I wish I could believe you.
By megamatt
@megamatt (14290)
United States
January 6, 2011 9:16am CST
It is really disheartening when someone lies to you so much and misleads you that you lose faith in what they are telling you. When they get to the point that they keep tell you something that could impact your life if true, but you can't believe them, because they have really burned you one too many times. Is this another lie? It is frustrating when you think about it, but have you ever been to that point with someone? Where you would like to believe a person but cannot due to you've been badly mislead by them one times too many. What if what they were telling you was true for once?
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9 responses
@chiyosan (30186)
• Philippines
7 Jan 11
i'd agree with you. its really hard to get back where your hopes and trust in that person started and it would be like everything he does from the moment forward of the lies you have uncovered would seem like a lie in itself. if it was true, then that is the consequence of what the lie they told you and i am quite sure that that would be sacrificed....
i guess just trust what your heart tells you at this time and im sure that will change over time...
@megamatt (14290)
• United States
7 Jan 11
Indeed, trust once lost, can be a long and torturous journey to reestablish. That is of course if it is ever brought back to what it once was. Which sadly, it rarely is. That is just a fact of life. It is quite unfortunate, but that's just the way life is. Thank you for your response, it is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@lingli_78 (12821)
• Australia
7 Jan 11
i think trust is something that has to be earned and once it had been betrayed, it takes a very long time to restore it back... like in this case, if we had been lied by the same person over and over again, we can't expect to trust the person even though he/she is telling the truth for once... how will we know??? it is very hard... so in this case it is the person's fault for lying too much in the past that cause me not to trust him/her again... take care and have a nice day...
@megamatt (14290)
• United States
7 Jan 11
Trust is hard to earn. Easy to lose, really, really ease to lose. Therefore, when they do tell the truth, it is hard to know. Perhaps they have turned over a new leaf. Still once that trust is gone, its hard to rebuild. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
6 Jan 11
I have this situation with a family member. But I've learned to numb myself and keep an eye on what she says. It doesn't bother me as much, only when I fall for it, or I've learned not to since I have to deal with her a lot. I guess I'm not that gullible to begin with or again, I've taught myself not to be. I always have doubts and I have to figure it out on my own even if the most trust worthiest person tells me something.
@megamatt (14290)
• United States
7 Jan 11
Yes, there are many times where the only person that you can really trust is yourself. It is a harsh attitude to have. However, it is really more survival instincts then anything. It is just something that does help you get through life. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@eurekafemme (5874)
• Philippines
6 Jan 11
Hello,Megamatt.
This situation is not alien to me. I have been lied upon so many times, worse, by the person I trusted so much.
, that every time he opens his mouth to tell me about something, I'd say at the back of my mind, 'yeah,right, tell it to the marines.' or 'i'll believe you once I see it."
This could be very frustrating since it is ruining the relationship. Sigh... It takes years to build that trust but it only takes a sec to destroy it.
This situation is not alien to me. I have been lied upon so many times, worse, by the person I trusted so much., that every time he opens his mouth to tell me about something, I'd say at the back of my mind, 'yeah,right, tell it to the marines.' or 'i'll believe you once I see it."
This could be very frustrating since it is ruining the relationship. Sigh... It takes years to build that trust but it only takes a sec to destroy it. @megamatt (14290)
• United States
7 Jan 11
That statement does sum things up in a nutshell. Trust is something that is slowly built over time. Then in a snap of the finger it can be all gone. Then once broken, it might never be rebuilt again. You're always looking at that person with a suspicious eye. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
6 Jan 11
I remove these people from my life. I can't stand them. I've had people tell me only enough of a tale to make them sound interesting only to find out it was only part of the truth. My mother-in-law has always been guilty of this. She will tell me of some financial predicament and when I tell her how to fix it there is always something more the tells the real story. I could go on and on about this subject. When someone lies how do they keep track of it?
@megamatt (14290)
• United States
7 Jan 11
I sometimes wonder how people do keep track of these lies. It is kind of impressive. Not a good kind of impressive mind you. But still it is rather impressive, as it does take some work to be a liar. Not that it is something that you should be patting yourself on the back for. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
7 Jan 11
When someone tells me about an important matter and i am skeptical of what i say, i always check it myself to prove the validity of what has been said.
I have always encountered people like that. They say things that are lies. Whenever i found out that they are lying i confront them and refute what they say. From then on, they haven't tried lying to me because they know that i will investigate before i will believe them. Besides, i avoid proven liars!
@megamatt (14290)
• United States
7 Jan 11
It is best to avoid proven liars indeed. Still there are times where I run into these people by pure coincidence, even if I avoid them. I think part of my problem is that I'm too nice a lot of the time. Still I just nod and humor them, even if I don't believe a word that's passing through their lips. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@jwfarrimond (4473)
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6 Jan 11
If you don't trust what they say then check it out to try an get evidence to support or disprove what they say. But if they have lied to you in the past, there is no reason for you to take anything that they say at face value. In fact, I'd assume that they were lying until proven otherwise.
@megamatt (14290)
• United States
6 Jan 11
Yep that is a pretty safe assumption. At least, until I verify it from another source that I know will not steer me wrong. Keep it in mind, but don't believe them. Still the assumption that they are lying is always in the back of my mind. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@housechaos7 (609)
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6 Jan 11
This is one of them things that many of us often have to deal with I have been in the same situation before and you must put a stop to it,i found that the person doing it would open up and tell the truth if i went around it the right way by saying for example i know someone who could help with that il have to introduce you.Or something similar then how they respond should help you know its the truth or not but to be honest i would kindly say outright that yopu thin they have a problem with lying and that you want to help
@megamatt (14290)
• United States
6 Jan 11
I really think that lying is one of those problems like smoking or drinking, where once you've done it for a certain amount of time, it is really a bit tricky to start doing it. Especially when they've convinced themselves that they have always told the truth. And there is always the classic, "you're the liar, because I never lie" that tends to get thrown up. If someone believes something strongly enough that its the truth, then in their demented little view of the world, it can be. Hard to help someone who does not believe they have the problem. First they have to admit it and while it can happen, it also cannot happen. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@craigy123456789 (1758)
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6 Jan 11
I do not see a reason as to why some people have to lie, and for many people they do it so often, i am amazed that some can remember all the lies that they have told. I would find it so hard to lie so often, glad that i don't do it, it really can hurt others and you yourself will look stupid for being the person that is doing all the lieing. I think that it is best to be upfront and honest, when you lie you can be caught out and it is hard to remember what lies you have told, so make life easier and tell the truth, you gain more respect from being honest rather than lieing to someone.
@megamatt (14290)
• United States
7 Jan 11
Yeah I never got lying. I mean, that just takes so much effort. In some twisted way, people who lie are hard workers, if they keep the lies straight. Or in their deluded minds, they have convinced themselves that what they are saying is the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. I would rather be honest, even if honesty can and will hurt. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
