When having conversations, do you tend to listen or talk more?

. - Different people handle conversations differently.  Some talk a lot, some listen a lot and some do some of each.
@LovingIt (5396)
United States
November 18, 2006 4:44pm CST
Why do you think you tend to do this?
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• United States
19 Nov 06
heh .. i always talk more .. but when something is serious i listen .. after putting in my two cents
@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
20 Nov 06
LOL. You are the kind of person I like to talk to. I generally don't have a lot to say, unless there is something serious to discuss and then I need someone to listen to me.
@wings33 (230)
• United States
27 Dec 06
Same here, I rather listen, my mouth gets tired when I do too much talking. I'll say what I have to say than shut-up, especially if I'm with a talkative person. If I'm talking with a quiet person I have to talk a little more and ask them more questions to get them going. I also tend to talk more over the phone than in person, because I don't have bw worrying about how I look or other issues. When I'm alone sometimes I'll talk to myself or sing a lot.
@frosthon (2249)
• Singapore
27 Dec 06
I like to listen more, the reason is, the more I listen, the more I learn something I don't know. The more I talk, the less things I learn. I tend to let people talk more about their experiences and thoughts and talk when necessary. But when I'm intoxicated, I tend to talk more rubbish... lol...
@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
27 Dec 06
LOL. I think we are all that way when intoxicated.
@askshivam (478)
• India
4 Dec 06
giraffe - giraffe
i prefer to listen then to talk, first i give the chance to other person to complete his/her talk and then only i comment upon that when he/she finishes. by doing so both of us can present our point of view more clearly because if want to be heard by others then u must listen to them first.
@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
4 Dec 06
This is true a lot of the time.
@lauczi (962)
• Poland
4 Dec 06
depends who i talk with. if the person is silent and has not much to say then i will be the leader of conversation. but if the other person is talkative then i have no chance to talk i just listen and sometimes try to put one word between their sentences. i can find myself in both situations
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
4 Dec 06
Thanks for your answer.
• Singapore
26 Dec 06
I tend to listen and talk at the same amount.
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
26 Dec 06
That's great.
• United States
27 Dec 06
I'm more of a listener. I don't know why. I've always been a real quiet person. I just don't talk much in real life (now computer or phone is a different story), unless I have something real important to say.
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
27 Dec 06
I understand. I'm the same way.
@Mahindan (563)
• Canada
24 Nov 06
I listen to people a lot. If you listen you can learn a lot about the person who is talking to you.
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
24 Nov 06
That is so true.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
3 Dec 06
I listen first and then to add to the conversation. Sometimes I do a lot of talking and other times I just listen. It goes both ways.
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
3 Dec 06
Thanks for your answer.
@firelight (1858)
• Australia
21 Nov 06
I listen more, I hate talking about myself.
@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
22 Nov 06
Why do you hate talking about yourself?
• Singapore
4 Dec 06
it's very subjective, sometimes i might want to listen more, sometimes i will talk more. but if the other person is telling me about his/her problems, i will be the listener..if it's just casual talk, i will talk more.
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
4 Dec 06
That's pretty much the way I am, except that a lot depends on who I am talking with as well.
• Philippines
21 Nov 06
I'm a listener..but when my opinion is needed, then its time to talk...
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
21 Nov 06
Great way to be!
@rikpallav (1242)
• India
4 Dec 06
In a conversation I tend to do more of listening then to talking... as I beleave... when the talking is silver the silence is golden...
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
4 Dec 06
You have a good point there.
• United States
4 Dec 06
I'm a listener. Which works out well since my hubby is a talkaholic. If I feel strongly about something, I can have plenty to say though. Especially if I'm with a group that I know well. One thing I have noticed is that I communicate much better in writing. I like to have time to collect my thoughts and get them all straightened out before putting my message out there.
@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
4 Dec 06
I'm the same way. I do better with written communication as well.
• Philippines
3 Dec 06
well for me conversation must have that talk and listen. you cant talk all the time and just listen all the time .. it would be one way conversation which is not productive cause there is no exchange of info. thus, im a listener and talker. though there are times when i want just to listen or to be the one to talk but as much as possible i want it equal.
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
4 Dec 06
That makes sense, I think.
@jade17901 (597)
• United States
21 Nov 06
Well it depends. If I have to talk about myself than I def listen more, lol. But really I do alot of both
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
21 Nov 06
haha. I understand what you mean.
@mansha (6298)
• India
21 Nov 06
I listen more generally if you listen to people you tend to learn more than what they actually are saying.
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
21 Nov 06
That's very true.
• United States
20 Nov 06
listen cause im not a talker
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
21 Nov 06
I can understand that
@FlaKNMB (831)
• United States
20 Nov 06
I listen more. I think it's because my mom, father and older brother talked a lot and when I was growing up, I learned to listen. Everyone was so busy talking, they didn't have time to listen to me so there didn't seem like much point in my talking too much. I'm big on writing, though.
@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
21 Nov 06
LOL. I've been around a lot of talkers also, so I know what you are talking about. I express myself much better writing as well.
@rekaede (32)
• Romania
20 Nov 06
i'm the silence in person, rarely can i express myself as i like, but i love listening
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
21 Nov 06
So am I.
@paul8675 (750)
• Australia
20 Nov 06
Mostly listen thank goodness. God gave us 2 ears and only one mouth.
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
21 Nov 06
There had to be a reason for that!