What does it take to become a good friend or a leader? / myLot

Philippines

December 8, 2010 2:49am CST

Looking and reflecting the situation nowadays, people always love to talk and talk...Very few wanted to be quiet and listen to people with their sentiments. However, we need to be reminded about the importance of "listening" or being a "listener." For me, a good leader is not only the one who is always talking and expressing his ideas with the group or team. But most of all, the who knows how to sit down and listen to his subjects about their sentiments, suggestions and concerns. Likewise, a good friend is the one knows how to spend time with his fellow and take special moment to be with him and listen. I believe it is a hard task, but it is worth with other people who are in need of other people to listen to them. What can you say about this?

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3 responses

Pioneer2b

@Pioneer2b (8)

• United States

11 Dec 10

Stepje, I would have to say that to be a good friend or leader someone would have to be able to display a balanced "give and take" system. When I say this, I mean that one should be an "active" listener. They should "listen" without dwelling on "thoughts" in response to what the "speaker" is conversing. When someone is "listening" they should be allowing thier mind to "absorb" what the person is saying and then once they completely "absorb" what was being said they should respond accordingly. But I honestly have to say, this actually works better in becoming a "leader" instead of a "friend". The reason why I say that is because too many people turn to "listening ears" to unload their issues to but very seldom "listen" in return to the responses that they receive.

celticeagle

@celticeagle (159636)

• Boise, Idaho

9 Dec 10

I think a good friend is someone who you can trust, who listens and who knows us well enough to have the right answers when we need them. A good leader has these qualities and alot more. They like people, they want to help, they listen and have a knowledge of how to help and for what needs to be done. Listening is key.

@Graceekwenx (3160)

• Philippines

8 Dec 10

I agree with you stepje that listening is of utmost important ingredient among friends and leaders. There is one problem though that I wish to address to people who are in need of advise. Oftentimes, one would complain and a friend would console; and when the friend would give an advise, the complainant would reject and not even think about the possibilties that it might just work. Many times though that the one needing help is just too narrow-minded to accept an advise. I dont know if he is being narrow-minded or proud. Listening is vital to both parties.