my child was sick is that an excuseable absence?
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
United States
December 3, 2010 8:27pm CST
Some of you know my drama w/ my cell. My battery is kaput and I'm trying to weigh out my options as far as a new phone or to get a battery. Eitherway, while I was out returning the chargers I bought yesterday & school called home to say DD2 was being sent home because she was coughing so much. Well they called abt 15 minutes after I left to the stores then bumped into a friend and chatted for a while and on to a couple other stores. So hubby was off about 5 hours because he couldn't get ahold of me. Well you can't get ahold of me if I have no phone now can you? He misplaced my charger last week & didn't seem a bit worried about it as I had bothered him earlier this week about it because he's the one who lost my charger. 
Now if it was for his phone he'd been all over it and at the store to remidy things but for me nada. 
So I got home around 2pm and he was fuming. But how was I to know? Just cause she coughs for a lil here and there and then get some big streaks going once she gets into that dry school. I asked him why he waited for me instead of calling his parents to drop her off there & he said he did not think about it.
Either way do you think he'd be in trouble for being gone so long? he does not get sick time or have any vacation time left. And I think at my other jobs people didn't get in trouble for leaving early to attend to a sick kid if a child care provider or school called.
Help as I'm stressed about this & he's had a clean record for 21 years of employment there! And I've even offered to apologize to his boss if necessary.
Now if it was for his phone he'd been all over it and at the store to remidy things but for me nada. So I got home around 2pm and he was fuming. But how was I to know? Just cause she coughs for a lil here and there and then get some big streaks going once she gets into that dry school. I asked him why he waited for me instead of calling his parents to drop her off there & he said he did not think about it.
Either way do you think he'd be in trouble for being gone so long? he does not get sick time or have any vacation time left. And I think at my other jobs people didn't get in trouble for leaving early to attend to a sick kid if a child care provider or school called.
Help as I'm stressed about this & he's had a clean record for 21 years of employment there! And I've even offered to apologize to his boss if necessary.8 responses
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
4 Dec 10
As you say, he's got a clean record for 21 years, and it's not like this is a regular occurence.. I would think he should not get in trouble. My hubby has to leave work occasionally and he doesn't usually get in trouble for it. The other day I was sick and miserable and had zero patience what so ever.. he left work 2 hours early to come take care of the kids because I just couldn't handle it that day. That was after he'd already called in once last week because he was sick and miserable. He tries not to do it often.. if he has to leave early he finds ways to make up the hours on another day, and he rarely calls in because he still takes a cut in pay. He works 50 hours so gets 10 hours of overtime. If he calls in sick they pay him for 50 hours of straight time.. no overtime. He didn't care last week because he was already getting holiday pay for Thanksgiving, which is also paid as straight time.. so whether he called in or not he'd be paid 50 hours of straight time.
Anyways, hopefully he did not get in trouble at all and will now be a bit more concerned about getting your phone working again.
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
6 Dec 10
I hope he won't be in trouble either. It's not a habitual problem for, hubby or my kids to be sick or for the ugly circumstance of me not having a cell phone. It was just lousy timing to this drama for the day. Now onward to Friday's drama.... can you say that was plenty for last week? Nope it just keeps on coming at us!
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
6 Dec 10
That is the way it goes sometimes.. as they say, "When it rains, it pours" Hope it turns around soon.
@coffeebreak (17797)
• United States
4 Dec 10
Good grief...you are preaching to the choir!!! My husband is like this also. Not just about the cell phone. EVERYTHING! I have to respond immediately but for the same to him...just whenever he gets around to it and that is only if he thinks it merits his attention in the first place!!! Come to think of it....my daughter is like that to!
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
6 Dec 10
My kids are that way too... ME first! & Mom is ???? at the back of the pack. Yeah this getting around to stuff is really annoying + the great "ideas" they have as well.
@GardenGerty (169489)
• United States
4 Dec 10
It depends on how hard nosed the company wants to be and if they want to get rid of him for one reason or another. It should only go in his record or file and maybe result in a warning. It is too bad. It sounds like you feel angry at him about a lot.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
4 Dec 10
Just a tad as my need for my cell phone is not as big of a deal as his is. He lost his once when he was out hunting. He came home and realized it was gone he was at the store the same night getting a new phone and everything. Me I've been w/o a phone for nearly a week.
@ElicBxn (64169)
• United States
4 Dec 10
"Honey, if you hadn't lost my cell phone charger, I would've had a working phone and could've been reached. But since you couldn't be bothered to find my charger, and couldn't be bothered to help me find one that works, I was trying to find one that did.
"If you would have helped looked for my charger or helped get a replacement charger, heck, if you had loaned me your cell phone, than this would've never become an issue.
"So, dear, how could it POSSIBLY be MY fault?"
all said really sweetly, of course
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
4 Dec 10
He must of figured I would just stay home all day because I thought DD2 may get sent home (posted on FB supposidly, as they sent her home last time she had a bad cold, but not as bad as last time). But honestly once I got going yesterday morning after having such a hard time getting the kids dressed and ready for school that I didn't think about it. I was returning all those chargers and looking to see what stores carried Virgin Mobile phones & what models. Afterall he didn't run out like he would if it was HIS phone and handle it immediately. So I only had one kid instead of 3 so we did our thing & as long as my Son was content everything was fine til I pulled into the driveway and saw that angry face of his.....
My neighbor was like that's a guy for you. Especially after I thought about why couldn't he of left me a note & dropped her off at his Parents house?1 person likes this
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
2 Jul 11
Well I am sure this is long been resolved. I believe that if it isn't, the need to take care of your childs needs should outweigh work and thus should be an excuse provided it's not an every day thing that makes it obvious it's just an excuse to not work. I know this wasn't the case and so I would say there should have been no problem.
Well I hope that there wasn't. Years ago I worked for a grocery store and would sometimes switch shifts with a coworker so she could be home with her children, she had just came from being a stay at home mom and you could tell she was concerned for her family.
@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
5 Dec 10
Firstly you say he has an immaculate record at work for 21 years so I am sure he will be fine as it is not like he is a habitual trouble maker at work, outside of him worrying too much about his great record.
With regards to your cell phone maybe this will remind him how important you as a mom with small children a cell phone is equally if not much more important for you to have as this situation could have been remedied had you had a working phone at the time the school needed someone to pick up your child.
Isn't it just to coincident when you had a working phone how everything simply seems to fall, darn.. it never fails.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
6 Dec 10
I would hope it would but who knows what he's thinking.
Sadly I missed their call by 15minutes! I guess I shouldn't of ignored the call from my Aunt as I was leaving but she likes to keep me on the phone for up to an hour & I wanted to get going while DS was behaving. But if I would of snagged the phone I would of gotten the call *sigh* What can I do?
Sadly you've read my other post so talk about failing and just keeps on going.... Just when we were feeling like we were back on our feet there's this BS + the tires & still have bills to pay.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Dec 10
hi thats now days a very valid excues for an absence from work'
asmost places where you have been an employee for 21 years
will allow for emergencies in sick children from school'so
I hope your husband's employer is one of those who will
do that. good luck God Bless.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
7 Dec 10
He shouldn't get in trouble for the fact that he had to leave work because of the fact that one of his children was sick. Now, if they have a points system, it could count a point off of his attendence record, but those are typically only for six months and if it is not something that happens frequently, then it is nothing to be worried about. I know that when I was working I'd have to miss work about once a month because either Kathryn was sick or the daycare provider's child was sick and they never said anything to me about it.
