Do you try to please every one...?
By chayapathys
@chayapathys (2111)
India
December 6, 2010 8:24pm CST
We all live society and daily we have to interact with all types of people and deal in so many matters.We may have work with some people and similarly others also have work with us.We may have to seek favors and also render favors.While giving favors we can just give it or refuse.But while seeking favors we have to necessarily keep others in good mood, otherwise we amy not be sucesssful in life.In this process we have to please others while seeking favors.But I have observed that some people try to please others whether they seek favors or not.I am not that good in pleasing othrers.How about you....
10 responses
@Bosniankid (11)
• United States
7 Dec 10
No I do not try to please EVERYONE, if people do not know how to act accordingly then why try to please them ever? Well I only aim to please the people in my life who I've come to know and love.
@HannahChristia (14)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
at first, pleasing everyone seemed to be a pathetic effort to gain trust and be very busy at the same time, but, pleasing several people isn't such a bad idea ONLY if you can work it. at my age, i have a lot of friends, and trust me, they are very easy to please, however, when one is able to please people, one should be ready to get connected to that person short-term or not. people pleasing is easy. you just need to know what a certain person wants exactly to be said or done to him/her. in my case, i listen and try to know each people by talking to them nicely. if they meet me in the hallways and decides to greet me, we gain into a higher level of acquaintance. who knows maybe they're also trying the same thing to you? then again, maybe not. just be smart.
@mopingz (82)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 10
let's think postive. people please everyone to make theirself feeling happy. for myself, i'm feeling weird when i'm not doing any active social interaction. i think, social interaction like pleasing everybody is one of the best factor to make our feeling stagnan, which is not tend to drop. dont do it as you want a favor from someone, because your feeling will be different as your purpose is different. to start it, just speak everything in your mind. but keep in control too. cheers :D
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
8 Dec 10
You say that we should think positively.You are right.Here we are concerned about pleasing others.By pleasing others we do not loose anything and perhaps on the other hand we maqy stand to gain.But the question is whether we should try to please every one.No doubt displeasing all is vey bad.Some people try to please others from whom they seek favors and help...
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
I don't wanna please everyone. It has no point. I try to please people but those people should be reasonable for me to please like for instance a boss or a supervisor. But pleasing everyone isn't worth it. It'll just waste your time, at least mine.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
8 Dec 10
Yes. Pleasing every one is not worth it.But have to please some people who happen to have some control over us ,or boss or some one from whom. we seek favors.AT the same time we cannot aford to displease every one.One should be prudent and act wisely depending on the circumstances.Pleasing every one is really waste of time.I agree
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
7 Dec 10
You know, I've given up on pleasing anyone but myself. I might do things that make people satisfied and that's good and all, but I'm not going to bend over backwards for people. The only person who is affected by what decisions I make should be me. Anyone else is just off of me and if that is not to their satisfaction, then maybe they should worry a bit more about their own life.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
8 Dec 10
According to you one should please onesel and not others.How?If one has to please oneself he or sahould necessarily the other person.Unles the other person you cannot be happy.At the same time we need not bother to please every one.That will be foolish.Doing things to one's stisfaction is different.As I understand from what you say one should satisfy his conscience and do things and not for the sake of others..
@ivanmarginal (675)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 10
Yes, I do that. I do really want to please everybody. Of course I got my own way to do that. Seems that if I please someone, I will be pleased in return. That's the miracle of giving, giving happiness. For me life is all about giving. So, I can give you nothing. I just can make you smile or even laugh. If you're smiling or laughing because of me, I'm successful then. Something like that.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
8 Dec 10
You have rightly understood the essence of the discussion.We have to please others to get pleased.As the great sait Mehr Baba said the real happiness lies in mqaking others happy.Many do not understnd the real meaning of pleasing.It is like give and take policy.If you please others.. they in turn please you.Correct.That is why we say "Good Morning" to all when we meet for the first time in the morning...
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
Even though I say to myself that I'm going to live for myself and only for myself, there are instances that you want not exactly to please others but to have them acknowledge you as a someone. being recognize is sometimes good as you know that something you are doing is right. I guess the problem is over cating to others and having no self-confidence in doing something.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
8 Dec 10
As we cannot live by ourselves with help of others we have please some to seek favor and help from them.But at the ame time we need try to please every on.It is also not possible to pleser every one.It is also not good and advisable to displease all.We have to necessarily please the boss or superiors.We can please parents andour well wishers...
@Basil2004 (105)
•
7 Dec 10
It may seema bit harsh but sometimes you have to learn to say know or you end up totally ehausted, running round in circles and not achievig very much. It is all a question of determining your priorities and deciding what is important. You also need time to yourself to recharge your batteries. After all if you are no good to yourself you are no good to anyone else.
@kittysmile (88)
• China
7 Dec 10
hi chayapathys, i am not good at pleasing others,too. But i always try to please someone who i like. because when they feel happy i can be much happier.sometimes when you meet someone for the first time, you just be traped by his/her smiles, voice or something like that.you can't keep away from them because you are interested in them. so you can do something to please them to let them know you. Maybe someday we can be good friends.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
7 Dec 10
You are frank in admitting that you are not good at pleasin others.There are many like you.But sometimes I have to please others when we seek favors.If you don't please you will not successful in life.So try to please when you are under obligation.That will do you good.If you displease you will be running a risk.Better avoid..All the best...
@rendevouz (82)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
chayapathys, I only please anyone I like. Even though it is the first time I met him or her, if I find his character acceptable, then I'll try to please him or her. It's because I don't want to offend anyone I like. In as much way as possible, I would do the best I can to do positive things towards that person that I like. If that person is not that close or I don't like him or her, I still try, but if it gets in my way, no way.
