How Bad Do You Get?

United States
February 4, 2011 7:39pm CST
This discussion is really for Fibromyalgia sufferers. I have had Fibro since my daughter was born 16 years ago. I thought it was bad when I was first diagnosed but it has gotten steadily worse over the years. Since my diagnosis, I have found others who have claimed to have the same diagnosis, yet they are able to do so much more than I am which leads me to think that there are variations in severity. Now, for those of you who are not familiar with Fibromyalgia, imagine arthritis in the muscles rather than the joints. When I have a flairup, I am totally crippled. I hurt, not matter what I do or what I take. I take Excedrin and hydrocodone and I am still in pain. It's the kind of pain that has a lot of heat in it...my whole body literally throbs and burns. My hands feel swollen, even if they aren't, my head aches, my back aches, my legs and arms ache and my hands feel like two lumps of hot coal. Do NOT ask me to do anything but moan and bawl all day when I get like this. What I am wondering, though, since I have found many others with Fibro on mylot, is this: How many of you are disabled due to your Fibro? How severe and how often are your flairups? How does it effect your lifestyle? And what do you do to cope? Have you found anything that helps? How would you feel about forming a support group? Any suggestions? Those of you who may not have Fibro but know someone who does, do you have problems understanding? Can we help you better understand the difficulties your friend or family member is having? This is such a hard thing to handle because most of us who develop Fibromyalgia have been active, vital individuals and suddenly we are wimps. The reason I got onto this today is because I have been writhing all day today. I am in the middle of a major flairup and have found no relief in any of my pain killers. I am actually in tears as I type this. I usually go swimming on Fridays but today I could not bring myself to get out of bed or put my swimsuit on much less actually go to the pool. I really look forward to my swims because the only time I am ever pain free thanks to my arthritis (of the actual joints) is when I am in the water. To top it off, my daughter hurt my feelings this morning by refusing to go with me to the pool. Normally that would not hurt me so much but due to my physical pain, I was emotionally hyper-sensitive so I broke into tears when she refused me. I think if she had been willing to go, I might have found the strength to pull myself out of bed despite my pain. OMG!!! I am really wallowing in self-pity now. I apologize. I really don't like to get this down and normally don't but today has been an exception. Anyway, so give me some feedback. Share your own experiences and suggestions. I really am needing to know that someone out there understands.
3 responses
@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
5 Feb 11
I do have fibro, and have probably had it for 25 or so years, but was only diagnosed about 10 years ago. I am not disabled with it, but I have met people who are far worse than I am. My docs would love to put me on different meds, but because of my corn allergy, they haven't been able to, so I just press on with what I have. Naproxen seems to be about the best help I get for my pain. I do know that while my sister understands, and my mother, my brother is a PITA about it, so I just avoid him if I can. What can I say? he's a PITA at the best of times anyway! There are days that I feel like I'd love to lay abed and feel rotten, but I find if I do get up it actually backs off a bit - I'm not quite up to those people who say exercise thru and push thru the pain, but I will say laying in bed doesn't help me any.
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• United States
5 Feb 11
Yeh, I've been told to exercise through it but when I have done so, it seems to actually get worse for me. It's like, instead of building stamina, it actually decreases it for me. Since this is not the normal response to exercise, I get no sympathy and no one actually believes me, I think. It is so hard! I have always been an active person, too...biking, swimming and dancing have always been my favorite things to do. Now the only thing I'm able to do of the three is the swimming...and even that not on days like today.
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@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
5 Feb 11
I hear ya!
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• United States
5 Feb 11
Commiserations, Girlfriend!
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@enihoris (11)
14 Feb 11
So I have some medical issues and Restless leg syndrome is one of them. I also have a pretty bad back problem. I have a lot of cramping in my legs and extreme pain. But sometimes the pain killers and motrin just doesnt work. I dont want to do anything when I am in this much pain. It just makes me wonder if some of the pain I have isnt really my back at all. I am just wondering how someone would know if they have fibro?
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• United States
14 Feb 11
Have you asked your doctor specifically about fibro? That's what I would do. I know that fibro is one of the hardest things to get a diagnosis for. Doctors just don't know enough about it to consider it a legitimate disease...but it IS! If you don't feel up to advocating for yourself, try and find someone who will advocate for you with your doc. Good luck!
14 Feb 11
No I havent said anything to the doctor but every time I go in there is something else wrong with me. I feel like I should fix these first, although if it is fibro the meds I am on prob wouldnt work. But anyhow....I wish someone had a magic balland could just tell me exactly what is wrong and exactly how to fix it. I am not sure exactly what the signs of fibro are, athough I have heard it is really painful. I guess I should research it, just at a loss right now I guess. Thanks for responding. I am new to this site and I really do like it. Seems pretty fun to be able to talk to people and get help!
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• United States
16 Feb 11
You need to make a full list of all your symptoms and hit your doctor with all of them. Don't take your healthcare piecemeal...that's what the doctors want to do and they never quite get around to the real issues that way. They just make tons of money off you doing it. Fibromyalgia is pretty much pain in all your muscles. There are pressure points that you will be hyper sensitive to pressure on and fatigue can accompany the pain, as well. I have known folks with the fibro diagnosis who are spared the fatigue. For me, the fatigue is almost worse than the pain. The doctors really don't know much about fibro and they really aren't very helpful with it. We just have to learn to live with it and learn what triggers a flairup so we can avoid it. Stress is a major trigger for me as well as extremely cold weather. Of course, I also have osteoarthritis which can flair up at the same time as the fibro giving me a double whammy. I hope you can find the answers to your problems. Welcome to the site. Take care.Hugs.
• India
6 Feb 11
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• United States
7 Feb 11
So...does this Doctor accept Medicare payments? Because unless he is covered by my health care coverage there is no way I can afford him. Last time I looked, Wholistic health care was not covered by government health care coverage.