How long will you stay married?

United States
December 16, 2010 1:04pm CST
When you got married did you ever ask yourself how long you will remain married ? Do you feel marriage is a commitment forever?? I would love to hear what people think about this...
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24 responses
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
Yeah I think it's a lifetime commitment, you see I married late, I explored all the possibilities and lived a single or bachelor's life to the max, so when I decided to get married that's it, me and my wife are raising a family, enjoying life, and supporting each other to make the marriage last a lifetime ,I hope and pray
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• United States
17 Dec 10
What about atheists and agnostics?
@nicregi (1934)
• Malaysia
16 Dec 10
Hi there. Yes, I believe that marriage is a commitment forever between two souls. If we are not committed, don't get married. Only when two souls are ready to overcome obstacles, then yes, you might be ready for the whole new level. For me, since marriage is a forever commitment, I will stick to it forever, until we feel that maybe it won't work out or will do more harm then we might just go seperate ways is better :) Just my two cents!
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@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
My opinion about marriage is a long lasting commitment. Marriage is divine and a wonderful relationship between man and woman. No one will destroy it nor this is not last only a year...marriage is forever.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
22 Dec 10
I am not yet married but i am thinking if ever i will get married i will surely be married forever. I believe it really is a life long commitment. A promise to the one you love and a promise you make in front of God.
• United States
16 Dec 10
Absolutely when I got married I did feel it would be eternally. Unfortunately my ex-husband did not and well things did not work out as we have been divorced for quite sometime. I tried really hard against all odds to keep us together but unfortunately it did not matter as his intentions were differently. I do feel marriage is a commitment and one many should really take very seriously, however it is difficult when one of the two does not agree with the same feelings.
• United States
17 Dec 10
Hi girl. I have been where you are talking about wanting the marriage to work and doing all you can to make it work. BUT it takes 2 people to do it! One person can't do it on their own. My daughter was in the same situation and ended in divorce.
• United States
19 Dec 10
Yes when I got married I thought it would be forever. Well my husband says that he doesn't love me and that for the sixteen years that we have been married he has never loved me. We are currently separated but we are talking. We have two kids and he says that he never loved me. That is a bunch of crap. I know in my heart that one day that he will coming back to me if I can get his family out of OUr lives. That is way I'm doing this so I can make enough money to get him back.
• United States
17 Dec 10
We have been married for over 33 years. But we have had our ups and downs and we were almost divorced for our 25th anniversay! I HAD the appointment with the attorney and my daughter told her dad that I had it and once I went there would be NO turning back. He decided to come home AND STAY that weekend!!! It takes 2 people working things out and working together to keep the marriage. We have both been married before and both of us were in previous abusive relationships. I would never stay married to someone that was abusive. In fact, I walked out on my ex, barefooted, snow, no coat and no money! He had come home in the middle of the night, drunk, and hit me! I got up off the floor and walked out the door! THE END!!!
@sylvia13 (1850)
• Nelson Bay, Australia
17 Dec 10
I did not get married in a church, but I still consider that it was a commitment forever. We have our good and bad times, but we are always together, always taking each other an our two children into consideration! I have been very lucky I think to have found the man I did!
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
17 Dec 10
I n our days, marriage is a lifetime commitment. TImes are chaging now, and I guess that people would take things as they come.
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
17 Dec 10
My response is going to be a little different because I have never been married. I watched my parents fight, argue, separate, make up, separate again. It killed me. When I got older I decided that I wasnt going to marry for society or my parents. It would be when I was certain It would last forever. I was with my first relationship for 5 years. I had a daughter by him unplanned and unfortunately all he wanted to do was place house and abuse me. I left and was single for a while. I ended up with my highschool best friend for 13 years. He was a great guy when he didnt drink. Which became the biggest nightmare I hope I will ever experience. There were two good things that came from this relationship. First he adopted my oldest daughter and was awesome to her and still is! Secondly, He gave me my daughter Anissa. Yes I really thought he was the one but I guess deep inside I knew the truth. After this I decided that I wanted it to be just me and the girls. It was and I must say they are two of the most well adjusted young ladies I have ever known. I get so many compliments. Then one day I met him. I didnt pay much attention and within a few months we were inseparable.Seven years later and still as much in love as the first day. I must admit for a while I kept waiting for the bomb to drop. He asked me to marry him the first month we were together. I said yes but I also told him how I felt about marriage and how important it was. We agreed if we made it through 7 years we would get married. Low and behold we made it. This februaty, god willing, I will make him my husband! Ive waited so long for this moment. I know he's the right one for me. He doesnt judge me. He makes sure Im always aware of his feelings for me and he loves my girls. There have been tons of rough patches from fire,flood, to illness and we never parted. I am proud to say I am getting married for life. If it ends by some misfortune I will cherish the time we shared. I doubt it will because we know what is expected of us and we know how society views marriage and we want to prove them wrong. Happy MyLotting. dl
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
17 Dec 10
I have always thought marriage should be for life.
@mimiang (3760)
• Philippines
19 Dec 10
William and kate - Kate and William
marriage is never short-lived.It should be forever.i t should be lifelong.
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
17 Dec 10
Marriage should be a lifetime commitment. In years gone by, people never got divorced and knew they had to stick it out for better or worse. These days so many people get divorced they seem to think if it is too hard they can get out of it. It seems more like a whim now than an actual commitment.
@sumocuk (32)
• Turkey
17 Dec 10
For me marriage is a commitment forever. But there are people who are not happy in their marriages,who have problems. I don't think they feel the same way as me.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
16 Dec 10
yup forever but then things can happen that might not make that posible
@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
17 Dec 10
I do believe marriage is a lifetime commitment, and it is why I never have gotten married.
@dodo19 (47050)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
17 Dec 10
This is certainly a question can not really answer for certain. We cannot always see in the future. But I think that one of the key things to remember is that any relationship takes work. And one cannot really expect it to be easy all the time.
• United States
16 Dec 10
I hope forever I have been with my husband going on 8 years, sure we all have our ups and downs, fights, make ups and everything else that goes on in marriages, but I feel if you truly love each other and have faith and especially trust your marriage can last a lifetime!! I am happily married and sure I get tired sometimes but I get over it I think my husband is a very good man.
@deedee328 (1122)
• United States
17 Dec 10
No I did not ask myself how long I would stay married. I just assumed that I will be married until such time as the good Lord takes one of us out of this world. I believe that marriage is suppose to be a life-long committment.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
17 Dec 10
Forever...I grew amidst people who were happily married for years.Wouldn't deny saying they never had any tiffs and misunderstandings over issues which can be overcomed in a day or two provided both are willing to.so i believe in holding her hand until my last breathe no matter what irrespective of how much we fight or hate each other.One should keep on loving which makes heck of a difference and takes your marriage a long way.great day.