demands in a relationship
By tigeraunt
@tigeraunt (6326)
Philippines
January 15, 2011 8:46am CST
my lotters,
i have not been feeling well for the last few days and my husband knows about it. but even if i am not feeling very well, i am duty bound to be at the office to work especially now that the board meeting of the directors is in the offing and budgets have to be prepared for the year. we are now late in our reports which should have been done end of december last year so we are cramming. my team and i, we get to do overtime 24 hours, even 36 hours without sleep. and i just was not able to respond to my husband's querries (who is abroad) about how i am due to it. cellphones were in the drawers because concentration in the meetings is highly much needed. i was able to see two sms on the cellphone afternoon of friday and i can very well feel how worried he has been already. he was already thinking the worst - like i am already hospitalized or something - because of my not being able to reply back. you see, we chat daily we were not able to that night due to this overtime, and to think - he said i am not well made it more worrisome. he said he was already feeling very desperate where he is and could not concentrate on his work. and when the time came when we were able to chat.. he was so upset expressing his worries. long distance relationships are too difficult and it is a mortal sin not to send a message to love ones far away. but at the same time, the love i feel is overflowing because of his actions.
i was feeling guilty but then i explained my side and i really hope i have taken off all his worries.
have you ever felt super special to someone? how does it feel for you? how does your partner express his love to you? 
ann
i was feeling guilty but then i explained my side and i really hope i have taken off all his worries.
have you ever felt super special to someone? how does it feel for you? how does your partner express his love to you?
ann1 person likes this
5 responses
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
15 Jan 11
Hi Ann,
In true relation there does not arise the question of demands but it comes out spontaneously. How two hearts could be detached when the inner bond is there. Your relation is a compass.
While one leg is fixed at one point the other keeps rotating thereby showing that even though you two are apart from each other you are bonded like the two legs of that compass. That you could not communicate for some reason should not disturb you for the other half is always with you and when you meet physically or by other means the overflow of love and passion should be let out both in action and words. Because if you love somebody you should express it or else how would you know that he loves you.
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
15 Jan 11
hello crajibg,
he is truly more expressive than me in some ways. but there comes some times when i want to communicate but hindrances makes it difficult.
anyways, we two have already settled it and right now he is at the other end and talking with me with all those lovely words that he utters as usual.
gosh! i feel like a teen. hehehehehehe
thank you for your response.
ann
anyways, we two have already settled it and right now he is at the other end and talking with me with all those lovely words that he utters as usual.
gosh! i feel like a teen. hehehehehehe
thank you for your response.
ann
@Professor2010 (20156)
• India
15 Jan 11
Sweety
This clearly expresses how much he loves you, it is quite natural for him to be worried, thinking abour your possible illness and hospitalisation is natural too, because you go office alone by public vehicle, roads in Davao are so rush during office hours.
In futute you must be extra careful to text him frequenly if you are help up in office for some reason or other, he certainly loves you, feels desparate..
Thank you so much for sharing.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
HAPPY MAKAR SANKRANTI,
Happy PONGAL
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
15 Jan 11
dear professor,
i certainly feel how important i am to him and for that i am very happy. i will surely try my best to always send him messages on time for him not to worry so much. 
thank you so much for your wonderful advise professor.
ann
i will surely try my best to always send him messages on time for him not to worry so much.
thank you so much for your wonderful advise professor.
ann
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
15 Jan 11
Most of the time my husband so the same thing as your husband did. He always worries if i cannot reply to his messages or calls. But this happen when i am at the middle of my transactions with the client or meeting. Being a wife i also feel that i need to respond to his needs and this makes me feel really weak. I love him but I am not happy.... Just like that and nothing more. Thanks.
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
15 Jan 11
hello mods,
you will agree with me that we as wives also feel that way and we get upset when we dont get messages or communications when we are thinking very much of them. 
thank you so much for your input.
have a very nice day.
ann
thank you so much for your input.
have a very nice day.
ann
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
18 Jan 11
I have to admit that I've never felt like I am the most special person in the world to anyone. That said, I do know that my husband loves me and he does show that he loves me on a regular basis. However, I also know that I am not the most important in his life, the children are. He shows that he loves me by doing little things for me, like yesterday he took the kids for a few hours so that I could have some alone time to write and stuff.
@thanks1961 (7033)
• India
15 Jan 11
Hi dear,
Love is a great feeling and I don't know any more definition is equaling to it. Where there is more love, there is more pain too. So, the only one thing you could have done is - just make a call, an email, or an SMS, saying that your state of situation. It could have take you for 15-30 seconds, and all the pains and worries could have make normalised.
Ok, if I were in your case also, could have been doing the same. But, remember, if such emergencies are upcoming all of a sudden, intimate the same to the concerned person. Even I do the same, some time I used to sit late or may be till morning or over night, but once I found that I cannot leave the office in-time, I would make a call saying that the probability of getting late. So, the people at home will be peaceful and relaxed.
I think next time, it will benefit you,if you can do such a personal though for our loved ones.
All the best and say my regards to your h/b
Thank-s
