Am I a sick man?
By liweiwei0909
@liweiwei0909 (403)
China
January 11, 2011 1:28am CST
I want a baby but I don't want to get married.
Is there anything wrong with me?
Am I a sick man?
4 responses
@somethingsomething (17)
• United States
11 Jan 11
You are not sick. However, if you want children and don't want to get married, I would encourage you to volunteer for Big Brothers/Big Sisters and other groups where you can play a father role. Maybe it will satisfy some of the need for a child. It will be difficult, perhaps, to find a woman who doesn't want to get married and just wants to have a baby and hand them over. You also want to consider what is in a child's best interests. Do you not want a female partner in your life at all, or do you just not want the "piece of paper?" You might want to try having a relationship with a woman and seeing where it goes. You could be surprised that you meet someone someday who you would really want to have a child with. You just never know.
@liweiwei0909 (403)
• China
11 Jan 11
I just want to be a single mother, and in the futher life, just my child and I in the family...
@somethingsomething (17)
• United States
11 Jan 11
Well...I am confused. You said you were a man, and now you say you are a single woman. Alright. Doesn't matter. Anyway, it is one thing if you end up a single parent due to circumstances but why set out to be one? Wouldn't you want your child to experience the love and support of two parents? Children not only are hard work and the more support the better, but they do learn all sorts of social skills and problem solving skills from seeing their parents interact, disagree, resolve conflicts with eachother, etc. If you want to be an intentional single parent because you cannot seem to form a solid relationship with the opposite gender, you are modeling that for the child.
Adoption is an option if you absolutely want to be a single parent, but I wouldn't get pregnant or if you are a man get a woman pregnant and expect it to go like you want it - you alone with the child - because the other person has a say too.
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
11 Jan 11
No I don't think you are sick, you just have the new way of thinking and many woman get pregnant and deliver their baby without a father. It is going to be a normal thing to get a baby but not getting married.
The only concern is if you were to get pregnant, and after you deliver the baby, you probably need to register your baby's father name. In some of the country they only allow you to register your baby together with the father name. Or else, your baby cannot get registered and became a non citizen, so you must be careful of that, better check out before you plan to get pregnant...if you are not married.
@tkonlinevn (6417)
• Vietnam
14 Jan 11
There are many persons like you. You can do that if you find a woman whom there are ideas like you.
Or you can earn much money. Then, you can ask on science. Good luck!
@kaycharmedMD (381)
• Philippines
11 Jan 11
No I don't think you're a sick man. I want to have a baby too and like you, I dont want to get married. Well at least for now that's my state of mind. But I would love to give all my time and love to that one special baby. So no, I dont think you're sick. I think that is pretty normal. And nice too.
@liweiwei0909 (403)
• China
11 Jan 11
You a so braveness and you are a great mother.
Have you ever got anything difficlt in your sigle mother life...?
