Is marrying a age old custom....?

I was raised as a Christian, so I personally am glad that I was married before my husband and I had our son, however I don't judge other people who are not married. I did live with my husband before we were married and I always felt like it was wrong and I would feel that way about having my kid out of wedlock, but my views are not the same as everyone else's. I can't say which is better for everyone, because everyone is different. I can say that marriage is better for me, but I cannot tell someone else who has kids and is not married, that they are wrong, because I have no right to judge. I do know for a fact that it does not take marriage to commit to someone for a lifetime. And marriage does not prove that you love someone, obviously, look at the divorce rate.

This is a nice topic but I have a question for you, is there anything you can do if the girl gets pregnant accidentally? Can you blame the two person who love each other yet their family do not agree with the relationship? Can you blame the two person who don't have enough money to get married because of poverty and there is no job available? It is very hard to when you compare before and present because before everything is so affordable so you can process you marriage anytime you want. Today when you plan to get married you have to undergo different processes and it always involves money. Even a simple wedding is a little expensive. The meaning of marriage didn't change until now because when you say you get married, the first thing in our mind would be family, you are planning to have a family. You can't blame these people who you think changed the meaning of marriage. If you are in a situation where you fall in love with someone then you don't have money to marry that someone but that someone don't care if you marry him/her or not as long as you are together. What will you do? Actually you only have to choices, either continue to love her and be with her or leave her having a painful heartache. So my point here is that, marriage did not changed in meaning. The only reason why you want to get married is to have a family. I will agree with if today, the reason why people get married is to participate in war not to make a family in that case marriage is totally insane. These people you said have their own reasons why they don't want to get married yet they already have children, and others already have children before they get married. Whatever the reason is, they are still walking in the same path and direction and that is to build a family.

I believe in love then marrige then the kids. It was the only option for me. I think it is the way it was intended to be. I also believe that its not for me to judge others choices. I think that people dont take their relationships seriously enough anymore and even a marraige is something that can be replaced or tossed away like its meaningless.

Personally i think marriage only if u want to start family or have children or the other spouse is damn rich.Haha.If not better not get marry.If she/he want to go away and end the relationship then better be.And find new boyfriend and girlfriend to replace.Celebrity marriage start and end also give bad impression to the public.I think marriage is an old custom and slowly been eradicated and further evolve in same age marriage.But it will still be here for still long time yet.

In my country, the generation of my parents are very traditional. A man and a woman must get married first and then start having children. But a lot of young people usually have relations first and then get married. Personally speaking, I will get married first and start a family

I think marriage has become a whole different thing than it used to be. I think people get married alot faster nowadays, as I think it's also alot easier to get married. I think the way marriage is these days is good as people can just tell eachother they truely love one another, and marriage will really show this. Happy holidays!

Well, it can be said to be an age old custom, as in the past the society considered marriage as something mandatory to obbey the social rules for not to be critisized when you wanted to start a family. Nowadays people don't need a paper that says they love their significant other, as the best way to demonstrate it is by actions, and not by legal papers. Nowadays marriage is just a legal procedure that can be used to obtain legal benefits, and if people want to obtain those, then it's better to marry, as still people who haven't gone through that step can't obtain those legal benefits. Apart from that, it's not neccessary to show love.

Although I have had one divorce in my lifetime I prefer marriage. I feel that it is doing the right thing, showing your kids that this is what you would like for them as well, and overall your marriage if done for the right reasons will have the Lord's blessings. I have been with my husband now for 18 years this month. I feel happy when I say I am married. I hear alot of couples that introduce each other as "husband and wife" which is a lie to me. I hear alot of men give reasons as to why they don't want to marry a woman, and if you ask me it's because they really don't want to be committed to that person.

Hi friend from my point of you, it should be like that the couple should be marry before starting a family, that the modest and legal, not like trial and error method which they started family first before marry. The sanctity of wedding is like a second choice only... it should be first before further action.... but love is the foundation of it... see you around

I find it better for people to marry before having kids. But then again after having kids things all change. The two are now responsible for someone more than themselves. They are now responsible for more lives. Perhaps it would be a little better if they took a parenting class or something to figure out what its like to be parents, see if they are cut out for it yet. Even so, its no reason to rush into marriage and even if married there is no reason to rush into having kids. They only need to love each other faithfully to really get married, don't need to marry to have kids.