Cousin neglects me

I do think that it isn't right to only care about and respect a person when they are doing well in their lives because we all as human beings will face times in our lives where we are facing difficult times in our lives and we really need to have the love and care of our family during those time. That said, I really don't feel like your cousin ignoring you while you are going through a depressed stage of your life is the right thing for her to be doing.

hello wongchoiyee! i can understand your situation coz i'd been there too. My older male cousin, who was like an older brother to me since i can remember, had treated me like he doesn't know me, and he always talk to another older female cousin of ours. I didn't know what went wrong, we were super close and he's my "kuya" -older brother term in our language. He just suddenly went aloof and distant towards me. I was devastated and even cried my heart out. But after sometime, i realize i was being immature for thinking i would always be close to him for always. People change, i realize that belatedly. It was hurting because i thought something was wrong with me. I later realized it was not because of me, it was because of him. He had changed and i must respect that. There was nothing wrong with me since my other cousins looked upon me with fondness and respect like he used to. Maybe he had passed that stage and thought he should now act more mature and so associated with those his age. Years from that incident, we do talk when we have time but i have come to respect the more mature bond we have. He had changed over the years and so have i. I have no resentment against him.

People change and you have to accept that. Imo, it's not worth getting depressed over. Just hang out with friends instead to forget about it.

You should take things easy and do not take it too hard. People will change from time to time, some people expect something different and only pro people who have money, when the person they admire have no money, they will probably do the same thing to the person. So, don't take it too serious and do not think too hard about it. Just let it be. Just a cousin, not a big deal, okay! Be happy!

hmmm..have you talked to her? i think the best solution to that is to confront her in a subtle way. if not and you think you cannot do that, just dont stress yourself with unnecessary matters. please dont be affected. if she cares less, then care less too.

I can't understand everything but somehow I get what you mean. Your cousin isn't treating you well because she thinks you are not successful in life. Well, ignore her too. She's just your cousin right? If she doesn't speak to you, you will not die. It's time for you to prove to her that you can be successful too. Just do your best in life. Don't care much about her, move on, give it your best shot and we you get successful someday, give her her own dose of medicine!

Life is never fair. Think about this: You have two brothers, one is successful and the other is depressed. Which would you want to include in your life? Most of us are self centered and often illness, especially mental illness is scary. So I would just concern myself with getting healthy you have no energy left to worry about shallow people who cannot contribute toward your recovery. Just let it go. Once you are better then you can look at the relationship again. You may get a good surprise because she will have matured some by that time and be a much better person. Blessings

hi there, i think this is a common problem, i have experienced that too and from time to time, still experiences that from aunts, friends. but it is okay, i hate being compared too but we just cant please everybody. when they do that, i cant really explain my initial reaction, like i am mad or sad , i am just so hurt :( but then later on, i just ignore it. let us make this our inspiration, to do better in life and show them that we can also do good and excel in life :) i hope you feel better soon :)