How can I get a better relationship my father?

It is normal for a girl to see her father as larger than life and everything she looks for in a future relationship. The trick is to normalize this as we mature. To find out such a thing is a horrible let down on several levels. I think it is very normal for your feelings to change toward your father after finding this out. My mother and father seperated very early in my life but they were always very loving and good to me and I know of nothing like what you experienced. If it had I think I would feel alittle astranged as you do. I would wager that your father may miss those times when you snuggled close to him and he called you his pretty princess. I think he may feel this strangeness as you do. I would talk to him. Think about what you want to say first. What do you want to convey? What do you feel? How you feel it changed your feelings. If you feel uncomfortable doing this you might try going to a peaceful, calm and quiet place and pretend like he is there and you are talking to him. Tell him how you feel, what has happened to your feelings and what you need to get from this and why. Then see how you feel and if you might be able to feel alittle differently about him and your situation. Organizing our thoughts and pretending to talk to the person does help. It may not take care of the situation at hand but it is a start. Good luck to you.

Does that mean you have forgiven your father from cheating your mother or you just want your father back? You just have to answer it to yourself. You don't have to reply me about this. I used to have a very good relationship with my father. I asked him to sleep with me and he bought me something nice to eat after my swimming lessons. I felt very safe and happy when he was with me. However, may be because he always scolds and punishes me when I have done something wrong, the feeling of hature builds up and I started to dislike him and I did even not wanting him to stay at home while I was young. However, I understand now that he punished me because he would like me to be well-behaved. I understand this while I was young but I just did not agree with his ways of teaching me, such as punishing and scolding. I think what we have to do is to try to understand our fathers and to try to find out the same interest with our fathers and talk about it with our fathers. This is what I am trying to do now and I can feel that our relationship is getting better as we have more communication now, at least I do not have the disliking feeling on him now. I think your father will probably understand that and your relationship will probably get much better after this.

I used to be very close to my dad as a child because he actually paid attention to me! You see my mother is not one for cuddles or telling her child she is loved so I never got anything from her in regards to affection. Looking back I didn’t get a great deal from my father either but at least he would pick me or play with me every now and again so I adored him. As both my father and I grew older the distance between us grew too and these days we speak to each other more like acquaintances than a father and daughter and he has made it his disappointment in my sister and I very clear although neither of us have any idea why! Our parents are very dysfunctional so my sister and I have in a way given up that anything will ever change. We see them regularly but the closeness is just not there. You can only attempt to communicate how you feel to your father and chances are you will have more success than I did!

This never happened to me. If ever, it won't bother me that much. It's their time and it's no use trying to dig it up and fix it w/ me included in it. I'm sure their cool w/ it already cuz duh, they're still together. :)

I had a very good relationship with my father we did done vey much things to getherlike running and i love to make things and he too. To get a good relationship with you father is it necesaire that you see hiw very often and so some nice things together with no ather people only you 2! Now i am also father and i go with my children do games or go to an atraction park orso or go to the movie!