scold my wife

hmmm... i don't know if i should agree with these scoldings. first of all, you both live in the same roof. you shouldn't put all the "house" responsibilities on your wife's shoulders. i have the same woman too (forgetfulness thing) but i don't scold her for these short-comings. she's got her own things to do and to take care of. you're the one who's addicted to coffee so therefore it's your responsibility to manage your coffee supply.

didn't you notice it was running out?

Well I have to say that from what I am reading, I think you might be over reacting a little. I am going to guess that you work and your wife stays home. So you see it as her having responsibility to you to make certain that EVERYTHING runs smoothly in the home. I personally am a stay at home mother. I have two children, and more responsibility in my life now, than I ever thought I would have. I am sure that it was a simple over sight but I have to tell you, if you are the one drinking the coffee, shouldn't you be checking on it and reminding her as well? I think that being in a marriage means that you are a team, I know that my husband believes the same. That means that you have to work together if you want things to go well. I know that there are times when I have literally a hundred things to do in a day, all while keeping the children fed and happy, there have been times when I have forgotten to wash my husbands uniform for work and he will have to wear a dirty one for the day. It isn't the end of the world, he doesn't yell at me, doesn't get mad at me, he just kindly tells me that he is out of whatever he needs and I make sure that the next day I have it ready for him. I think that if you take this approach with your wife, you might find that you better not just your relationship together but your life as well. I hope that my thoughts have given you something to think about, and I hope that you and your wife have a happy and loving New Year. Happy mylotting.

Hi Sql_cell I am a wife and I do understand why your wife does forget things around the house but I do not say that you are wrong voicing out your anger. I just hope you weren't so harsh on her we you did. My husband loves coffee, too and just like you he relied on me about a lot of things including what has ran out in the pantry. And I sometimes do forget to tell him because we do groceries that lasted a month for things like coffee and sugar, etc. Ordinarily, we seldom missed those things in the pantry. My husband would also complain if there's no sugar or coffee, or milk in the pantry. But, i often told him that if he knows we don't have those things anymore, he should get them himself since he is the one who often goes out. Plus, he uses those things more than I, so, he knows more than I do, so, it is no longer necessary for him to wait for me to tell him. Besides, wives has a lot of things to think of already, not just what we do and don't have in the pantry.

We all do forget something every now and then so don't get angry to your wife. Instead, understand her for being so forgetful. I am just like your wife but my husband never scolded me. He instead remind me every time what he needs so I could buy it all. Stock some packs of coffee into your house so you will never ran out of it every time. Stay cool and never let things like this makes you angry at your wife okay?Have a nice day ahead!

Most responses would be what I would want to respond with also, so I will not duplicate. I can suggest that if the coffee runs out in lets say a week that each week as a reminder ask your wife if it is on the weekly, bi-weekly grocery list. What I find useful at our house is that I never wait until I am down to the last container before I purchase another, as it is the responsibility of all coffee drinkers to put it on the list upon noticing one left prior to opening the last one. I understand your frustration as I would be a grouch in the mornings without my coffee. Good luck to you and hope this New year will bring lots of coffee to your mornings.

Hi Sql cell, Does your wife drink coffee too? My guess is that she also has a lot on her mind. Maybe she does not work outside of the home but I know that taking care of a small child is a lot of work and very time consuming. Whatever the reason is, she is obviously having a problem keeping track of the coffee. Rather than argue about it with her or get angry, why don't you occassionally take a moment to peak at it and see if it is low. Surely you must have to buy some after so many days has passed. I would think that a pattern would form and you'd just know to pick some up. I am a single mom and I know that I have to buy cereal, coffee and toiletpaper each week. We go through a certain amount of milk and juice. I just pick these things up and if we haven't yet run out then I'm a head of the game. It's not worth arguing about or making your wife feel bad about. It's just coffee.

Hi Sql, if this often happens, then you must be check by your self if the coffee has run out or not. then you can make the supply for it. i guess your wife is too busy or the coffee is out of her attention. she is only human

You also must have made a mistake, not just your wife who made a mistake. If you made a mistake and get yelled at, how you feel. Every human being must have made a mistake, nothing is perfect in this world, including you.

Hmmm, we never run out of coffee at our house. There is always some available, even if it's not the flavor we enjoy, but there is always coffee. we are out of vanilla..again, but I love it so much! It's cheaper than buying a cappuccino at speedway. Do not be angry with your wife, we all forget time to time.

I really don't think you deserve to be angry about anything. People are free to get angry over suitable problems, but those who get angry over such tiny and meaningless things truly have more to learn about living their lives than they'd think. Seeing as how angry you became over this, perhaps you need to have a very long and civil talk with your wife with a therapist present. This is not normal human behavior. As for scolding your wife...is she your child or an animal? No, she's not. Scolding your equal partner is not an option. I'm sure you have done things that weren't in line with "your duties," and therefore needed to be punished and scolded, but in that case I hope your wife has matured more than you and has risen above such a low standard, leaving you to learn that humans make mistakes and to simply try again. Your wife is human, and you have a duty to care for her and respect her. I think you are miserably failing at that duty.

you sound like my dad. she gets mad with my mom with just little things and petty reasons. dont be so harsh to ur wife.

calm down,guy,I think your wife was just careless,she really don't want to make this happen again.if she have this bad habit,you can suggest her to write the notes. I think this way can help your wife to remind what she should do.take it easy.It is a simple things.

Hey sql_cell, just because you work and your wife doesn't make her guilty of not providing you with coffee. You are the one out most of the day, you could help buy the supplies. If you love your wife, understand there may be reasons why she is forgetful and each time you scold her, did it solve the problem? Maybe you could assess how frequently you need to top up OR better still, buy double supply. When the first supply depletes, refill it. Then you should not run out of coffee again. But my point is as a husband, understand it is not easy for a wife to stay home all day and pander to your requests. She's your wife, not your slave. Sorry for being direct. Have a good chat with her, and yes...over coffee.

cool down friend.. anyway she is your wife.. try to fogive her.. explain her about your feelings. she surely understand you..