Everybody has a brain and the function of the brain is to question

@zandi458 (28124)
Malaysia
December 17, 2010 5:13am CST
I read a great deal of interesting discussions in mylot and responded to those I can relate well as I am super active here and is able to mylot for long hours a day without getting bored. Mylotting has become my routine and who cares what others say on my activities here but since this lot keeps me away from undesirable activities (gambling, gossiping etc..) I stay glued to mylot that helped me pass my time and keep my sanity intact by having fruitful sharing with learned and experienced people in mylot. But what surprised me is when I started a topic that has unexpectedly drawn in many responses and someone has the audacity to say that my topic of discussion was controversial which sparked others to respond. This is something that is not true as many are aware that controversial discussions are the most unfavorable topics here and have high chances of being parked at the 'no response' shelf. Getting many responses is only on rare occasions and should be viewed as a 'lucky strike' instead of criticizing the OP for posting and hitting the roof with responses. Do you equate a discussion with many responses as a controversial discussion?
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@gdesjardin (1921)
• United States
19 Dec 10
Hi Zandi! I think some people are critical no matter what the discussion is. When I am MyLotting, I give honest answers to a discussion and I am who I am, however, if I totally disagree with a particular subject, there are ways where you can be polite and not just down right rude. I think some people that start discussions ask for others opinions, however when we give them they get very defensive. If you ask others for advise or their opinions, you have to remember that is exactly what they are...THEIR opinions. It doesn't mean you have to take their advise. With that being said, their are other people that answer so rudely and that is not necessary. We are all humans, and make mistakes, but to sit on here and slam someone for sharing a story with others is really unexcusable. I enjoy my self on mylot as well as you do, but lately some people on here have to learn to lighten up a bit.
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
20 Dec 10
I just wonder why people have to belittle others and try to enforce their own shallow mentality. It is not only verbally attacking the OP but even the responders views come under this person criticism.
• United States
22 Dec 10
I know, and it is just sad. No one wants to be verbally bashed on here. I am all about giving honest opinion, but it can be done tastefully.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
22 Dec 10
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
18 Dec 10
What can I say zandi? I actually love controversial discussions I have to say they are the one I enjoy most! may be that is why I do not post very often[ if that!]I do not enjoy bland discussions! I just love something I can put my teeth in to it! if you know what I mean?
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 10
I do understand what you mean but I don't have that to offer as I need strong vocabs to power shoot my words which I am handicap of. In the meantime you need to digest and grip what ever is on offer.
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
18 Dec 10
Come on zandi your discussions are the best! and you know that!
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 10
@Lakota12 (42678)
• United States
18 Dec 10
I would think so . A post is to get different responces and opinions really dont think that is controversial. lots of responces make you feel good and ya know that people are reading them
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 10
Getting many responses is thrilling but the thrill just evaporates and left me confused when someone leave negative remarks. But as a seasoned mylotter, I have to face criticism with deeper understanding.
@Lakota12 (42678)
• United States
19 Dec 10
yup ya have to over look those neg. people
@RawBill1 (8537)
• Gold Coast, Australia
17 Dec 10
Hi Zandi. I have seen some discussions here that have gotten pages and pages of responses, but the discussion has been very basic with not a lot of room for back and forth discussing. Asking a question and getting a response is not really a discussion in my opinion, but you see quiet a few discussions here like that with no real opportunity for voicing a real opinion. You are right, our brains need to question our thoughts and the thoughts of others in order to stay healthy. A clever mind can only come about through use and discussing topics that may have different view points is a great way to exercise our minds. I think some people are attracted by controversial subjects, but most I think prefer to avoid them. Sometimes I am willing to participate in them, but other times, I think I could not be bothered so I move on. It really depends on my mood and how much time I have.
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 10
I was quite naive when I first joined mylot and would specifically go for discussions that are debatable. But since they are considered 'controversial' and is not doing justice to our reputation, I now refrain and try to mellow down a bit to only align myself to something light and easy. How dare I start a controversial discussions that doesn't benefit me or my responders as it is a landmine that we are trying to avoid here.
@RawBill1 (8537)
• Gold Coast, Australia
18 Dec 10
Landmines are good to avoid. I do not mind a debate, but I try not to take things personally. Everyone has the right to their own opinion and I do not get upset if someone believes the opposite of me. It is easier to stay away from those debates though, but that does not give the opportunity for ourselves and others to think and learn if we always avoid them.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
20 Dec 10
I don’t believe that a popular discussion is necessarily a controversial one. I posted one about a year that received over one hundred responses and it was about one’s favourite drink or something equally innocuous. I don’t believe that you are the type of person who would purposely set out to be antagonistic. I didn’t read the post you are referring to but I am still certain that your intention was not an argumentative one so the people involved with the touchy responses are best ignored; maybe they were the ones who set out to be quarrelsome!
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
21 Dec 10
Unfortunately we come across people who had no experience of how to agree to disagree, they look in the shallow recess of their underdeveloped minds.
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@GardenGerty (130403)
• United States
20 Dec 10
Just because a discussion gets a large number of responses does not mean it is a controversial topic. It could be a really fun topic to respond to. Or it could be a Universal type of discussion that everyone can relate to. I do not understand why someone would be critical of your discussion just because people can answer it and choose to do so.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
21 Dec 10
Some people have nothing better to say but find the most unacceptable reasons just to conceal their jealousies. What else can describe such people?
@ebuscat (5945)
• Philippines
18 Dec 10
For em to question because they don't know anything but to listen because they want to know anything.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 10
but...but...ignorance excuses no man. They should be armed with a certain level of intelligence to call themselves matured individuals.
@dawnald (84213)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Dec 10
Not all discussions with lots of responses are controversial. I've seen many that were fun and/or silly, but not controversial at all.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 10
Only you and me knows that.
@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
17 Dec 10
There is always some jerk around to rain on your parade, don't worry about people like that.They are probably just jealous of u because u got so many responses. I think it's great to get alot & am glad when anybody else does. Have a happy weekend.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 10
Hi lady, it is not an everyday affair that we are able to catch others attention in what we write. If only these people have the spirit of mylot at heart, they should not create a nuisance of themselves by pinning others down.
@savypat (20244)
• United States
17 Dec 10
Of course I am always happy when one of my discussions grabs the attention of many people, it's great fun to hear from those who are not on my friends list. But mostly I am just glad the I get the number of responses necessary to get paid. I am happy that mylot can work so well for you. It helps me also, in many ways it is my only social contact. Blessings and Happy Holidays
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 10
Many of us can subscribe well to mylot concept and here I am coming to my 5th year in mylot and enjoying every moment of my virtual world life here. The interaction with people who I may never meet in my lifetime is a wonderful experience.
@sender621 (14932)
• United States
17 Dec 10
I agree that everyone has a brain. We could not live or function without it. Our brain is used to respond to so many different things. I don't believe the brsin is only used for questioning things in our lives.
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 10
Brains are multifunctional but some people who are self-consumed are clueless of what they are saying as they never consult their brains before saying something in a public place like this.
@joystick (1678)
17 Dec 10
I have been a member of this site for a few weeks now and i have been trying to get the time as well as the energy to come on here, iof there were only more hours in a day then that would help,lol.I think that there are alot of interesting things that they put up on here and there are always things that we can relate to.I do both start discussions as well as respond and it is great, as there are great people on this site that take the time to resond and keep responding, then it is the case that we all try to keep up,lol.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 10
I hope you remain active for a long time to come to enjoy the camaraderies that we share in this wonderful mylot. I have been here long enough to vouch the integrity of some people I met here.
@Dday50627 (359)
• United States
17 Dec 10
Hello dear Lady... Though my health issues have kept me from being as active here as I would like to be, I still follow your writing daily. WHen I see something I feel truly compelled to respond to, I do so. As I read this this morning, I felt for certain compelled to write. First let me say that "controversial discussions have been the Gateway for some of the most fascinating writing ever done. I myself love a good "debate" and that is what I rather call the proverbial "controversial conversation." They often bring out a two way street meaning that the most intelligent AND the most ignorants often will respond as one. But the question here is... do you receive a huge amount of responces because your write was controversial? Well, there again, as I said, the smart and the not so smart answer the same questions sometimes. The fact that many of your writes draw in huge reponces is not based on them being "controversial." I believe fully that you receive many responces because like me, many readers find your discussions to be very thought provoking and completely worthy of a responce. You write with passion and open discussion that are about the every day person. The you and me and the guy next door. Relevant discussions that allow a vast variety of answers because there is not always one simply answer to be written. You feed the very life line that has made MyLot as strong as it is today. You open peoples minds to thoughts and there-fore, you fill in the spaces as Mylot writers should do. I would think, rather than the fact that your writing was controversial, it is in fact highly interesting and so, it brings in the huge responces that I have become accustomed to seeing attached to your discussions. Any other explanations are formed by writers, jealous of a great writer and to make thenselves look better or feel better, they tear you down. Do Not let them take you down, precious lady. Keep doing what you are doing here because the responces ou receive say it all, very loudly. You start interesting and sometimes even intoxicating discussions and That, dear one, is what you are suppose to do here. Thank you from me for that. Always I am just a screen away. ;) Darrel
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 10
Hi Darrel, you are one of the rare breed of people in mylot, a silent mylotter that only creep out of your cocoon as and when you are triggered to say something concrete which makes you a precious gem to keep. It is expected of you as an established writer to write at great length, something I truly enjoy reading as with all your other trilling short stories in your blog. Thanks for your never ending support, words of encouragement and your words here today inspired me to keep going and not to entertain words that might be tainted with jealousy. Thanks once more for yet another great write from you.
@Hatley (164154)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Dec 10
zandi congratulations for getting a lot of responses as that meand a lot of us appreciated your discussions and wanted to share our opinions. I never look at any of my discussions that really get a lot of smoking was bad for your health. i mean those against it poured paragraph after paragraph in saying it was bad while all the smokers pounced on me and some really insulted me.also it caused two trolls to take my ten down to a five in 24 hours, I did complain, and they were indeed caught and banned from mylot . I was only put back to a 8 but I worked myself up to a 9 and 92 percent which is okay. I feel I have at last earned that.
@Hatley (164154)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Dec 10
sentence left out by mylot for some reason.third sentence was supposed to be I never look at any of my discussions that got a lot of responses as controversial as I just figured I had hit on something that sparked similar interest in others so they responded.then One discussion was controverial as I was green. I wrote that a lot of smoking was bad for your health.I mean those against it ..... I had hit save as I have been losing some responses and somehow some of my writing did not get saved. sorry.
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 10
Hi Hartley, your words I truly appreciate appreciated your discussions and wanted to share our opinions. This is the reasons why we post discussions here to get feedback from people of all walks of life. We are here for the same purpose and to pin down the OP just because the discussion gets good responses by trying to put unreasonable reasons is not only demoralizing and not to mention trying to undermine others. What is really disturbing however is the intent behind making others red with embarrassment with such uncalled for accusations.