her that much I would be the first to tell her about the prenuptial agreement to save her from embarrassment. This way I could proved to her that I am really serous in marrying here without her money's influence.
If she will be the first to tell me about the agreement I will tell her that it's okay with me If we get divorced I wont get anything from her. When it comes to love money is not really that a big problem with me.
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@yna410 (429)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
Hi reckon21. I agree that money shouldn't be an issue or a big deal when two people are truly in love though it would also be an important aspect in a marriage or when starting a family. I think it would also be a good idea to be the first one to talk about it as you've said. =)
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@TheAdvocate (2392)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
Not at all, as long as the agreement is fair. In fact, I might be the first one to ask for it as I think it makes financial sense to agree on how to deal with your properties. Most people automatically assume that a pre-nuptial agreement only means that your properties will be separate. Well, this is true, as it may be quite pointless to have a pre-nup that will combine all your assets because here in the Philippines, if couples have no pre-nup, the community regime will apply. But a pre-nup is after all an agreement, and you can have alternate systems that you think will work for you. Some people even enter into pre-nup and agree on conjugal partnership of gains, the regime of ownership prior to the Family Code. My point really is that signing a pre-nup is a wise decision. Most quarrels among married couple stems from money issues. At least with a pre-nup in place, it will be like having rules for arguing in the future.
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@kingparker (9673)
• United States
23 Nov 10
So, to be honest, the person who you going to marry, and who going to ask to sign the prenup is not entirely trust you if you are willing to loyal to him in lifetime. It is reality, and many people just have too much doubt in the modern world. And it is a cynical act, I fully understood. It is a way to protect yourself financially, so you can't blame them. It will be offended to some people no doubt, but we just no longer have good faith in human beings.
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
I really do not mind having that kind of agreement as long as he will also respect all my decisions in the future and would allow me to work on my own as well. I will not be after their money coz i know how to make money on my own. And by that time I am sure I will be more than wealthy compared to their family and I will be the one throwing out to their faces their prenuptial agreement. I have my ways to be rich in the future with all that I got. I just have to simply use all of it like my brains as a great example. my pretty face and sexy body as well. And I will also have my own prenuptial agreement that there would be no s_x and no baby that I should bear.
Those are the things that will make me agree to sign the prenup.
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@yanyanyow (326)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
i think when your fiance is asking for a prenuptial agreement is kinda offending. he has envision that there might be possibility that both of you will get divorce in the future. but sometimes, it is the right thing to do especially if you got lots of money with your own hard work. so if your fiance got doubts, just leave him alone and find other person who will love you and will share everything with you.
@yna410 (429)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
Hi yanyanyow. Somehow, yes, it's like envisioning the two of you will get separated anytime soon. But it's also hard to judge the fiance's sincerity when all he ever wanted was just to protect his money and property probably for his/her immediate family or maybe kids if he/she had been married before. =)
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
23 Nov 10
In this complicated life you can get married and devorsed in the same year even month , they marry fast and after that they realize they are not for him/her .
So this is out of the love reach , you are not getting with him cuz of his property or are you ?
If you marry why not doing this too , i even think of one for when the time comes ,
Why do u have to share something with someone that breaked your heart ? :P
If you love me and stay with me forever i will share everything i got but if you brake my hearth why the hell shoud i share all i posses with you !?
Overall thats my thinking .
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@santosmarichris (1849)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
Hi! Actually, I would ask him for it myself. It's better that way. What's my property is mine, what's his property is his. 
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
I really do not mind having that kind of agreement as long as he will also respect all my decisions in the future and would allow me to work on my own as well. I will not be after their money coz i know how to make money on my own. And by that time I am sure I will be more than wealthy compared to their family and I will be the one throwing out to their faces their prenuptial agreement. I have my ways to be rich in the future with all that I got. I just have to simply use all of it like my brains as a great example. my pretty face and sexy body as well. And I will also have my own prenuptial agreement that there would be no s_x and no baby that I should bear.
Those are the things that will make me agree to sign the prenup.
