High school friends that are friends forever

friends you met in high school - high school friends, friends forever
@bounce58 (17387)
Canada
February 5, 2011 2:28am CST
Have you ever seen the movie, 'Tequila Sunrise'? One of the questions asked in the movie was, why are friends you meet in high school, tend to be friends forever (or something like that)? I had some time this week, and I was playing around with my Facebook page. I am not so familiar with the site so I just clicked away. I came to a familiar name. It was a high school friend. So I made a friend request, which was then accepted. Soon we were chatting already. It was as if we haven't been separated for decades. We still considered ourselves 'close friends'. The question is... Do you feel this way too with the friends you met in high school? Don't you feel that high school friends are the ones that stay forever? Do you still have close high school friends?
4 people like this
24 responses
• Philippines
5 Feb 11
Well, yes they are. And been trying to keep in touch seems forever. I have friends during college that totally not in touch after graduation. Everybody has facebook account and they didn't even post "hi" on my wall.
1 person likes this
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
10 Feb 11
I think that when we're in college, we are more in tune with our ambitions. And our focus is what we'll do after school. It just so happened that we had friends during that time. While in high school, we all wanted to have fun. And I think that what made the friendship more memorable. And more likely to say hi on our facebook walls.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
5 Feb 11
I totally agree. High school friends are the friends which we'll have forever and they are the bestest people I've ever met. I have a couple of high school friends who mean the world to me. Though we often fought, they supported me and I supported them always. I miss them coz we're in different places now but we are still in contact thanks to facebook and other sites.
1 person likes this
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
10 Feb 11
Facebook just makes it easy, but even without it we are still close with high school friends. It's like we can even continue conversations we had back when we we still in school. And I think that's what makes us miss them too. Thanks for the response.
• United States
6 Feb 11
No. My friends in highschool wee nice and way smarter than I. We had great times and for a time we were sorta close but back then , I never let anyone get that close to me. So as they planned to go to college , I planned to disappear. So by the end of Junior year I was separating myself from them . My schedule for Senior year also helped. The gang had been broken up. So by graduation I was alone and that how I stayed. I have no interest in trying to connect. I have great , close friends now. The past is past.
• United States
11 Feb 11
Thanks.I thought everyone planned out their lives by 16. That's when you were suppose to pick a college! But back then I thought once I chose some path I couldn't change my mind.I just assumed when a teen or peer said they were going to be this or that, They Were going to be it. And there was no way to change your mind. I guess that is why when I saw nothing in my future , I thought There was no future for me. As for being not naive ? My mom said I was an old soul. Maybe that is why As my junior year went on , I grew nostalgic!
• United States
28 May 11
Thanks for the best response .
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
10 Feb 11
It is really interesting how someone young, in high school such were yourself, could plan your life back then. And that you even had the vision to distance yourself even a year before graduation. I would have thought that high school was the age were a lot of people were just a bit naive. You were way more advanced back then Sarah.
1 person likes this
@zhawee (873)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
I believed that, even since until now my classmate in high school we never forget each other.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
19 Aug 11
Hello zhawee. There are a lot of people that we never really forget, but the people in high school seem to be the most memorable of them all. Thanks for the response.
• United States
5 Feb 11
Oh gosh yes with many as a matter of fact. As we have a handful of us who communicate daily via, Facebook, email and chat. We also get together 2 - 3 times a year. Some of hem do not live in the same state any longer but we take time out to get together for further reunions as a group. I think this is so as while we were younger somehow we have molded one another for the future that became so we can relate to what we all wanted and perhaps could not achieve so kind of nice to rekindle the fun times all over again.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
10 Feb 11
Maybe when we were that young we were all naive. And we were all at the same stage in life looking forward. Which made our relationships with each other able to withstand even a lifetime. Thanks.
• India
5 Feb 11
Well thanks to Facebook that i have managed to keep in touch with all my friends. I came to know them through mutual friends of my friend. Till then i had no details whatsoever of my friends but now we are all together in this! I would like to say that Thanks Facebook for bringing me and my friends together. We were friends and area friends and we will be friends forever! Cheers!
1 person likes this
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
10 Feb 11
Although I am not too fond of facebook, I think this is one of their great contributions. That we are able to re-connect to some of our long lost friends. And share some old pictures that could give a smile to everybody seeing it. Thanks raviteja_ravi84.
@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
27 Feb 11
I have met soo many school friends through Facebook. It is great. There are a few, that I feel we could pick right up talking....although we missed the past 25 years. It is a great feeling to feel you have a friend for life.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
3 Mar 11
I think friends are hard to come by these days. That's why when we find a friend from the past that we re-connect again, it feels so great. Then we start remembering how it was before. And all the fun we had. Thanks for the response.
@maezee (42003)
• United States
17 Jul 11
Besides on Facebook, which doesn't at all count in my book, I don't talk to ANYONE from high school. Maybe like once a month. My best friends are my work friends (I met after high school, more recently) and friends I've had from Elementary School, Middle School and earlier than that even. It's pretty awesome though. The group of friends I have from elementary school are spectactular. I'm not even really sure what happened and how we are even still friends. But we've all known each other since kindergarten. We are all VERY different people. Usually people try to be friends with others that they have something in common with - but all we have in common is that we've been friends for 15 years. When we go out in public, I'm sure people think we are THE weirdest bunch because we all have different styles, hobbies, and just different personalities. It's just crazy. Anyway I did have a few good friends in high school, after I got past 10th grade (I skipped about 30 days a semester in 9th and 10th grade - did not like attending very much) - but they have all moved off to colleges and whatnot and the motivation to get in touch really hasn't been there for me. IDK.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
20 Jul 11
Maybe you and your kindergarten group of friends had mature personalities when you were 5 and 6. Maybe that's the reason you could still be friends until now. What others experienced in high school, you all experienced early on. I don't even remember a single name from kindergarten!
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
27 Feb 11
Hi Bounce, I agree with you, but I'll take it a little farther. Coz I've been friends with my bestfriend since we were in grade school. We were still classmates the whole time we were in high school, and this was when we became really close (we started sharing secrets about our crushes and other things). We went to different universities, so we started seeing less of each other, but we never failed to update each other whenever there was an opportunity. I went to work in the city after college and she stayed in our hometown. Now we're both married and have kids and live miles apart but we still manage to talk via cell phone or emails, and now on Facebook.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
3 Mar 11
I think that the longer you have your friend, the stronger the bond. Since you've had your friend since grade school, you've almost had a lifetime together. And that bond is a bit difficult to break, even with distance (and not to mention today's technology, facebook). Thanks.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Feb 11
I do have one friend from high school that I am still very close to, in fact, she is actually my son's godmother. However, in my case, the majority of the people that I am the closest to now are the people that I met when I was in college, however they weren't necessarily the people that I went to college with. Two of my closest friends are people that I met during that chapter of my life, but they were not people that I went to school with.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
10 Feb 11
I think once in a while we meet friends outside of school that just turns out to be great finds. But for the ones we met in school, high school, we also tend to treasure as these were the times we started 'growing up'. And really learned about life. I think this forms the bond that makes this friendships seem to last forever. Thanks.
@arystine (1273)
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
Yes, I am still close with my high school friends. :) And I've had that feeling, that even though you don't see each other that much, you are still close. As if nothing's changed. One of my best friends from high school even became my house mate during college and even when I was working. :) It's nice to have someone who knows me then and now. And who reminds me that despite the changes in life, there are those friends who remain constant in your life. :)
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
14 Jul 11
Oh how I wish I could still have high school friends that could remain constant in my life. As hard as I try for them to be the way they are, I can't help it that they've also pursued their own lives. A little bit thankful that I still see some of them on FB though! Thanks atty!
@aurorastorm (1131)
• United States
7 Feb 11
My very best friend who lives in another state, and is like a sister to me, I met in 2nd grade. A few of my other very close friends are friends from high school. Like you thanks to facebook I have reconnected with some other friends. It amazes me that 20 years after graduating I still feel close to some people even if I have not talked to them in many years.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
10 Feb 11
Isn't it amazing?! With this discussion, I actually have formed a theory that the younger the friendship started, the greater it is. This would explain why high school friends are closer than college friends. It would also explain why a friend is 2nd grade would feel more like a sister.
@daiweian06 (1405)
16 Feb 11
Almost the same. But we are no longer been together after college. We went different ways and when we talked about things we are really not having the same idea on it. I still remember when were in High School we are so close with each other and even can't go in different ways. And all of it change into like this. I can still call him friend but not really close I think. We have different stories and experiences on it so there is no perfect answer. Good day! God bless!
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
18 Feb 11
That's the sad thing about it. You realize that after some time, when you get to college, that your priorities have changed. However close you were in high school. And like you said, you are talking about the same thing, but not really understanding each other. I think it is just the march of life. Thanks for the response.
• Pakistan
27 Feb 11
Yes I think you are right the friends we meet in our high school are the best and friends forever. I have 5 friends in which 4 are my high school fellows and 1 is my primary school friend he is the oldest friend. I know him for last 14 years and we are still friends. Often college life also gives you good friends to make but i think they cannot take the place of your old friends.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
3 Mar 11
I think that when we get to college, our priorities have changed. By then, we are more focused in making our future, so we really don't mind if we lose college friends because their focus might be different from yours. Unlike friends in primary or high school, where we were just out having fun. Thanks.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
6 Feb 11
I have a few friends from highschool that I chat with sometimes. Other than them, I really haven't stayed in contact. I have moved around a lot though. It's hard to keep friendships when you move around a lot. I lost track of them very early in my life and have never really found them again.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
10 Feb 11
Same here. But I think you would be surprised if you go to facebook(if you have an account already), and start searching for your close friends in high school, that it would feel like you never really been apart. That was my experience, anyway. Thanks Jen.
• Philippines
5 Feb 11
Well, you can say that its true. In my case, high school years was one of the unforgetable memories that I have. It did not mean that I have met many friends and treasured it but it was the time when I learned of the meaning of what's real and not in friendship. My best friend, is a friend way back in my elementary days. And it seems that it was just yesterday that we met. I have though my good friends in highschool. We shared thoughts, we hanged out once in awhile but never I had told them on how I feel or when I have problems. Its actually, how you treasure them. I always treasure my good friends, sometimes Im being possessive with them, but if they reciprocate what you had for them then you'll be friends forever.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
10 Feb 11
I think back in high school, we were more naive. And that we were more in-tuned with our feelings. It was easier back then to pour your heart out, and for people to 'recipricate'. I think that's why we find friends that we 'treasure' back in high school. Thanks.
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
Yes, I still get in touch with my friends in high school. I get to know what's going on with their lives through Facebook, although I hardly go online there. We still do meet once in awhile when our schedules permit even though we are living in different cities. We still greet each other on our birthdays and attend to important occasions in each others lives. Indeed, some friendships last forever and I am happy that I belong to one.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
10 Feb 11
I think it makes it worthwhile to have friendships formed as early as high school. Then more or less, you would be able to track each other's lives. And be part of each other's triumphs or celebrations. I think we really should treasure these kinds of friendships. Thanks.
@Zer0Stats (1147)
• India
5 Feb 11
I don't really talk to most of my high school friends other than a few good ones.I have like 2 high school friends I still talk to,but they aren't even my main friends.I just talk to them online every now.Well I still have some good friends that I've known since I was in primary school and I've known my best friend since I was 6 years old.So I tend to disagree with that.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
10 Feb 11
On the contrary, I think it proves a point that I just realized. That the younger we met this friend, the greater the friendship is. That's why high school friends are closer to some people than college friends. This would also explain why your friend at 6 is closer to you than any other.
@jeyeem (55)
• Philippines
6 Feb 11
High school friends are indeed, in my opinion, the friends that a person will live with as a friend forever. We have this very small group in school that is bonded by a common interest in music. We did everything together; we ate lunch together, went up to our classrooms together, sang songs together, and a lot more together. Now that we grew up, we still wouldn't forget each other. We would text each other often, go to a mall to chill together, sing together...just like high school. Good ol' days.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
10 Feb 11
I think high school is when we start exploring our interest. And that's when we find people exactly like us. And this forms the bond that is the basis of friendships that lasts forever. And we always try to hold on to that. Thanks.
@moirai (2842)
• Philippines
5 Feb 11
For me, it's not so much the high school period that determines who becomes your 'forever friends' but the strength of the bond you form with your friends. So these can be friends from preschool to elementary, even to college and beyond, not just high school. I haven't seen that movie, but perhaps the reason why they said friends from high school tend to be friends forever, is because it just so happened that the characters' strongest bonds of friendship were formed during that time. I suppose that is true. After all, high school would be the part of life where one 'grows' a lot. But I think that happens throughout one's life, not just in high school. =)
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
10 Feb 11
...high school would be the part of life where one 'grows' a lot... I think this is true. I think high school is when we become more vulnerable and thus we can easily identify with other people that are just like us. And I think this is when this 'bond' is form between friend. And that just make the friendship seem to last forever.