Am I abnormal?
By vycess
@vycess (1588)
Saudi Arabia
March 1, 2011 9:59pm CST
Actually, For the past days... I feel pressured... My mom is asking me if I already have a boyfriend or any prospect boyfriend. I haven't have a relationship before and I'm turning 22 soon. It's unusual right? It just hard for me to trust other people or guys saying they love me, or something that I don't really believe if their sincere... I always ask for a reason. Why is that? It's been the reason why can't I be open to other people, it's hard to trust. But I'm still hoping to find the one but how? Sometimes I think of myself that I'm not normal, LOL...
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19 responses
@laniekins (4579)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
I see myself on you when I was 22 years old. I am late bloomer, I had my first relationship at the age of 23. I am not that socializing that's why I only know few people. I am not picky but I am searching for someone but I don't know what is it. Soon you will meet the man that you will like regardless of his flaw. It's just the right man, you just wait and love will come in unexpected places.
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@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
I had my 1st bf when I was 17. I agrred to become his girlfriend just so I could be 'normal' He was 5 years older than me and wanted some things from me that I wasnt prepared to give at that time so we split up.
It was a bit fun having a teen age relationship but come to think of it, it was just a waste of time and phone credits 
Better enter a relationship if you really want to and you are ready, not because you are pressured by anyone.
Better enter a relationship if you really want to and you are ready, not because you are pressured by anyone.1 person likes this
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
2 Mar 11
22 is still very young sweetie, take your time and allow time and love to come to you. Do not force it nor allow others to influence you. You will know when the right one is the for you.
Venture out to a few new interests and make more friends and perhaps Mr. Right will be among one.
Best of luck and enjoy yourself while you can. 
@blosiewinkz_16 (116)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
I'm older than you and I have the same concern with you but what's different is I don't feel any pressure at all. It's my friends who are pressured for me and they tend to put all things in a haste. I guess, it's not that we're not normal. It's just that we can't just dole out our trust right away to anyone who comes in our way. We weigh things first before we say our final decision.
I may like them too but I just can't give my heart right away. It's so hard to trust others nowadays but try to open yourself to the possibilities in life. Just give it a try on the one you're comfortable to be with the most. Someone you can be just yourself and you enjoy to be with. I guess, we can sense who are the people that are sincere and those who are 50-50.
@vycess (1588)
• Saudi Arabia
2 Mar 11
you don't feel pressured at all? wow... I have a friend and sometimes I feel something special to Him but I'm afraid that He doesn't... you know? His close to me, and He knows that I haven't have a relationship before. I don't want Him to know that I kinda like Him, kinda afraid though. I'm insisting in my mind that we should just stay friends... and we're just friends. Why is it the one you like doesn't like you and the one who likes you, you don't like at all???....
@blosiewinkz_16 (116)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
Yes, I feel no pressure at all. =)
I have a new acquainted friend from a common friend. We have a lot in common and I'm quite comfortable with his company. He seems to kinda like me too but he didn't mention such a thing to me. It was just our common friend who revealed that he likes me. Now, we're just enjoying each others company and life's adventure. I guess, there's nothing to hurry about.
In your case, why not open up how you feel or collect some clues whether he feels the same way as you do. It's normal that we may fear the outcome but it would also be relieving to finally voice out what you actually feel. Whatever the result is, just accept it. We have nothing to do with it but it's not yet too late. He might even feel the same thing for you.
God Bless.
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@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
2 Mar 11
Hi,
Actually you are still young and if you really find
yourself not ready for a relationship,then don't force yourself
for it. But let's the nature take course. When the
fate is yours,no matter how far you go,it will be yours.
I always believe in fate and what happened in my life is actually
a fate.
You feel hard to trust someone ,that is because you have not found the
person that you really can trust. But once the time has come, then you
won't have such thinking.
Be more socialize and have some outing with friends,at least, you will have
more friends to mingle around and indirectly you will feel more open-minded.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
6 Mar 11
I wouldn't call it abnormal.
Picky maybe, wise for knowing what type of person you want, but definitely not 'abnormal'.
You might think that it is you that have a problem for not finding the right person, but you shouldn't be discouraged. He is out there.
@larrychen (165)
•
2 Mar 11
Maybe because you haven't met the right person. Have you ever felt that you had some love feeling on some boy? Love is something amazing and we can learn a lot from a relationship whether it turns out to be right or not in the end. So, please don't be afraid to love or to accept love. What you need is more experience about love. I always think that it's a lucky thing to find someone you love. Once you get such a feeling, make a go forward.
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
2 Mar 11
Listen, you're normal. There is nothing wrong with you. Not all guys lie, there are still good guys out there. You probably are not ready to get involved, everyone has to do things in their own time. I relate to the not trusting people thing. I happen to be in a good relationship now but it took me years to get here. You just stop worrying about if you're normal or not and just live life right now, you are young. Take it slow and don't grow up to fast.
@rhadzie (68)
• Philippines
3 Mar 11
i think you don't have a problem or anything about that. it's just that it's not yet time. you don't have to rush things if it isn't time for it yet. your special someone will come on its PERFECT TIME. maybe not now, but it could probably come sooner or later. just enjoy the things you are doing and continue your usual life. who knows when you will meet him, right?
@Matpunk85 (1066)
• Italy
2 Mar 11
I think you are normal. I don't see any problem from what you have written.
I know that it's difficult to be opened, I was very close too but growing up I became more opened to the others. Don't be sad, I'm sure you'll find the right person with to stay in good feeling :) and then you are still young!
@daveisdavid (878)
• Singapore
2 Mar 11
You're normal. It's just that you don't trust people easily. Try open up to others and some day you will fall in love.
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
2 Mar 11
I didn't have my first real boyfriend until I was 20. Everything will happen in it's own time. In the mean time this is a perfect time for you to really enjoy getting to know who you are and what you want. Enjoy being young and having the rest of your life ahead of you. It will happen when it's supposed to happen.
@sreenathmt (2)
• India
2 Mar 11
believe in you.that's the only way.those who think's as abnormal are really normal.dont's worry friend..just say all is well.
