Do you read the other responses before responding a discussion?

@Suggar (3606)
Bulgaria
November 25, 2010 5:23pm CST
Hello friends, my discussions are not so interesting lately. Sorry that i have to bother you with such boring things, but i'm interested in something. Do you read the other responses in one discussion before responding by yourself? Before i did it, trying to build my own way of living here, trying to make my own stamp of writing. But soon after that i understood that i can't keep myself away of what i read. I mean that if i read what 10 people wrote before me, i'll forget my own answer to the topic. It's a kind of loosing my personality by reading the same responses like mine, written with different words. For that reason i stopped reading before responding, i read only the topic and the post of the owner. That's how i keep my comments natural and streaming of my heart. I think that there is nothing bad if i think the same as someone else, we are all different, but still same in some ways.
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@jagjit273 (1754)
• India
26 Nov 10
Well brother I do read the discusions responses as it healps me get new ideasand also to enhance my knowledge and to see where do I satnd. I never let otehrs View over come my personality.But I do try tio adopt their good things. have a nice day.
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@mysdianait (66011)
• Italy
26 Nov 10
Great response! Time is not wasted by reading the other responses. We can learn a lot both about the users who write them and about the topic itself.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
Nice day to you too, brother, but i'm a sister, actually Thanks for sharing your answer.
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
26 Nov 10
No, I don't make it a habit of reading others response before I tackle responding to the post. I choose not to read them because I would like to have a clear sense of what I want to say and not be influenced my what I have just read. If I read before responding I could get caught up with what others opinions are and get ideas on the pros and cons of the topic. When I hit submit, I feel comfortable with my response be genuine and not the mirror image of someone else's response.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
That with the mirror got the true sense of what i wanted to say. And im really happy that other people think like me. Thanks for sharing.
• United States
26 Nov 10
I just like to be original.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Nov 10
hi suggar I also usually make my response before reading a ton of other as I find I usually word mine differentlythan most others anysay and I do not like my own idea to be messed up in my mind by the others responses. I seldom ever word mine the way most others d o for one thing I am more wordy so many really cut down on words which is okay if it makes sense.
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@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
Hello Harley, i can totally understand you. I'm doing the same. Thanks for sharing.
• United States
26 Nov 10
Normally when I hit respond I already know what I am going to say, but I do try to read all the responses, unless of course there are loads of pages to the discussion. Reason why I do is that I do not want to duplicate a response. If I find a response similar to mine I may then respond to that comment adding what I think can be contributed.
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@mysdianait (66011)
• Italy
26 Nov 10
That is when we can also get a discussion going in a response box too! I find it disheartening to read pages of similar rsponses where it is obvious that others did not read what others have said. If the responses are similar then they will probably earn very little, if anything too and then those are the users who complain that the earnings are low
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
Good point HardWorkingGurl.
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@fannitia (2167)
• Bulgaria
25 Nov 10
Sometimes I'm impatient to write my opinion or the comments are too long, so I skip most of the posts. But normally I do read them. I like to see the whole discussion before put my answer. This gives me more ideas, helps me not to repeat things that others have said. It's useful. Imagine that you enter in a room where people discuss something. You know the topic, but not the stage they have reached. Your comments could be totally unfitting.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
It's possible friend. But i can say that when i write/read something, i find one little and interesting for me accent, where i focus my attention and this is the little part which helps me to start my response. I don't like to read, because sometimes i had this situation that someone thinks the same as me. What could i do then? To write the same, as he did, with other words ... That's boring. I just let the other people and their thinking alone and put my own understand of the topic. After that, i read responses and rate some of them.
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
depends. time is of the issue of course! well i do read some responses to see how they react from things. but most of the time, i go directly to my thoughts. i trust my insights & i have confidence in my ideas. i am independent with my point of views so to speak. but it doesn't mean i don't need opinions from others. it's just i reply what i feel in my heart the best way to respond. (:
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
26 Nov 10
No me I delve into response with my own ideas, sometimes I get amazed how similar my thoughts turn out to be when I late check what people have written!
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@carolscash (9492)
• United States
26 Nov 10
I do try to read what others have written here as well as reading the discussion. The rules state that we should do that and there are times that I can't read all of the responses but I try to read a majority of them so that I do not repeat an answer that someone else has given.
@mysdianait (66011)
• Italy
26 Nov 10
Suggar it means you can add your comments in the box where there is the response like you would have written. Do you really think that similar responses all earn?
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
For me that rule is useless if i have to be honest. If you think the same, as someone else, but someone else already wrote similar answer, it means that you don't have to respond? I would never keep this rule up, because it kills my personality.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
Actually Mysdianait i don't think about earnings when i'm here. I just post what i want to say or ask what i want to ask and have fun. Sorry if that disappoint someone, but i don't take this earnings so serious. When i check my balance and when i've done more than yesterday, not because this 50 cents will pay my expenses, just because i reached a new daily record - it's for my please, nothing more. That way i feel satisfied of myself, that i have spend really a great time and i've earned little, which is a kind of appreciation that i join and help all around to make that amazing forum like our home.
@mysdianait (66011)
• Italy
26 Nov 10
I do and while doing so I often find places to 'land' and add a comment. If a topic is interesting then the responses will be/should be interesting too and cause for us to stop and think and add something while reading. Our response will be worth adding after we have read the others and we can be sure that it will be original. Surely this is what makes a discussion become 'quality'? Surely one with pages and pages of similar responses rather defeats the object?
@mysdianait (66011)
• Italy
26 Nov 10
Erm... did I mention earnings in my response? Many of the users on my friend list are there because after reading their responses several times on discussions where I later responded too, I loved the way that they thought about certain things and/or how they get it across. I would have missed out on that if I had not read them and would have missed out on 'earning' new friends too. I have fun by barging into lots of boxes on an interesting topic but I can't do that unless I read them first
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
No friend, i just read many replies of people here, where you said things about earnings. I am too tired tonight to answer to all friends here, but i'm doing it, before i go to sleep. I never miss what my friends say, but i think it's kind of annoying if i don't stop responding all the time in the same discussion. I always check the discussions i responded, if the owner of the discussion said something and i can answer again. Usually i write two posts in one discussion. First is where i answered the topic. Second is where the owner has replied me something and i got else to include in my own response. At the same time, when i just go around here, without answering, i read what the other people wrote.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
Hello friend, never thought about that, because whatever i earn here, it's o.k. For me few cents more or less, won't pay my expenses, so i'm trying to have more fun than to make the things serious.
@shibham (16977)
• India
26 Nov 10
Hi suggar... I am also similar to you while responding. I also read the discussion and try to post my own speech regarding the topic. But if the discussion is controversial or hard to understand properly, then i tend to read some responses as well. I think the response written by me should be attractive and interesting. Have a nice day.
@shibham (16977)
• India
30 Nov 10
Many many thanks friend for your MBR. Have a nice day.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
Hello Shibham, i'm looking for the same when i make responses. I try to make them funny, sometimes, interesting, attractive and honest, because i can't pretend for fake emotions at all. I'm just not so good in pretending to be something else, than i am. I would love to have more to say in "shopping", "woman" or other sections, but my bad is that this stuff are not a big passion for me, even if the sections are in my interests. When i did my profile here i was a bit confused, trying to understand what is this community and i thought that having more interests helps you to make more money, writing in different sections, but i realized that in some of the sections i got just nothing to say.
• India
26 Nov 10
Normally not, reading others responses may divert my own opinion, as far as possible i try to put my own idea in my response to a discussion, but at times from the discussion i cant know what the discussion creater wants, in that case i read others comments.. Good discussion lol Thank you so much. Professor. . Cheers have a lucky day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
Hello Professor, i like this eye in your avatar, which is rolling Now my imagination is working and i can see a man in a box or behind a wall, who has a hole in the wall and is rolling around his eyes, like the motto of one TV show - "Big Brother keeps watching" Good response Professor, thanks for answering. It's good that i can meet a lot of creative people in my discussion, who doesn't want to depend on what they read
• Malaysia
26 Nov 10
Having the same thoughts and ideas from different part of the world is really interesting. It does makes the mind more richer to my opinion. Sometimes when switching on to MyLot with much enthusiase but to read someone elses have posted it just a few second earlier. Cant be reading 30 responses before responding.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
Yes it's the same with me. Sometimes i read, mostly i don't. It happened that way that i had to leave Mylot for 3 months. I'm here again now, but with no so much time for reading of writing. I'm doing it, but at the same time my usual online work, where i win much more than here, is neglected. Soo ... when i spend an hour here, i prefer to ask or to give my opinion instead of reading. I like reading but when i have time.
• India
26 Nov 10
Yes suggar, i do read the overview of the comments. But not always. It depends on the nature of the discussion. If anyone starts a discussion which need the personal opinion, then it is not necessary to read other comments. But if it is kind of social discussion, I do prefer to read the comments and find out any comment that match my thinking. And after that I always prefer to comment and something to the comment already given rather to reply to the main subject. I think conference discussion is better solution oriented.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
I see. May be there is some kind of dependence with me too, but i haven't realized it. First think i do when i read the leading post is to answer to the questions. Thanks for your response.
• United States
26 Nov 10
Sometimes I look at other responses and sometimes I don't. I only look if I need a better idea of exactly how to word my response. When it's something that really hits home with me then I don't because then the words just flow naturally from my heart.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
Hello friend, i never answer to discussions, which doesn't make the words to flow naturally from my heart. I'm sure that everyone can understand it, because i try to explain it as good, as i can with my bad english skills. If something is not interesting for me, i'll just answer with a sentence or two. But actually i never respond that way, because if i write, it means that i have something to say. Thanks for responding friend, i'm happy that we think the same way for that.
• China
26 Nov 10
Normally i never read others response before i respond mine,just as you say it will easily effect our mind or if you see someone's opinion just as same as yours will dispel zeal of respond.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
Thanks for responding friend.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
Yes, sometimes I do especially when he topic is just so interesting or just so juicy.LOL . But this doesn't mean that I will copy the response of others. Before I read their responses I already have mine on mind only I get too curious that I couldn't just wait to take a peek. Sometimes, I'll post my response first and then read everything after.:)Anyway,I do it, it doesn't change my point of view in a particular topic.:)
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
Have you tried first to read and then to respond the same discussion? That's pretty dangerous for me and my thinking, because i am always trying to see one thing from different points of view. And sometimes, when i just put my response and read it again i only hope that the person will answer to me, so i can write something else to fill my response, because i notice that i have forgot some of the things i wanted to say.
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
It depends on the discussion if i'll read the other responses. If the discussion is about asking a specific answer, i'll look if the question had already been answered effectively. If the discussion is just a casual one, i won't read the other's responses anymore.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
My experience showed me that for different people, different stuff are effective. So you never know what the owner would do, which answer he will take as close to his own thinking and his own believes. And i think that we never have to give up of our chance to be helpful.
@junil_jk (496)
• India
26 Nov 10
me neither. that will really disturb my focus to respond the way i intend to naturally and make my response kinda artificial, or make me wanna leave without responding. sometimes i do take a pip at one or two responses out of curiosity but only after i've responded. that way i can't change anything even if there are similar responses as mine. not that it matters at all.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
That's great friend. I'm doing the same - when i finish my own response, i feel good, because i know that it has been the way i think it, not because someone else helped me to think that way.
@fl0rencia (414)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
Hahaha. your right. I'm like that too. I read the discussion topic first, respond if I have something to say then read the other responses. Sometimes, when I don't have an initial response, I read other mylotters responses first and then it gives me the idea of what to say. It helps me a lot. I think it's not bad if you have the same answer because that's really possible. And this response of mine was posted without reading others' response first. Hahaha. :D
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
Sometimes different people have in mind similar things at the same time. I want to appeal people and specially my friends, to be the same, as i know them and they are now and to respond my discussions by their first feeling, when they read the topic, never mind what the other has answered.
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
Depends how much and how long are the responses after the main one that i always read ( i lied i mistook one topic one time :P ) Well i look if there is someone i know that unswered and i read his unswer too but the rest - sorry people you are out of my attention :D
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
Oh Xansus, don't be rude Don't read only your friends. I can say that in my own discussions or after my own answers, sometimes a lot of people add me for friend and this is amazing. Having friends help you to have more chances to earn money here, because you can check their discussions. When i was pretty new and i had around 200 posts, i just couldn't find interesting discussions here and i was usually checking what discussions my friends posted. That was the place i felt really calm, because i knew that i'm always welcome there, as they are in my own discussions.