Should I accept a stranger's help when I travel?

China
February 24, 2011 8:20am CST
Hi,my friends! Welcome to my mylot!!! My hobby is travel.I love travelling some different places by myself. Properly speaking,I had no sense of direction.So I wanted to be sure of myself.I tried to travelling to Hangzhou the first time.(another city of China,nice city)That was also my first time to travel by train.I felt breathtaking when I got loss there.lol~~~But I got successful after three days travelling.During the days,I met many people,and they were all kind.That time was my best time after breaking up with my ex-boyfriend!=) I went to Nanjing(Another city of China)by myself the second time.I couldn't find somewhere to live that time.I got the help from a guy from Israel.I didn't want to accept his help at first,but I felt he may be a nice guy,so I accepted his help at last. How do u think about a stranger's help?Would u like to accept a stranger's help when u have troubles?Are u afraid that the stranger would be a bad person? Do u have the same stories?Share with us! Thanks your reading... Have a good time!!!
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24 responses
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
24 Feb 11
Hi friend, I think it is important to get help and also to help others. It is sometimes difficult to know the things when you are in a strange place so no other but to get the help from the others. I do get help from others without any hesitation and also I help others without any hesitation. Surely it is the way we live and it is the way the world grows. Have a nice day ahead.
• China
25 Feb 11
Hi,my friend, We can't image what will happen in a strange place.So I think we should be careful when we travel.Especially it's dangerous for a single girl travelling in a strange place. I think we should be more careful when travelling.U think? Thanks your reading and responsing. Have a good time!
• India
25 Feb 11
I think it can be dangerous for anyone but what else can we do when it is totally strange all around. I think it is not only girls but also for boys too, but still we should hope for best. It is important to have a good judgement of people and chose those who you think are going to help you really.
• China
25 Feb 11
Yeah,It's also dangerous for boys.But I think boys are stronger than girls.Sometimes they can deal with problems well. When I got loss,I would find my right ways on the map first,but if I really couldn't deal with something serious,I would ask others for help.I was lucky enough to meet so many kind people.So hope the best! Have u ever travelled by yourself?
@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
24 Feb 11
I have often depended on strangers to help me when I was traveling in China, in America, and in other places. I often would try to depend on myself if I could read the signs (English or Spanish to a point), but when I was in China, I couldn't read the signs. At some point in time, even your best friend was a stranger. If you try to make friends with people, life would be a lot better. If you are always afraid to talk to strangers, then you will be afraid of living. It is better to communicate with people and get to know them than to not do so. Most people are inherently good. Not to say they all are, but if you let the few who are bad prevent you from meeting the good ones, you do yourself a disservice. Hopefully all your travels are safe!
@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
3 Mar 11
There is nothing wrong with being careful. Just don't be paranoid. Make judgments on a case by case basis and make sure it feels right.
• China
3 Mar 11
Hi,my friend! U said right,not everone is bad.We should talk with others.But we still must be careful when get others' help!!! Have a good time!
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• China
5 Mar 11
Yeah,I believe myself,and believe my tuition more,lol~~~
@youless (112100)
• Guangzhou, China
25 Feb 11
It depends on. When I am outside, I always keep alert to avoid being cheated. If I have a travel, I also find many friendly and nice people on the way. I think sometimes I rely on my sense to judge whether I can get help from the strangers or not:) I love China
@Marmot (590)
• United States
25 Feb 11
Then you must have a good sense of distinguish good people and bad ones~~ haha But it is true that we can make friends while traveling, I even made friends when I was on the train to Yunnan~
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
For me not so that you are not lose your way to have fun in travel just ask only to the police or guard.
• China
5 Mar 11
Hi,my friend! Thanks your sharing.I also ask to the police and guard.I just asked the strangers when they were not there.lol~~~And I like asking the old women for help!
@Marmot (590)
• United States
25 Feb 11
Well, I traveled a lot when I was in college. I traveled Yunnan province for 20 days, Zhangjiajie and Guilin for 18 days, Shanxi province for 10 days, and Guizhou province for 7 days. All the traveling were all by myself. I think, get help from strangers is very important because you can't know everything about the local place, you always need help from the natives, such like directions, economic hotels, beautiful sightseeings, and local culture. But always be aware those who come to you. Most times, they want something from you. If you accept help from a stranger, make sure that you can get rid of him whenever you want. Especially you are a girl. There are bad guys out there, we have to be careful. And alway do not be shy for asking. I think the most useful people are those who are in the tour agency. You can ask them nearly everything about the tourism. And always buy a map when you get to the new city. It is very useful. In short, feel free to ask others and be aware when strangers come to you. But, the best way for girls traveling, is get some company~~
@Marmot (590)
• United States
5 Mar 11
I have already listed my traveling footprint above~ And all of them I traveled alone. I come from Beijing and I am now master in US.
• China
5 Mar 11
Hi,my friend! Thanks your advice. Did u often travel alone?And which province u come from?R u still in university? I agree with u.I never accept someone comes to me.lol~~~I always find someone looks nice.I would be more careful next time,coz I'm a girl!
• Philippines
24 Feb 11
I've got trust issues. I don't trust people I don't know. Even if I had to walk a bit farther I don't care. As long as I feel I'm safer to travel by foot than accept a strangers offer. Who knows? He could be a rapist or a psychopath. Can take the risk. I am just very cautious.
• China
2 Mar 11
Hi,my friend! A rapist or a psychopath?lol~~~We really would be careful about it.I wouldn't accept some strangers' offer,but I would ask someone for the way.Should I?
• Philippines
24 Feb 11
I mean I can't take the risk
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
24 Feb 11
I really love to travel to different countries. Sometimes I get chatting to a stranger and he or she becomes my friend. I was in Malaysia when I fell down an open drain and injured my leg. Two local people and a guy from New Zealand helped me back to the guest house. My leg was in a lot of pain. It was Chinese New Year coming up so nobody would be staying there in Mersing. I was given a pair of crutches by a Swedish guy. I was helped over to Tioman Island. My leg was swollen and very painful indeed. The bandage on my leg wouldn't come off easily so I went into the sea to get it off. A South African couple helped me back to Mersing when Chinese Year Year was over. I arranged a taxi to the border of Malaysia and Singapore. It was going to be four times what the bus fare would have been. I found a Dutch couple that wanted to come and they paid me the bus fare. This let me be able to afford four hour taxi ride. When I arrived at the border I took another taxi and some foreign backpackers carried my luggage up to the backpackers hostel I was going to stay at. So all these strangers helped me when I was most in need of assistance. The airline gave me a seat with enough leg room to keep my leg straight. That was the end of my trip around the world.
• China
2 Mar 11
Hi,my friend! It's really exciting when I read your response.U were lucky enough to get many strangers' help.Were u travel there alone at that time?And how about yout leg later,everthing is OK?
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
24 Feb 11
This would all have to depend on the kind of help that a stranger was offering to me. Care and caution should be taken when traveling. There are some people who are just kind and helpful. then there are those who are looking for a victim. I am typically a trusting person, but still it is wise to be aware. i have taken help from a stranger in the past. i have been helped and i have been burned.
• China
2 Mar 11
Hi,my friend! How can I understand ur last sentence,u got burned,just tell me it's an example,lol~~~
• China
24 Feb 11
First of all hangzhou is very nice city. I also do afrad\id to take help from stringer. But i do take help from strainer.Last year i went to yiwu near hangzhou and we were 4 friends together but we didn't know much about the city so we took help from one Chinese lady whom we met in train. We were in same taxi and scared a little but she was nice and help us.So you can take help from stranger and i think you should. As you should trust the people as all are not bad.
• China
2 Mar 11
Hi,my friend! I love Yiwu.That's one of my dream places.That is really nice,isn't it?lol~~~And where r u from?I think u would get her help coz u went there with many friends.If I travelled alone,I would be careful...
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
24 Feb 11
We should always be careful about accepting help from strangers. It is how you avoid placing yourself in unnecessary danger. But of course, there are times when you cannot avoid it. Best advice i can give is to listen to your gut. That inner warning bell. You'll see your a better judge of character than you realize. Always be careful.
• China
2 Mar 11
Hi,my friend! Sorry for the reply and thanks your caring! I believe my judge,lol~~~I think I'm careful and cautious enoough,but I will be more careful next time.Coz there r really many bad people in the world!
@tkonlinevn (6271)
• Vietnam
25 Feb 11
Do you believe in life and human? If you say "yes", you'll know what you want to do with the helps from a strange persons. I think that stranger's helps are not problems but we should be careful a bit with them. When we're in a strange country. And we don't have a friend here. We need helps from strange persons.
• China
3 Mar 11
Hi,my friend! I would say I believe that a little.So I would accept different people's different help,understand?
@koolit83 (41)
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
accepting assistance from someone you don't know might be very risky especially if you are trabelling to another country. just always be careful so that you will not find yourself in trouble though.
• China
2 Mar 11
Hi,my friend! Thanks your caring.I would be more careful next time...
@kh_rabbe (195)
• Bangladesh
25 Feb 11
yes it's ok for me. As if we fall in any problem and there's no way than we should take help. I myself always help people about this matter. Often many people ask me where's this place or something else. But i help them. Couple years ago i help a old women to find his home. She believe me to help her so for me i will try to believe someone else when i need help.
• China
3 Mar 11
Hi,my friend! I think we should learn how to believe others first,so others would help us later,lol~~~That's my understanding!
• India
25 Feb 11
Hi friend, Its not recommended to take strangers hell while travelling instead carry a gadget such as i-pad
• China
3 Mar 11
Hi,my friend! Yes,we should take that to travel as possible as we can.
@julise (494)
• Indonesia
3 Mar 11
hey, last year i'm in china! in guangzhou. and i barely speak chinese. i spend 10 months there to learn chinese. anyway, from my experience there, its ok to accept stranger's help. but dont put too much trust. asking direction or places to go is fine. are you chinese or foreigner there? if you can speak their language, then you'll be fine^^
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
24 Feb 11
I think it's okay cause where you went is also in China so more or less you know the language, even if you are not from that province then more or less the laws are the same. It also depends on what kind of help you ask them ( you did not mention), just see to it that is not misinterpreted. It's not the same if you are travelling in another country especially if it's a poor third world one, might even be dangerous sometimes.
• China
3 Mar 11
Hi,my friend! It's really different when we r in different country.Sorry for the misinterpreted.Would u accept the offer from a stranger?About a meal or hotel.
@remo86 (252)
• Egypt
1 Mar 11
For me i like to ask people and i don't feel shy ever from doing that..even i like to offer help for any person inn street if can ...But i hate when you are asking for certain street and people give you wrong direction because they are shy from saying i don't know
@sharic19 (67)
• United States
26 Feb 11
You could be but cautious because we can't easily trust strangers.
• China
10 Mar 11
A typical Chinese question! Chinese people are afraid of stranger's help and most of us don't offer help to strangers(I think it's very bad, I feel sad about this). For me, if a stranger offer me help voluntarily without my asking, I would say "NO, thank you". But, if a stranger come to me for help and I think he/she wouldn't hurt me, I would happy to give a hand.
@rojababu (32)
• India
10 Mar 11
we cant say every stranger is a bad person , so getting help from the strangers we should b in careful,sometimes by facial expressions we can say a stranger is a good or bad and in sometimes we may fail, anyway when travelling to new places its better to have another person with us , if we r alone we cant enjoy much and in ur case u r a girl so its better to have another person with you when travelling to new places . when we r alone there is a possibility to get cheated by the strangers in new places , if we r 2 or more there is less chance to get cheated by the strangers. what u say ??????????