Would you do this?
By ElicBxn
@ElicBxn (63235)
United States
February 11, 2011 10:59pm CST
My roommate's nephew's son is turning 3.
Without asking, they posted that they were having a birthday party at her folk's place. And they posted it on Facebook to all their friends.
Honestly, her mom really didn't have a problem with the party until she heard they were going to be having beer and other "adult" beverages.
They said, and I quote here copying directly from the page "Our big man is turning 3!! We'd love for all of you to join us. We're having it at J's (name omitted for privacy) grandparents house... Plenty to keep both kids and adults entertained :) Call with any questions..."
Now, they didn't say anything about food did they?
No where in the post is there anything about food, tho beer and adult drinks are mentioned after someone asked about margaritas.
Well, the roomie's mom isn't happy about the drinking and has decided that she isn't going to be bothered to make a big meal like she might if it were one of her parties. She also wasn't asked to make food, but since it is supposed to start at 12 (tho knowing this bunch 3 will probably about the time most will show up) still, food might be expected. So, she is going to fix some food.
Personally, I wouldn't do it. Maybe it would run these friends off if there isn't food, and maybe I could call the police with a tip about drinking and driving...
But, I'm not her, after all, I chose to not have kids for a lot of reasons, and these kids just reinforce why I didn't want them.
So, if you had a party that someone else decided to have at your place, and discovered they were doing something you don't like, would you still feed the bums?
I think you know my answer!
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@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
12 Feb 11
I think that I'd leave town and register that fact with the police department. Since the grandmother was not asked about having the party at her house, she could feign ignorance about he party when the police show up and ask the revelers what they were doing there.
@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
13 Feb 11
I'd bet that they think they are doing them a favor, because the grandmother doesn't drive any more and the grandfather is pretty much a jerk about driving too. It sounds good to me, I'm rather on the page of calling in an "tip" to the police about people drinking and then driving from this location...
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@TheCatLady (4691)
• Israel
13 Feb 11
One drink will put smaller people over the limit. I probably would be legally drunk at one drink. Also if you are not 21, as many parents of young kids are, aren't you aren't supposed to drink anything and drive.
I wish there was a law that you can't drive anyone under 21 if you had even one sip of booze. Really even a small amount will negatively affect your driving ability.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
13 Feb 11
Personally to me, this sounds just a little too odd. Having a party for a 3 yr. old and telling everyone on Facebook about it, before checking with your Mom, and then offering Drinks, etc. there as well? Since when is it Safe even to allow parents to have their young kids there when their parents might have had something to drink. If they want the Booze etc. they should do it another night when the kids are at home. This is unreal, and I would never go for it if I were her Mom for sure.
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@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
13 Feb 11
ahh, I never said these people were SMART - I'm going to guess that 90% of the drinkers also dropped out of high school
I kid you not, everyone should have implanted birth control until they can pass an exam on responsible parenting...
And the party is at the 3 year old's great grandparent's place.
Happily, I'm not related to ANY of these people! Unfortunately, the roommate is!
That'd be easy - out the driveway, turn right, go to end of street and turn left into parking lot!
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
12 Feb 11
uuummm, you mean they just decided to have it there where the person that lives there wasnt even asked? geesh. no id probably just hope it would be over soon and have my own small party with the kid later. 
nope id tell the person that imposed by thinking it up to have their own food. if any. 
@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
13 Feb 11
there might be some fear that the parents would "punish" them by not bring the great grands over if they said "no" but honestly, I wouldn't care.
In fact, I'm planning to have a party out there later this spring (Yes, I've already asked and received permission to do so) and I've told the roomie that I don't want this nephew or her brother (the kid's father) to be there. I am planning on doing it on a day when the brother would work anyway, but I've flat said that this nephew owes me too much money and he is NOT welcome and neither is his wife.)
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
13 Feb 11
I would be very angry if someone decided to have a party at my house without asking first. That would be bad enough, but then if they decided to do something I didn't approve of that would be worse. That would take a lot of nerve. If I were her, I wouldn't fix any food or do any planning or cleaning up. She is providing the house, someone else should do all the work. Actually she should tell them they can't have it at her house, but she might be afraid of not being invited if it is somewhere else.
@GardenGerty (157555)
• United States
12 Feb 11
I would do kid oriented foods for the occasion. Cupcakes and apple slices and chocolate milk and ice cream. If they do not like it they can leave. This is a party for the kid. Maybe a few of them will stay home.
@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
12 Feb 11
well in my opinion the main point is organizing all that without asking. I mean, if it's not your house, who are you to arrange an event there without even asking first? I definitely wouldn't do it, it's just wrong. About the beverages, I don't think it's such a big deal, but there are opinions of all kinds. About food, it's the nephew who should take care of that, not his aunt.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 Feb 11
I'd make it potluck. Make THEM bring their own food and drink but I'd also post signs all over the place saying, Thank you for not smoking or drinking.
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@GreenMoo (11834)
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12 Feb 11
I think if I discovered that someone had organised a party at my place without asking me I'd be furious! The not asking and just assuming aspect would actually annoy me more than anything else.
I guess the hostess now feels obliged to go ahead and allow it as it's supposedly for her grandson, but it really doesn't sounds as if he's going to be the centre of attention here!
Perhaps she could make her point by asking how many children she can expect and then provide a child's party tea based on that many kids.
I personally wouldn't feel inclined to provide adult orientated food, but it would have the advantage of soaking up some of that booze.
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