Harsh words from parents

what you said to your sister is just so right... I remember when I was young till the day I was leaving with my mom.. gosh words she will use when shes angry is just so foul.. but I dont really keep it inside well before I used too but maybe I just get used to it.. Everything turns good after I live by myself.. and she also told me that she was just full of stress before evrytime she has to use unpleasant words to me and my bro n sis.. Anyway whatever happens we only have one parents.. and we should not give up to them as they are to us:)

I hate to have any argument with my mother. I do not know but every word she utters when she's angry (especially at me) makes me lose my control and wishes me to strangle her (sorry). Though I know that what she shouts (at the expense of the whole neighborhood) is for my good , I hate that she has to use some negative words that makes me think and feel less of myself. I try to diffuse my anger by not having her in the same room, lest I say something more bad and make the argument worse than it already is.

It depends on whether he had a bad day or rather had an excuse for that bad day. You did not tell us what your father had said to your sister. If he had called her stupid, or wished she was never born or called her ugly, that is inexcusable. If he had said that he was busy, and wait later, or he had these bills to pay, or we might lose the house, that is another thing. By the way, my dad called me stupid, said I eat too much, etc. and he was not having a bad day then so he had no excuse. So have not been where you are.

You are right in saying that to your sister. Your dad will not be lying to you if he said he has lots of debts to settle. Any parent will not say that, but simply just give their children what they are asking if they think it's for their own good and if they are financially capable. I myself and my husband will also refuse our daughter if we really are so financially hard-up in her schooling. To be honest, we told our daughter that we cannot cope with the schooling for Medicine because she wants to pursue that, after she graduates from BS Biology this year. in her desire to pursue medicine she will be applying for scholarships on Medicine this end of january. For us, all we could do is help her by praying to God to allow her to pass those scholarships. She herself told us that she will pass of because she met all their requirements. But she still has to pass the others so she could choose the best. Those were not harsh words from parents, but a simple advise just delivered in a harsh tone. Believe me, because i have been there.

Oh God, I know that feeling. When my mom is stressed or angry she just comes at me saying all this things that really hurt. I think that it is just not fair, anybody should have to deal with something like that.

hi! this is actually my first response here in mylot. yeey! i just signed up today. :) n'weiy. i think eveyone has been there. wen i was younger, there wasn't a day i do not hear harsh words from both of my parents.(i have my own family now. btwat first, i thought i will always have grudge for my parents. to my suprise, i do not have any. yea~ they're imperfect and i always know they love me. :) I LOVE THEM A LOT, too. especially, now that i have my own and i know how hard it is.. ?

Well I never heard anything harsh words like bad words from my parents. Although I have been in the same situation that I still get hurt when we don't agree on ideas and opinions. Sometimes, I do like to set things and prepare things that I thought they would like but not. I do have expectations that I cannot meet since theirs is higher in standard and I felt belittled and rejected by my ideas as they disagree to it. But so far as what I can say, I do take it as a motivator for me to get things going and focus on what I wanted. Its true, no one is perfect so we do have flaws and that includes our parents. So we just have to cheer up and move on with life. The respect for our parents should always be there.

of course i love my family very much.my world like zero without my family.i love my ma so much.i don't think a second with out her.my ma is my life,my world.please pray for my mom. thank you so much

I experienced the same sometimes, and you just have to suck it up. You can talk back to your parents with harsh words too, because they are your parents nonetheless. I am a grown up man, sometimes I just need to take those words. And I have to learn to forget and forgive. That is the best I can do about it.

Oh, yes I've been there so many times specially when I'm still younger. Many times I've asked my self if my parents really love me. Many times, I've disobeyed them, argued with them but always in the end there will be forgiveness and the love is not lost at all. Now that I am a parent, too, the more I've learned to love my parents and understood what had been there when I still young.

Everybody wants the same things. Not to be alone to be ahappy and free. The world is sometimes upside down.