Being myself sometimes is painful and jokes shouldn't hurt.
By onlydia
@onlydia (2808)
United States
February 20, 2011 12:52am CST
Have you ever been talking with people and then they just start making fun of you and picking on you as your a easy target? Well, that is what happens to me alot and when I say something sometimes just dumb stuff fall's out of my mouth as by then I'm so mad and hurt. I just want to leave and never go back to my job. I have a learning disabilty but really even my own family does it. As they think it doesn't hurt. Well you know what it does and it hurts really bad. My friends that I used to have I stopped talking to for that reason. Family you can't do that to. But then they don't call me unless they need something anyway. Well, my Mom call's me but even she has done it. She did tell me she was sorry right away as she was just joking. That was because she seen the hurt look on my face. Jokes shouldn't hurt. But have a Blessed day. Thank you for listening.
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8 responses
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
20 Feb 11
Hi Onlydia,
Yes, It happens to me all the time. Know what helps? Learn to lighten up and laugh at yourself. I am about as spacey and ditzy as you can possibly get. I came to realize they really are picking on me because they are just kidding and they really do love me. They are not trying to hurt me. I don't often get hurt or angry. I usually just play along with it. I can't deny it that I'm ditzy and sometimes I have to think I'd laugh too if it weren't me. A while back, I put a pizza in the microwave. I was starving. When the buzzer finally went off, I went out to the kitchen anticipating lunch. Guess what? I forgot to put the pizza in the microwave. The list of stories is endless. I'm sure these people do love you and don't mean to offend you. Learn to laugh at yourself onlydia and it won't feel so bad at least most of the time.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
20 Feb 11
Hey onlydia,
I'm doing great and you? So we cook alike I see.
If it is coming from your boss I imagine it is probably isn't funny at all. He/she probably doesn't say it in a way that it's funny. There is a huge difference between humor and belittlement.
If it is coming from your boss I imagine it is probably isn't funny at all. He/she probably doesn't say it in a way that it's funny. There is a huge difference between humor and belittlement.1 person likes this
@onlydia (2808)
• United States
20 Feb 11
Pizza that is a ggod one. I made a meatloaf and set timer on stove. It went off I go to check it as it can't be done I have not smelled the good smells. Well, Stove is on meat loaf on counter in pan. So yes I'm ditzy as well. But at work your Boss's shouldn't do that as the one knows he mite of forgot as we are all getting older. But he made me cry one day. Now that I'm older it gets to me more. But I try to laugh it off. I sick of laughing at me. Other then that Sid How have you been?1 person likes this
@GardenGerty (157546)
• United States
21 Feb 11
I am so sorry this happens to you. A joke is only funny if everyone can laugh. If it causes pain or embarrassment then it is not a joke. You should feel safe inside your family. I think many of us say things that sound dumb, even without a learning disability. I had to learn to keep my mouth shut, as I would find myself going off in weird directions and never knowing just where I was coming from. I guess I want to say you are not alone. I bet you are a friendly and compassionate person, though. I do not know what to say that would make you feel better, other than you know you can alsways come here and talk.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
20 Feb 11
You need to come up with a good comeback...No...jokes shouldn't hurt and no one deserves to be picked on....I am so sorry that happens to you! Right off hand I can't think of anything for you to say but if I think of something I'll sure pass it along to you! Keep your chin up!
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@friendship4lyfe (520)
• Saint Lucia
20 Feb 11
I am sorry to hear your problem.Jokes should not hurt only when they are just that.As family we must learn that even when we say it,it hurts.Joking someone on a disability isnt funny and you are right to be mad but that also makes you an easier target for people with low self-esteem and who are simply wicked.One way to solve it is to avoid them and others like them.Choose people who will help boost your confidence and help make life better for you.
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
20 Feb 11
I stay away from all of them if I feel I mite end up yelling or better yet end up crying. As that is never a good thing and I like me. I mite forget I mite not be smart but I'm a good person. I help everyone that I know needs it. So yeah now I bring my book to work and read. Thank you for the advice.
@kaycharmedMD (381)
• Philippines
20 Feb 11
That's too bad. I feel for you. Like you, sometimes my friends and family mock me for my flaws. I became an easy target to them when I started gaining weight. Calling me a pig or a glutton or telling me I'm so big or I look like a cow. It hurts, really. I know how you feel. I feel bad too whenever they do that. I tried telling them (both my family and friends) that I get hurt when they do that but they tell me they dont really mean it and that they're just making fun of me. But then, they still do it, even though they know that I feel bad even though it's just a joke. But somehow, through time, Ive learned to just go with it. Accept the fact that my mere gain weight makes them laugh. It doesn't hurt so much now. And then I started watching my weight more so as not to be the subject of their ridicule anymore.
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
20 Feb 11
I know it is hard and when you come to terms with it they come back with something else. Telling them is like telling a rock. I'm sure you know that. My friend told me that I'm not fat that I'm plumb and he likes it as long it is me in there. And he pointed to my head. I used to be skinny as well, and that made no difference. If you want to talk about your weight we can. Come up with a buddy walk thing. Thank you.
@lexirose7350 (459)
• Philippines
21 Feb 11
People sometimes are insensitive to the feelings of others but others sometimes are too sensitive that they couldn't take comments or jokes as they are.But to each his own.If they see you as an easy target, better to shy away from them or be tough and show that they can' make fun of you... :)
@crystal11 (157)
• Malaysia
20 Feb 11
When that happens always remember one of Eleanor Roosevelt's famous quotes,"No one can make you feel inferior, without your consent". So lift your head high, cos you are special! God bless!
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