"Women prefer to marry Wealthy Men?"

@zandi458 (27951)
Malaysia
February 17, 2011 10:26am CST
Love is no longer the driving force for many women when it comes to choosing their soul-mates. Smart women are becoming more materialistic. They want happiness and security in life so they want to marry men with fat pockets. But there aren't many millionaires or billionaires around who are single. Those who are filthy rich have already been taken up and the only choice for these gold-diggers is to force themselves to be the second fiddle. How pathetic is that to end up messing around with someone's marriage. More is said from this link: http://story.malaysiasun.com/index.php/ct/9/cid/48cba686fe041718/id/745644/cs/1/ I always believe that women can work hard to reach their dreams and not be dependent on their spouses for the wealth they craved. Wealth is not everything in life. The love from a poor man's heart is worth much more than the glitters of this world.
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@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
17 Feb 11
Hi zands, " This is a fact universally acknowledged that a rich and handsome young man is in need of a wife"-No I have not said this . This was said by the prolific Victorian English female novelist Jane Austine had opened one of her novels with this sentence. Actually there is an implicit satire. This is not the young men but young lady who would be happy to get married with a rich young man. Exceptions are apart but this is true. Only a moneyed men can provide security to the woman. Love, looks, emotion, all goody goody things would not feed you. What would is money. In our culture when the initial talk of marriage goes off they (people from the woman side) would like to make an assessment if or not the money and wealth of the boy is up to the mark. And as this is the vogue girls automatically know that they should get attached to a wealthy person only. I do not like this idea
@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 11
I can't deny the fact that moneyed man can give comfort in life but would he be able to also give emotional comfort to the woman? It is a gold digger's nature to be glued to the man who can give her all the comfort in life. But this kind of attachment won't last long. Once the money is gone, she will also be gone.
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
18 Feb 11
In such cases where money is gone and the relation too is gone is too materialistic a view. And you are right that man can supply with everything to the lady but not emotional comfort which is more important than money.
@dreamnishu (1253)
• China
17 Feb 11
hello friend! i am totally agree with you.now a days women prefer a fat pockets man more than a lovely man.i do not why?sometimes woman do it for their security,society and for power.but i prefer always a perfect person who is great in character,mind and always do respect me and my family. that is it.you are right friend a poor man with big heart.
• India
17 Feb 11
what the hell women can do with a nice lovely man without money.. All they want is money for pleasant survival, not any thing else like good character, mind,heart,etc., In fact, everyone wishes to be rich.. so how can you be so mean to women in this regard. What do you say girls..?
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 11
Marriage is a gamble. Marrying a wealthy man is like striking the jackpot. Even if the marriage don't work, there is always a reason to smile as the woman won't go empty handed.
@KrauseHome (36674)
• United States
17 Feb 11
Amen to that. Wealth is surely not everything in a marriage. If two people become to where $$ is the only focus in their marriage than in reality they have lost what marriage and relationships should really be about. Personally hey, my husband and I struggle financially a lot of the times, but we learn to become closer and work thru them as well. I would rather have Love and a caring man than a rich millionaire snob anyday.
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 11
The fruits of labour that a couple work hard to earn is more meaningful than having to rely on someone else wealth.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
I've heard over the news that women here in my country would prefer a not so good looking but wealthy man over a good looking but poor man, that is according to the survey conducted by an individual survey giving body here in the Philippines. Sad as it may seem but I guess, women are very practical nowadays. THe measurement of love and respect seems to be founded on material things already. Gone are those days when love is the reason why we chose to be with a particular person. Now, it is just a thing of the past. Love has become a thing of commercialism where we can buy love just like buying a common commodity over the counter. Yes, women can be empowered without having to depend to their husbands but, if there is always an easy way to do it and attained it faster, then, by all means, any women will prefer to be practical.
@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 11
maybe women realized the need to have a better life than that they have gone through. I can't really blame them for wanting more in life than the conventional love that governs most marriages. When there is such opportunity that promises good life, women should not miss the boat.
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
Yes, women nowadays tend to choose their partner which is capable of giving security to its family. There is a thin line which separates gold-diggers from practical women. In my opinion, gold-diggers are focused on materialistic purposes. The drive of having expensive cars, jewelries, uncontrollable shopping and things that they exaggerate with. On the other hand, practical women are more focused on what would their family be in the future. They just want financial security for the sole purpose and that is their siblings. Ranging from food supplies to tuition fees. I cannot blame women who are practical, for there are men who are irresponsible and polygamous. I didn't say that women are not, but what will happen if a man leaves his wife and children, to be with his concubine? What if their sibling/s were too young enough to walk in this cruel world? What are the aftereffects of a divorce/annulment to their children? These are the things that a woman/mother have to go through each day her child grows. For those women who are taking advantage of a man's wealth, think again. Think about it. You can buy ALL the things you want in this world, but you can't buy respect. Respect from your spouse, respect from others and most importantly self-respect. Thank you. =)
@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 11
You said it so well in comparing the two criterias of women who are seeking comfort in life. I chose the practical side of woman in wanting to marry well to do man as they think of the future of the family and not being influenced by greed.
@cher913 (25865)
• Canada
17 Feb 11
i have to agree. money can only go so far. you have to have something in common to talk about while you are eating lol!
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 11
Compatibility is more important that what money can buy.
@dawnald (84071)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Feb 11
Bla, who wants to marry some arrogant, control freak rich guy anyway?
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 11
And a miser too!
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
especially in 3rd world countries, women nowadays are more practical. If a woman has been living in poverty since birth, and marrying a rich man is her only recourse for a better life, then she will grab that opportunity.
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 11
I noticed that too. Though I am from a third country, it has never crossed my mind to pick a wealthy man to be my husband knowing well I don't have the beauty that can qualify me to be an 'accessory' to a rich man.
@GardenGerty (112549)
• United States
17 Feb 11
If marrying for money is the goal, then I certainly have messed up, twice. Uhhhhhm. Maybe we should add that I am happy as well, not sure that that factors in at all. I have a poor man who really loves me, so I am in the best place ever.
@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 11
A poor man with a rich heart can make you a queen of his heart.
@saphrina (31738)
• South Africa
18 Feb 11
Hello sweetie. I won't read the link sorry. Try to work on the temper you know. I agree with what you say though. The love from a poor man's heart is worth much more than the glitters of the world. I don't want a rich husband or boyfriend. I love mine for what he is, not for what he have or can give me. That is definately not love at all. TATA.
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 11
Read...at least you won't blame me for being judgemental.
@saphrina (31738)
• South Africa
19 Feb 11
Oh i never judge people, but now i am making an exception. Let them get those rich men and see how they will be treated then. I have no sympathy with those kind. No love at all, but i keep forgetting, money is more important to most. It's freaking disgusting.
@kirtricks (652)
• India
18 Feb 11
who said . is it really. do women prefer to marry wealthy men or their loved ones. is it reality??
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 11
Maybe, that is what the survey concluded.
• India
19 Feb 11
too poor about them so we should not love women before actually knowing their real mind.
@soleya (1102)
• Latvia
17 Feb 11
The love from a poor man heart worth anything?! I want to disagree with you. Poor man is a man with confidence issues! If he can't provide for his family or even for himself it certainly affects his self esteem and results in major psychological issues. And if a girlfriend of such guy is earning more than him and is more successful it can result in him being abusive and even jealous. So, there is no good in dating and marrying poor guys, because those guys who have strong arms and brains and will to succeed in this life will do it, and those who are afraid to change something in life and is lazy to act is a loser, sorry! But man who can't make a living is not deserving to have a family or a girlfriend. It will just make everyone's life a misery.
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@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
17 Feb 11
Hi soleya, I know there are so many souls for whom money is just a means to survive. But the weight would be much higher When girls like t marry a rich guy. Actually the concept of self esteem and respect would come to stay and the husband who is just good for nothing and a spendthrift. That the husband manages a shelter at his in-law's house it is too self destroying.
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 11
Wealth is not the yardstick for a happy marriage life. Just look at how many wealthy couples landed in divorce courts and spend another few years of their life battling for their wealth. Where there is true love, the foundation of any marriage is stronger. Excess of wealth can sometimes be a curse than a blessing. A woman can always enrich herself by running her own successful business if she is not married to a rich husband.
@savypat (20245)
• United States
18 Feb 11
I remember my parents telling me, "you can fall in love with a rich man as easy as you can with a poor one." Well I was raised around rich men and never found one that appealed to me. So I married a poor one who loved me totally and while we have never been rich in money, we both worked and made a good life for us and our family.
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
21 Feb 11
I believe in fate. Our destiny is in God's hands and no matter how strong the desire of the heart to want a rich man, if one is not fated to marry a wealthy man, so be it. He might be poor in worldly materials but he is definitely rich in his heart.
@sid556 (30997)
• United States
18 Feb 11
Hi Zandi, I wouldn't want to marry just for the sake of money and what a man can do for me any more than I'd want a man to be with me for those reasons. I think in the end, i'd be just miserable. I agree that women should be independent and not be looking for men to take care of their needs.
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 11
Life is too short to live in misery. Marrying for wealth is losing the true meaning of love in a marriage. Wealth is but a temporary commodity that can create a lot of misery in life.
@sacmom (14250)
• United States
18 Feb 11
"The love from a poor man's heart is worth much more than the glitters of this world." I couldn't agree more. Marrying for money is just plain wrong. Not to mention what happens if the unthinkable happens and the man goes broke? Or he gets tired of his wife spending all the money? Then what? Time for a divorce? Wow. There's a real marriage for ya. Not! Talk about sad. It just goes to show, some people will do anything for money...
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 11
It cannot be denied that greediness is the root of all evil. What prompt a woman to seek for wealthy husband is the greediness that is perpetuating in her desire. But wealth is a fluctuating thing and once gone, their fantasy world also collapse.
@Xansus (950)
• Bulgaria
18 Feb 11
Well its their decision . I dont have money so if she is with me its not because of them :D
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 11
Tell her...'we can work together to build our wealth'. Honesty is the best policy. At the end of the day, you are a winner.
@webearn99 (1743)
• India
18 Feb 11
"Women prefer to marry Wealthy Men" that is correct. But so is "Men prefer to marry Wealthy Women". This has been there for some time now and will be there forever. The basic necessity is security, and people who don't want to work for it usually do this. And then there is greed too. There are other considerations too, Social status for example. While money is not everything, it, today is the major driving force in this world. So it is important. As for love, what we see today is a desire or an infatuation at work. Once this is done with its splitsville for the couple. I am old fashioned and jumped into marriage blindly. We both worked on being compatible and are happy, notwithstanding out very famous rows.
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 11
You said 'blindly' and so did I. Coming from a very conservative family, I have no chance to pick my choice. So the first who asked for my hand filled in the slot. It is better to be blind and ignorant than to be greedy. Greediness will eventually end in disaster as has proven many times in what has been coined a 'hit and run' kind of union. Love that is cultivated slowly proves to be working well than love that comes like a thunderbolt.
@thereza (316)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
women today are now practical. they are looking for their future life. They dont want to suffer being a poor, they just also assure that their kids wont be a victim of hunger. If I also had a chance to choose I also get the wealthy one.
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 11
I was naive when it was my time. I did not marry a man from a rich family. I can honestly tell you that it was tough but somehow I learned to be thrifty and created my own successful business to be able to send my two sons to further their studies. I stopped doing business only after they have graduated and landed on good jobs. I have no regrets whatsoever as my success was also because he supported me in kind. I always believe that God will help those who help themselves.
@EdnaReyes (2627)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
Blamed it to the commercialization of life. Life has been depicted good if laced with luxury and wealth. Young girls are lured into thinking that good life only comes with high living and money. his is the reasons why many young girls today would prefer to marry someone who has big money to spend on her. Family influence can also be a factor, the need to give good life to family forces a young girl to take a rich lover, notwithstanding reputation and morals. If only educators and church people could give information that good life can be achieved by good education and hard work, maybe there will be less gold-digger girls !
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 11
Maybe they just want to escape poverty but refuse to work hard to earn their worth. I agree fully with your views.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
For me yes it is trend because aside that the men is hard to deal better to have money more it is little happy than pour and no choice to be good.
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 11
Thanks for your views.