How do you prevent your husband to look at other women?

Philippines
January 29, 2011 4:44am CST
What is the best thing to do to prevent our husbands to look at other women? Not that my husband is checking out other women, but even if look our grandest, they are still tempted to look at other women. More so, when you reach your mid-30's what exactly do you do to make your men still atrracted to you. Sometimes we exert effort, but we are still ignored.
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@indahfth (11169)
• Indonesia
29 Jan 11
It has become the nature of a man, like glancing at other women. Whatever we do, will not make the man, stop notice other women. All the men I met, all the same. As a woman, it's better not to do anything, because it will be in vain, and make the heart sick.
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@SIMPLYD (91044)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
I agree with you Indahfth. It's in their nature and you cannot prevent them to glance at other women. They are just appreciating a beautiful girl, but in their heart it is still their wife they would like to be with always.
@indahfth (11169)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 11
all the best things that has been done, but still, the result is very disappointing. wife had always desired to understand her husband. but husband, do not ever want to know, who wants his wife. husband always demanded perfection from his wife. if the wife is not perfect. husbands do not hesitate to seek another.
@qamarep (4447)
• Pakistan
29 Jan 11
arent you tempted to other men who are lookable its just the basic instinct to do this we both do this so we should just live with this fact
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• Philippines
29 Jan 11
Men need care, stay sweet to your husband and that will do it. Try to change his clothes, try to massage him if he is tired, try to hug him always, try to do something that he will really miss if you are gone. Always leave him wanting more.
• India
4 Feb 11
nagatron said the nice technique also. I think she is very confident with that technique. Remember, A woman can break a house or make a house. A smart intelligent can keep her husband to listen everything to her once she gives him love, respect and total care he needed.
@bjcyrix (6907)
• Philippines
5 Mar 11
You cant really prevent husbands to look at other women. It's in their nature to look. But there is a huge difference from "looking" and "adultery". It's like when women cant help but look if they see some shoes/clothes/or something else. That's how it is with men. Anyway, husbands should always make their wives feel special and not ignored. Even if they look at other women, they should still put in extra effort to make their wives feel not just special but genuinely loved. That's just what I think though.
14 Feb 11
I dont try to stop my husband from looking at other women. Looking is fine as long as he does not touch! In fact sometimes we talk about what he likes about them and finds attractive. I am confident that he will be true to me. There is more to love and living together than just looks. He is a saint anyway so I dont want to nag him on this point.
@goldeneagle (6773)
• United States
4 Feb 11
Trust me...your husband IS looking at other women, he is just smart enough not to tell you that he is doing it, and is surely smart enough not to let you see him doing it. You are not going to keep him from doing it, so don't waste your time trying to. Put that effort into looking good for him...
@jdyrj777 (6541)
• United States
31 Jan 11
Unless he becomes blind there is no way. Its just the same as when you notice some really attractive muscle bound hunk. You look but have no intentions. Once when my daughter and i were working as miads ina motel we were all taking a coffee break and talking. This super fine dude muscle bound walked through the way. All talking stopped. After he passed my daughter said "did anyone notice the color of his eyes?". We were all like oh did he have eyes. Its just human nature to look at beautiful things and people. I notice beautiful women but im not by or gay. The main thing is to keep him in your bed.
@celticeagle (124393)
• Boise, Idaho
31 Jan 11
If a woman is smart she starts a relationship with a man as a freind. You make sure of the man before you go onto another level of committment. Then you know if you can trust a man and you can feel confident in a relationship. And then if a man admires another woman you know in your heart that he is true to you and is just looking. If you dont do this then you aren't confident and when he looks elsewhere you can't be sure he is just looking.
@margeryann (1847)
• United States
31 Jan 11
I don't think there is anything we can do to prevent our mean from checking out other woman. It is natural for them to check out woman but we can tell them that they need to not look at woman in certain places because woman can since what you are looking at and to not stare because woman can tell that your doing that and that can make them feel uncomfortable and it makes me feel uncomfortable that you look at other woman that way. I think there is nothing you can do too keep your man attracted. If he is attracted to you he will stay attracted to you if he loves you , just like you stay attracted to him if you love him no matter what.Usually when a companions stops being attracted to you there is nothing you can do. I'm lucky my husband and I are still attracted to each other. We've been married for almost 22 years and that hasn't changed. Have a good week.
@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
30 Jan 11
U can't stop men from looking, that's just their nature. Even at my age, i still look just don't touch, lol.
@aerous (13457)
• Philippines
30 Jan 11
friend, there is no prevention in that manner. I think one remedy is show your husband a full of respect and love. So, that he cannot imagine anyone from his mind but you. Because you so lovely and sweet...
30 Jan 11
you cant stop men looking at women anymore than you can stop women looking at men. as long as you trust your man then it wouldnt hurt. i cant really say too much as i am single at the moment
• India
30 Jan 11
i am sorry if i hurt you. i am men married 1 year back,my wife will never missunderstand me even if i talk to another women.i think there is no special tips or tricks to stop your men not to see or look for other women,if you are having good understanding between you and your half. my great suggestion is don't mind about it,if you, there will a serious trouble.
@sharra1 (6341)
• Australia
30 Jan 11
I never try to stop him. If he is looking at another woman I am curious about her as well but I do not care if he appreciates other women. It is totally natural.
@derek_a (10894)
30 Jan 11
One person cannot really make another stop looking and finding others attractive. It doesn't mean that a person is going to run off with somebody else. It is part of human nature to appreciate beauty, after all it was that ability to appreciate another that brought two people together. If any partner has a problem, they should sit down and share their feelings with total honesty and not try and change each other. _Derek
@akangirl (2436)
• India
30 Jan 11
You should also start looking at other guys, just joking.Try to talk to him about his behavior and how much it upsets you but do so calmly and when he is calm too.you should travel someplace, have a second honeymoon. Change of place sometimes works wonder
• United States
30 Jan 11
You really can't 'stop' or 'prevent' your husband from looking at other women but you can stop obsessing about it. Try a return to your courtship period before you were marries--what sorts of little things did you do to fall in love with one another? Sometimes you need something different, a change. But change your ATTITUDE--men love a confident woman! As for age, I am in my late 30s and my SO is more in love with me than ever--we met online and got to know each others souls before we even met. I often get told by other men how beautiful I am but I've often been sh1t on by the men I've been in love with before. Age or beauty does not matter--if you don't love yourself first, how can someone else love you?
• Philippines
30 Jan 11
well, men are very visual. not like us women, who prefer things that are not seen..? hope that didn't come out wrong for myself, i don't forbid my husband to look at other women, as long as I know he can always look, but never touch he'll always come home to me. That I know for sure. And if he did stray, well, let's just hope that he knows what he's getting into and what he's risking to lose.
• Australia
30 Jan 11
me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years in the last 2-3 years he does look other woman he denies it sometimes but i always know hes doing it.I dont think there is a way you can stop this i feel like im not attractive for him anymore cause i gained weight after my child.i would like this stopped to
• New Zealand
30 Jan 11
Is this a discussion more suitable for women? As a guy I would say it is almost impossible to completely prevent your husband to look at another women. Likewise, it is probably completely impossible to prevent your wife to look at other men. It is within every individual's nature to compare. You can never fully prevent... but you can make efforts to attract his attention. Relationships are maintain through commitments. Sometimes your partner knows you are trying and may feel yes it is easy to get what he/she wants from you. Possibly a lack of challenge or goal in life. Perhaps you or your partner already had your moment of spark in life and is bored. Well if you able to go the extreme... You would have to cut out his/her eyes.... that would guarantee he/she would not ever look at other women/men. But... not recommended.(Seriously, I do not want to hold responsibility in suggesting this!!!)