How to get my life back on track??

United States
December 30, 2010 4:41pm CST
So I'm a single teen mom. To this point in my life I have been doing pretty good. I have 2 jobs and I'm currently still trying to achieve my hs diploma. I think it's safe to say that my son is pretty much set. He never is without. I have no social life except fer a few, but Its hard to maintain a friendship with someone you have no common hobbies or interests. I have lately began to question my motives in life. I have no idea what I would like to do as a professional job. I was looking into nursing and realized that it would of never been a job I would like to have. I'd just be doing it for the money. Someone let me know what other options are out there other than being a nurse. Thanks and please.
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6 responses
• Spain
31 Dec 10
When I was living in the US I had some friends who are in your same position. They didn't know what to do because they didn't have as much time and money as regular teenagers. I'm not in your position as a mother but I'm 18 so I can help a little with teen stuff. I'm also in college studying journalism because if I had to choose a job in the whole world I'd choose working in VOGUE magazine. It sounds stupid but it makes me try hard to achieve what I like. You should do the same. Get a paper and write your dream job, or just stuff that you like doing. Then get what they have in common and see if there's a job that would help to get it. Example: if you like parenting, playing with kids, helping others, you could make a great teacher. Hope something that I said works for you. :)
• United States
31 Dec 10
Thanks yea I was Looking into that, But with the way the new generation of children are now a days its unfortunately a scary thought to be a teacher lol. But I would love to do something with teaching of getting taught, if there is even such a job.
@GardenGerty (157622)
• United States
31 Dec 10
I would not want to teach older kids, but I enjoyed being a paraeducator for a HeadStart and Special Ed. preschool. I learned a lot, even though my kids were adults. That is a fun age. Maybe preschool age would be an age to look into.
31 Dec 10
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• United States
31 Dec 10
First, congrats for not abandoning your education. I have a sister who is a nurse and just from listening to her experences in school and now on the job, if you do not want to help people in that way then the classes will be harder and you may never actually become good at your job. Think about the things that you like, how are you in math? There is acounting, secretarial work, teaching, go to the local college and see what certificates they offer because that may be the fastest way to learn a trade. What ever you decide to do remember to enjoy it.
• United States
1 Jan 11
They are not only there to help people figure out things like this but there are also people at your local college who will help you find financial aid, and the school may also have child care avalible. You may need to make an appointment, but always feel free to just go up the your local college or university and ask around or make your appointment in person.
• United States
31 Dec 10
Thanks. I can honestly say that i have never heard a compliment like that lol. But you are right I should go to a college adviser. I never went cause I figured they wouldn't help me with anything like that, but its a school and they are meant to help. But Thank you for your voice.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
31 Dec 10
i don't know how old are you... but i assume that you are still young because you say that you are a single teen mom... being young has a benefit because you still have lots of opportunities ahead of you... you can still do lots of things... just think what your hobbies and interests are and from there you can pursue your career... good luck... take care and have a nice day...
@GardenGerty (157622)
• United States
31 Dec 10
As a teen mom, you have missed out on some important things, like finishing school. So your first step is to finish that High School diploma. With that diploma you can then look at the availability of other training. Are you eligible for Job Corps? That might get you into a career field that you like. Do make a list of the things you like and the kind of people you enjoy being around. You are doing so well taking care of your son, when he is old enough, try to get him into some early childhood programs. There are some very good free services available. Good luck in what you are doing. Right now, the first thing is that diploma.
• United States
31 Dec 10
Many Thanks. It does seem difficult at times, especially being a single Mother at that. But I have thought about "When the time is right" just because my son is far from going to a school or will be going to a school. But I also dont want to start late onto my profession. Hopefully If i can go to this college councilor ill be able to draw out a invisible map of my life. High school diploma always have more advantages when you have them but unfortunately I'm only 3 classes away and feel like i can never finish, especially with two jobs.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
31 Dec 10
Hang in there. I am assuming that your family is helping you right now? Have you tried office work? If you know how to type then try getting into an insurance company or something. It's how I started off and moved up. I raised 4 kids on my own. It's tough but it can be done. I wasn't as young as you but you can do this.
• Canada
31 Dec 10
First of all, good for you for having such focus to begin with. Most teens don't have such direction, yet alone those with children, so I commend you wholeheartedly. Second, focus on the high school part first. Try taking some personality tests and aptitude tests to find out where your interest lies. Again, I commend you for recognizing you won't be happy in nursing. Too many forty year olds feel trapped in jobs they hate, because they were blinded by dollar signs in the beginning. Are there any placement programs in your district/area? When I was about 18 I did three month job placements in different fields. If you're a young, single mother, there are probably lots of assistance programs to help you out with this. Find something you enjoy or at least has opportunity for growth. For example, a lot of companies will pay for continued education, such as banking industry, to upgrade your licences while you work there. That type of thing has lots of room for growth. You'd be surprised how many financial people ended up as human resource professionals because the opportunity was at the place they worked already. Hate to sound like a broken record, but again, good on you for having your head on so straight and your feet firmly planted. I'm sure your future is bright and will be crystal clear very soon. Your son is very lucky to have you.