One of my friend´s posts left me thinking...
By marguicha
@marguicha (230349)
Chile
January 20, 2011 10:19pm CST
It was a post about whether you should feel bad by not offering your house (and bathroom) to a total stranger that you meet at the laundromat. My friend felt bad by not offering him her bathroom.
I later thought that I do not like to share my bathrom or my towels with people I don´t know. In fact, when my daughters stay overnight, I give them (and my grandchildren) clean towels. I also Lysol the toilet after my grandsons pee (
no comments). Would I offer an unknown man my bathroom? NO I don´t know how clean their body is and I don´t know how clean their soul is.
My grandma always said that you could see faces but not hearts.
We can help in other ways though. We can make a difference in our community, getting together to find jobs for jobless people, demanding the authorities to help out. Democracy means that the people have the power to make a better comunity if they unite and work for it. In my country there are some jobs that people can do if they are willing to earn low wages. The question is: do I prefer no money or a small amount? I prefer a small amount.
What do you think about this, friends? Please share. I think this is something we must ponder about.
no comments). Would I offer an unknown man my bathroom? NO I don´t know how clean their body is and I don´t know how clean their soul is.
My grandma always said that you could see faces but not hearts.
We can help in other ways though. We can make a difference in our community, getting together to find jobs for jobless people, demanding the authorities to help out. Democracy means that the people have the power to make a better comunity if they unite and work for it. In my country there are some jobs that people can do if they are willing to earn low wages. The question is: do I prefer no money or a small amount? I prefer a small amount.
What do you think about this, friends? Please share. I think this is something we must ponder about.1 person likes this
11 responses
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
21 Jan 11
I agree with you about not sharing one's home with strangers especially one's bathroom, which is so personal. One's home is one's personal sanctuary and I could not see myself sharing it with a total stranger. I was homeless years ago for some time and i would never have thought to knock on someone's door that i did not know to use their bathroom. Instead, I used public bathrooms like in hospitals, churches, or soup kitchens. Like you said, even if they are physically clean the stranger's soul may not so i will not provide the opportunity for a stranger to upset my happy home.
As for making making small amount of money or no money, I would rather make a small amount honestly regardless of the type of work, then make to make no money and depend on others or make a lot of money dishonestly.
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@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
21 Jan 11
In the city I live there are public bathrooms everywhere. Many of them are absolutly free to use.
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
21 Jan 11
I don't think it is good to share your towels with anyone else, it gives the risks of diseases which can get transferred to you and others. The main risk here are the skin diseases.
I think the strangers will never ask for my bathroom or towels but if they ask then I will make some excuse and I will not let them use it. It is a good idea to produce a community where people can help each other with finding new jobs.
This site is already a good one, and it is more or less like a community where people help each other.
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
22 Jan 11
I think one should not feel ashamed of asking for it if you are sick. It is a matter of personal hygiene and nothing else. If it is an emergency then one have to ask for it
. I think you are talking about lose motion.
That situation is very bad and I think in that case one should remain in his her own home. I like your honest way of maintaining the relation of exchanging the referral link.
It tells me that you are one who respect yourself and also your business partner. I wish you good luck.
. I think you are talking about lose motion.
That situation is very bad and I think in that case one should remain in his her own home. I like your honest way of maintaining the relation of exchanging the referral link.
It tells me that you are one who respect yourself and also your business partner. I wish you good luck.1 person likes this
@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
24 Jan 11
I don't let strangers into my house. There are too many mean and bad people in this world. I get scared about stuff like that so I just wouldn't let them in. I would be happy to help people that I don't know find jobs or I would give them food if they didn't have any and were hungry. I just wouldn't let them come into my home if I didn't know them.
@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
24 Jan 11
I think a lot like you and I do not feel guilty for not letting them inside my house.
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
24 Jan 11
It is totally depend upon you becuase it will affect you. It is your life and if you think it no safe in anyway to do what you did, you do not have to feel guilty or bad. It is ok, that you have to be sure to help people really need help otherwise you might help other con people and the will rob you or do something bad to you.
@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
24 Jan 11
THere are many ways of helping other people without taking them into your house. I live alone and in my city it is dangerous to let a complete strager to come in.
Take care friend!
@figurativeme (1089)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
Not only the bathroom marguicha but I would hesitate to let somebody even step a foot inside my house when I do not know that person totally. I would consider this even dangerous.
And I agree with you that there are a lot of ways to help other people who are in need. A community of helping people could do so much in improving society, starting in our own communities. If each community would do constructive projects, even small projects, the sum could do much in improving the whole of society.
Is this wishful thinking?
Have a nice day, marguicha.
Have a nice day, marguicha.@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
21 Jan 11
I have a friend who runs an organization that helps reinsert in society people who have been in jail. There are workshops and besides what they do for sale, they give out toys to poor communities so they learn the importance of sharing and giving.
@jessiicali (120)
• United States
21 Jan 11
Marguicha, I have to agree with you. I don't think I could let a common stranger come into my house to use my bathroom or towels. Not only would I not know who they are but I also wouldn't know how clean they are or if they had any diseases.
On an off note, I do not blame you about Lysol-ing the toilet after your grandson pees! I am the only female in my house (other than my dog) so I have to suffer with a 4 year old, 2 year old & 26 year old male using MY toilet! LOL!
@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
28 Jan 11
Well, it would really depend on the situation if to whether or not I would allow a total stranger to use my Bathroom in my home or not. If it is a woman I would be a little more considerate for sure... and if my husband was home and thought it was OK I would allow a man. In reality usually most of the people who would ever ask especially where I live would be either friends of one of the neighbors or buying something from my store I run from my house.
Honestly, ya, you never do know what a person's intentions are when they are around you, but if you totally act like you Trust no one that in turn could cause a lot of problems later down the line, and I also feel that "Do unto other as you would want them to do unto you."
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
22 Jan 11
Something like this was on Simpsons the other day. They invited strangers to live in there house only to find themselves kicked out and living in the kid's tree house. I wouldn't invite strangers into my house.. I don't easily do it to even people I sort of know.. I really need to know them well. You really never know.
@r4v3n_ (178)
• United States
21 Jan 11
For me, I would let any stranger use my bathroom if he/she will just take a pee. But If he/she will be taking a bath and use my towel,soap and shampoo I would hesitate to let him do that. Because i don't know if he/she has some kind of skin disease. I'm not being selfish, I'm just making sure that no one in my family members will be experiencing something bad that may cause a great trouble in the whole family.
@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
21 Jan 11
mariguicha,
I too agree with you that I would not offer nor feel bad about offering my bathroom facilities to absolutely anyone that I did not know. Although I find I am a super clean freak, I would totally understand not being allowed to use a facility at some elses home who did not know me.
Same with me all personal guests and family members get fresh towels and bed sheets during their stay at my home.
I would feel bad about dumping food in the trash as oppose to buying a hungry person a sandwich and or helping them with a buck or two.
