Role of baby in family life.

India
December 12, 2010 11:41am CST
Do you think that a baby bridges over the gap between a wife & a husband or at least has a role in minimizing the gap between them if any already created?
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@singup (666)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 10
for sure the gap will be minimizing by baby even they hate each other they still think about the baby all the time
• United States
12 Dec 10
Babies do require way more time then some parents can give. However as a loving family the responsibilities need to shared so that the family remain strong. Sometimes couples do not realize the amount of work it takes until they are there.
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
12 Dec 10
I think a baby could bridge a gap between a husband and wife, and only if they wanted it to. I think a couple would have to decide how much they wanted their marriage to work. Often, if things are to bad, then having the added responsibility of caring for a newborn could get in the way of trying to work things out.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
15 Dec 10
I do think that adding a baby to a family will bring man and woman closer together than they had been in the past. However, I don't think that bringing a child into the world is the key to bridging large gaps in a family that had already existed. Because though children are a great joy to have in your life, if you are already having issues in your relationship, there is a chance that adding a new baby to your family could drive man and woman further apart.
• Philippines
21 Dec 10
Babies are angels so they are really considered as gift from God and the fruit of the couples love to one another. They help strengthen the family, they add happiness in a home and they bring the married couples closer...they are truly a blessing and i thank God we have a son, still looking forward to have a baby girl before this year ends...:)
@Leoheart (11)
• Singapore
13 Dec 10
As a joy in the house
• United States
12 Dec 10
Absolutely not. I think if there is a gap, a child will only make it bigger.
• United States
12 Dec 10
No. I think it will make a gap even wider, especially i one parent wasn't truly ready to be a parent. A couple Has to be on the same page Way before the children come. They Have to be a team. A Baby can't automatically make a couple be what they should have been before the baby came.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Dec 10
hi doctordidi it depends on which country you are in. here in the US too many marry too young and are not really grown up enought to handle a new born besides a gap in their marriage, so no the babty will only make it worse.first they need some marriage counseling and to grow up and quit trying to make their mates into perfect human beings as humans are not perfect. they need unconditional love which makes each accept the other person the way he or she is, not the way theyt would like them to be. we are all too prone to want perfection from imperfect people A young couple should try to get their gap sorted out and began to love each other the way they are. once they get this in their life and learn to love each other just the way they are without changing each other then start a baby as by then they will have learned about babies and how to care for them.
@celticeagle (159451)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Dec 10
In an ideal world two people marry and are the best of friends. A baby would probably bring these two closer. But that is not always the case. When I was young and married for the first time I wanted to have a child to show the pure love I had for my husband. Now I look back at that and think what I romantic I was and am now.
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
13 Dec 10
Yes, my expereince, it did help me and my wife. our children were bridge and anchor of our life, they held us very stron gin our relationship in the midst of some very very difficult times when our relationship were about to be broken, the children held us together, they acted as bridge as you mentioned, they cross us taking our love to and fro and healed that sore and mend it for us to go on again. The children are surely are special gifts and they are indeed a bridge.
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
13 Dec 10
There are multiple roles for a baby in the family. When one is lucky, that baby brings harmony to the family and bridging the gap between spouse. However, some babies are not that lucky, they are seen to be a curse, bringing bad luck to the family, while in some cases, babies are used as punching bags whenever parents are not in good mood.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
12 Dec 10
no. a baby comes as a result of love. so if the couple has problems and a baby comes than problems will increase. there are women who think that if they get pregnant than this will make them and their husband be more close when the result is in fact the opossite. so I think that a baby should come when the parents get along well. of course they have their fights because the are different, they have different types of personality, but they don't cheat on each other or stuff like that
@xxj3ffxx (501)
• Australia
13 Dec 10
Most of the babies who are born in this world are the product of love between couples. And in this case, this is a bridge not to make their love greater and make them grew closer. But in certain special cases, there are unwanted babies who are born in this world which break up couples either the man or woman is too scared to take care because of millions of reasons.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
12 Dec 10
No a baby will not cure this. Having a child to raise causes a lot of stress and a bad relationship between the couple only adds to this.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
12 Dec 10
I believe so. If both wife and husband love that baby so much. A baby acts like a medium to bridge the gap. Both will communicate more to make sure the baby deserve the comfort of the home, and make the baby happy is all they will cooperate to work together.
@bagputza (504)
• Belgium
12 Dec 10
Good evening dear mylloter friend DoctorDidi , hmmm reflecting for quite a few duzines of minutes on your question , i believe that the role of a baby in the human lifes it is to sometimes maturize the relationship a couple has , and when i say that i am saying it having a verry good example in my entourage , actually i have one of my best friends that just had a little girl nine months ago , after been in a relationship with he's girlfriend for two years , my friend has twenty four years old at the moment , and he's girlfriend has only twenty years old , i consider them a verry young couple of parents , and when i say that they are girlfriend and boyfriend , it is because they are still not married , neither in church neither at the city hall , but they do live togheter for almost one year and six months. Well this friend of mine , before he found out he was going to be a father , going a few months back , before he got the news , he used to be a person whom used to get out all the day , hanging out with the friends , and the week'ends he used to go all the week-end in the clubs and discos. He spent most of he's time without a job and having fun , he was sleeping untill two a clock in the afternoon , and was verry iresponsibile , even he was involved in a relationship with he's girlfriend. Well after he had he's little girl , even before a few months , after finding out that he was going to be a father , he slowly started to change , he spend most of he's time apllying for job interviews , running all the day in the city triyng to find a job to ensure the future of he's future child , started waking up dailly at six am and leaved home from eight am in search for a job , with alot of patience he found a job as a clerck in a big supermarket like CORA or Carrefour , he started saving monney for baby clothes , pampers and other babby food and stuffs that a baby needs , he used to be not too carefull about he's girlfriend and sometimes we could even say that he had times when he was cold with her , and now when you see them togheter you think that they just started theire love relationship , that they just started to re-fall inlove with eachother , so for me , what i have saw it tells me that the coming of a baby in someones life means CHANGE and big time , well i guess that it does not apply for everyone , because we all have different personalities , but in this case it does apllies , so a baby cann have different role's in a couple's life , i have simply stated the case of my friend , for him the coming of he's first baby was a big reason of change , and i do look up to him for doing soo. I wish you a verry great evening dear friend. Florin , Over and Out
@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
12 Dec 10
Yes, usually babies change the life of a couple. But if can always be a problem solver, I don't think so. If the gap is to big between the partners, than it is better to split up, because it is not good for a child to see many arguments between the parents.